changing for a girl?

this is all somewhat hypothetical, but girls, how would you feel if your boyfriend told you he 'changed'/acted differently in order to get with you? would you be flattered that he went to such lengths in order to appeal to you, or would you be disappointed that you weren't getting the 'real' him?

Reply 1

bedbug

I'd be confused at why he felt he had to change - wouldn't I like the 'real him'?

Reply 2

Hana_87

yeah, why woukd he wanna change?

Reply 3

wendizzle22

I'd be disappointed that he thought he couldn't show himself the real side of him. I'd also wonder what he was hiding and why he thought he had to put on some facade.
Honesty and being open with eachother is the most important part of a relationship to me, and this is a form of dishonesty so I would be quite wary.

Reply 4

bluedreamer

I’d definitely be flattered that he’d do anything to make me happy - or so I’d like to think :p:

cause the thought is definitely a turn on :biggrin:

But I would also be deeply disappointed.

Why would he do this to himself? What he’s basically saying is, I’m not cool/sexy/funny whatever enough, hence I’ll change myself to meet the standards of someone else. To live up to someone elses expectations.

He’d come across as someone with low self esteem and very malleable. That’s not impressive. Anyway, if you’re going to change, it should only be for you.

Reply 5

phantom

it depends how much he had changed, if the 'real' him was completely different from the him that i knew i would be disapointed and loose respect for him. not only because he felt he had to change but because he was afraid of what i would think of the 'real' him. if he changed a little like shaved more often or something then i wouldnt mind and yes i would be flattered to some extent