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I have two sisters and they're both much slimmer than me, and I feel so fat and ugly in comparison. I always think ''I'm going to get slim too" and eat healthily for a while, then I see my sisters (on of which is younger than me) and it's like I totally give up hope of ever being slim so I go and binge on unhealthy food. My younger sister used to be quite fat but now shes really slim and pretty. My calves are huge too, but its mostly muscle on my calves not fat, but I don't know how to get the muscle to go away without just completely starving myself, which I just can't do cos we always have to have dinner together as a family so I have to eat it.
So I need help
I need advice on how to stop myself just giving up hope when I see someone thinner than me, and on how to get rid of my huge ugly calves, cos in the summer I'm going on holiday somewhere warm, and at the moment I can't even wear a skirt cos I'm so self conscious, and it'll be bikini weather there. Help
So I need help
I need advice on how to stop myself just giving up hope when I see someone thinner than me, and on how to get rid of my huge ugly calves, cos in the summer I'm going on holiday somewhere warm, and at the moment I can't even wear a skirt cos I'm so self conscious, and it'll be bikini weather there. Help 
Anonymous
I have two sisters and they're both much slimmer than me, and I feel so fat and ugly in comparison. I always think ''I'm going to get slim too" and eat healthily for a while, then I see my sisters (on of which is younger than me) and it's like I totally give up hope of ever being slim so I go and binge on unhealthy food. My younger sister used to be quite fat but now shes really slim and pretty. My calves are huge too, but its mostly muscle on my calves not fat, but I don't know how to get the muscle to go away without just completely starving myself, which I just can't do cos we always have to have dinner together as a family so I have to eat it.
So I need help I need advice on how to stop myself just giving up hope when I see someone thinner than me, and on how to get rid of my huge ugly calves, cos in the summer I'm going on holiday somewhere warm, and at the moment I can't even wear a skirt cos I'm so self conscious, and it'll be bikini weather there. Help
So I need help
I need advice on how to stop myself just giving up hope when I see someone thinner than me, and on how to get rid of my huge ugly calves, cos in the summer I'm going on holiday somewhere warm, and at the moment I can't even wear a skirt cos I'm so self conscious, and it'll be bikini weather there. Help I'm afraid no one can help you to not give up hope, if you want to do something you have to do it yourself. You're the only person who can stop yourself eating unhealthy food and make yourself go out and exercise. If you really want to be thin you'll have to get some discipline and do it whether your sisters are thinner than you or not. Either that or you need to stop comparing yourself to them and accept how you look.
Don't starve yourself (even though you can't). That will just lead to all sorts of problems. You just sound really self conscious. May be talk to someone?
HipsAndHearts - Great advice! I agree that you should always have someone to be able to talk about things with.
Anon - I used to be like you - thought, things will never change, so I won't bother. Was like that for years. Even when I did try, it didn't work. But the fact is, if I'm honest, I didn't try hard enough, I was enjoying eating crap too much, and couldn't really be bother to put a lot of effort into excerise. However, now I've stopped eating and drinking crap, cut down on the amount of food i eat full stop (so thats mean now eating less food, but it's all way more healthy), I've joined the uni gym, started walking to more places and go for about a 30-50 walk everyday, and I am even going to the gym every morning during the holidays. I haven't been doing this long, but I'm really seeing some great results. As of today, I've lost 1 stone!!!!!
You'll have to make some radical changes to your lifestyle, like I did. I was so unhappy, didn't think I'd be able to do it, but I did it gradually, and in a time in my life when quite a few things were changing too. I didn't think I'd like this new me, but, by god, it's only been two months, and I would never go back to how unhealthy I was before. I feel so much better now, seeing the results (but still plety further to go) and just knowing that I'm doing something about the one thing I really hated about myself. You just need to find the courage inside yourself to step up and meet the challange. It took me many years to face the problem... but at least I'm doing something about it now. For your own sake, do something about it now. (How old are you by the way?)
It will take effort, but I really enjoy doing it now, espically when I see the results.
You have it in you... so go for it!!
Anon - I used to be like you - thought, things will never change, so I won't bother. Was like that for years. Even when I did try, it didn't work. But the fact is, if I'm honest, I didn't try hard enough, I was enjoying eating crap too much, and couldn't really be bother to put a lot of effort into excerise. However, now I've stopped eating and drinking crap, cut down on the amount of food i eat full stop (so thats mean now eating less food, but it's all way more healthy), I've joined the uni gym, started walking to more places and go for about a 30-50 walk everyday, and I am even going to the gym every morning during the holidays. I haven't been doing this long, but I'm really seeing some great results. As of today, I've lost 1 stone!!!!!
You'll have to make some radical changes to your lifestyle, like I did. I was so unhappy, didn't think I'd be able to do it, but I did it gradually, and in a time in my life when quite a few things were changing too. I didn't think I'd like this new me, but, by god, it's only been two months, and I would never go back to how unhealthy I was before. I feel so much better now, seeing the results (but still plety further to go) and just knowing that I'm doing something about the one thing I really hated about myself. You just need to find the courage inside yourself to step up and meet the challange. It took me many years to face the problem... but at least I'm doing something about it now. For your own sake, do something about it now. (How old are you by the way?)
It will take effort, but I really enjoy doing it now, espically when I see the results.
You have it in you... so go for it!!
Anonymous
I have two sisters and they're both much slimmer than me, and I feel so fat and ugly in comparison. I always think ''I'm going to get slim too" and eat healthily for a while, then I see my sisters (on of which is younger than me) and it's like I totally give up hope of ever being slim so I go and binge on unhealthy food. My younger sister used to be quite fat but now shes really slim and pretty. My calves are huge too, but its mostly muscle on my calves not fat, but I don't know how to get the muscle to go away without just completely starving myself, which I just can't do cos we always have to have dinner together as a family so I have to eat it.
So I need help I need advice on how to stop myself just giving up hope when I see someone thinner than me, and on how to get rid of my huge ugly calves, cos in the summer I'm going on holiday somewhere warm, and at the moment I can't even wear a skirt cos I'm so self conscious, and it'll be bikini weather there. Help
So I need help
I need advice on how to stop myself just giving up hope when I see someone thinner than me, and on how to get rid of my huge ugly calves, cos in the summer I'm going on holiday somewhere warm, and at the moment I can't even wear a skirt cos I'm so self conscious, and it'll be bikini weather there. Help Erm lets just say that I'm a bit on the chubby side, but I don't give a damn. You should be happy with the way you look and if people try to put you down just ignore them. i think that people who are too skinny look ill and pale. If you want to lose a bit of weight do it slowly. Someone I know lost a stone in 2 months just by exercising and eating sensibly. Don't starve yourself because your stomach will grow larger because it will swell. When your body doesn't get food it goes into "starvation mode" which means that your metabolism slows way down, therefore you lose weight more slowly. If you were to stop eating you will die, it is much better to be alive on earth than dead so quit complaining and stop worrying about the way you look and just be happy!
Right, you need a mix of healthy exercise, and a balanced diet.
Healthy exercise is about 30 minutes, 5 times a week.
A balanced diet, to lose weight, is between 1,200-1,500 kcal a day, eating a mix of carbs, protein, fats, vegetables.
Eat about 5 times a day, eating between 250-300 kcal. That'll keep your metabolism going, and blood sugar up.
Aim to lose between 1-2lb/1kg a week, thats a reasonable healthy amount. Work out a goal weight, or a goal aim, and keep to it. When you get to that weight, don't aim any lower. That is your healthy weight.
It may be good to speak to a doctor as well, just to get a basic healthy outline.
There is a link [here] to some healthy weight loss tips.
Take care, and if you need anything, please feel free to ask.
Jo xxx
Healthy exercise is about 30 minutes, 5 times a week.
A balanced diet, to lose weight, is between 1,200-1,500 kcal a day, eating a mix of carbs, protein, fats, vegetables.
Eat about 5 times a day, eating between 250-300 kcal. That'll keep your metabolism going, and blood sugar up.
Aim to lose between 1-2lb/1kg a week, thats a reasonable healthy amount. Work out a goal weight, or a goal aim, and keep to it. When you get to that weight, don't aim any lower. That is your healthy weight.
It may be good to speak to a doctor as well, just to get a basic healthy outline.
There is a link [here] to some healthy weight loss tips.
Take care, and if you need anything, please feel free to ask.
Jo xxx
[QUOTE="Chi3f"]
Not quite, the right idea. Your stomach itself will grow smaller. But it'll fill and swell - if you look at photos of some of the poorer children in Africa, their stomaches are actually bloated, becayse they haven't eaten a healthy amount in so long.
Dr_Spybot
Don't starve yourself because your stomach will grow larger because it will swell/QUOTE]
you sure thats 100% true?
you sure thats 100% true?
Not quite, the right idea. Your stomach itself will grow smaller. But it'll fill and swell - if you look at photos of some of the poorer children in Africa, their stomaches are actually bloated, becayse they haven't eaten a healthy amount in so long.
buy a book on pilates or yoga... that might help, then set yourself a routine!
it means its stuff you can do in your room with the tele on... and you can start toning up! if you manage to keep a good routine going you should tone up in no time!
but dont go starving yourself... thats just silly talk!
and i wouldnt advise going on a diet, as itll just make you feel bad if you break it, just cut out/down on some of the main junk foods you like!
it means its stuff you can do in your room with the tele on... and you can start toning up! if you manage to keep a good routine going you should tone up in no time!
but dont go starving yourself... thats just silly talk!
and i wouldnt advise going on a diet, as itll just make you feel bad if you break it, just cut out/down on some of the main junk foods you like!
And for the record, don't starve yourself. You get a lot more than just losing weight. Your hair starts to fall out, you are physically and emotionally exhausted, you bruise at the slightest thing, nails get all brittle, you realise you lose control, not to mention the damage it does to your body - your metabolism completly crashes as well.
Try the "GI diet". Its not so much a diet as it is healthy eating. xxx
Try the "GI diet". Its not so much a diet as it is healthy eating. xxx
[QUOTE="Simulatio"]
This isn't just your stomach swelling up because you're hungry- its odeoma (sp?) tissue fluid not draining back into your lymph system because of protein deficiency in your blood. Think you have to be severely protein deficient for a long time for this to happen.
Chi3f
Not quite, the right idea. Your stomach itself will grow smaller. But it'll fill and swell - if you look at photos of some of the poorer children in Africa, their stomaches are actually bloated, becayse they haven't eaten a healthy amount in so long.
Not quite, the right idea. Your stomach itself will grow smaller. But it'll fill and swell - if you look at photos of some of the poorer children in Africa, their stomaches are actually bloated, becayse they haven't eaten a healthy amount in so long.
This isn't just your stomach swelling up because you're hungry- its odeoma (sp?) tissue fluid not draining back into your lymph system because of protein deficiency in your blood. Think you have to be severely protein deficient for a long time for this to happen.
Please, please dont starve yourself. It is not a healthy way to do it. The advice from Simulatio is very good. I'm not the smallest of persons myself, a couple of my friends are size 6, and im not. In fact, Im not even near a 12 or a 14. More like an 18. If you really want to kick-start your weight loss, the SlimFast diet is good, but dont stick to it for too long, after about two weeks, move onto something like Weight Watchers. A healthy diet is one where you excercise and eat all the right things, dont starve yourself. As it does lead to some very nasty results. Trust me, I lost weight doing the SlimFast challenge, but then piled it all back on after my summer holiday.
If you do decide to lose weight, for goodness sake do it properly.
and for the record, Chi3f, I think that comment you made,
'do some excercise if your fat'
Its not all that easy. If you're concious about what other people think about you, then its not easy to let go of the image they have of you and don joggers and a teeshirt to go for a run. Or join the gym. because you're afraid they will laugh at you, and talk about you behind your back. I know because I've felt the mocking, been through it all before. It can really knock your confidence.
I'm aware this hasnt all been constructive, but I hope I got my point across.
If you do decide to lose weight, for goodness sake do it properly.
and for the record, Chi3f, I think that comment you made,
'do some excercise if your fat'
Its not all that easy. If you're concious about what other people think about you, then its not easy to let go of the image they have of you and don joggers and a teeshirt to go for a run. Or join the gym. because you're afraid they will laugh at you, and talk about you behind your back. I know because I've felt the mocking, been through it all before. It can really knock your confidence.
I'm aware this hasnt all been constructive, but I hope I got my point across.
Thanks for all the helpful replies - especially anon. user 2, your post was very supportive and inspiring 
I know exactly what you mean about not trying hard enough and enjoying junk food too much. Do you not enjoy it now, or do you just have more self control?
I am actually getting a new bike soon so then I will be able to get more exercise, which is good though I worry that it might make my calves bigger. But all the cyclists I know are really 'skinny' so maybe not?
I will gradually cut out the crap from my diet too. Will be hard but worth it hopefully. How long do you reckon it's gonna take to see some results if I fully cut out the junk I'm eating now and excercise for an hour say three times a week? Thanks again for all the advice.
I know exactly what you mean about not trying hard enough and enjoying junk food too much. Do you not enjoy it now, or do you just have more self control? I am actually getting a new bike soon so then I will be able to get more exercise, which is good though I worry that it might make my calves bigger. But all the cyclists I know are really 'skinny' so maybe not?
I will gradually cut out the crap from my diet too. Will be hard but worth it hopefully. How long do you reckon it's gonna take to see some results if I fully cut out the junk I'm eating now and excercise for an hour say three times a week? Thanks again for all the advice.
Anonymous
My calves are huge too, but its mostly muscle on my calves not fat, but I don't know how to get the muscle to go away without just completely starving myself
Muscle is good. I mean, sure, female bodybuilders aren't exactly pretty... but there's a world of difference between having big legs because of fat and having big legs because of muscle. Don't try to lose it.
Message to all women: thin is not beautiful...
Anonymous
Thanks for all the helpful replies - especially anon. user 2, your post was very supportive and inspiring
Anon 1 - contact me at:
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Sorry - I should say I am anon2, just was using someone else's login before
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