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Why do girls want to be slim?
They are constantly told that a lot of guys like curvy, if they want to be slim to feel better about themselves then how does it make you feel better?
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Reply 1
Really slim girls aren't good 
. MORE CUSION FOR THE PUSHIN BABY 
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i think it is a control thing. it makes girls feel like they are able to have control over themselves by controlling their weight, food intake etc. it really doesn't matter what guys think, i reckon girls use that as an excuse to cover up/deny to temselves the fact that they are actually insecure and lack self confidence. if you look at all of the popular celebs and successful ones they are mostly thin.
it is also good at preoccupying the mind; if you have a diet to think of then you can distract yourself from exam stress etc. also, it gives you a project to work on. also, sometimes if you look around you it feels as if everyone else is gorgeous and slim and you are just not so that it another reason.
i hope that explained okay
xxx
it is also good at preoccupying the mind; if you have a diet to think of then you can distract yourself from exam stress etc. also, it gives you a project to work on. also, sometimes if you look around you it feels as if everyone else is gorgeous and slim and you are just not so that it another reason.
i hope that explained okay
xxx
Personally, inmy opinion (I'm a girl, by the way)
I am curvy. I have a big chest and a small waist, in comparison. I'm not "fat" as such, just curvy.
But trying to find clothes to fit curvy girls - near impossible. Its SO hard. If they fit my chest, they're way too big on my stomach, and vice versa.
I WISH that I could find clothes that fit me.
That is part of the reason I HATE my figure so much, just because trying to find pretty, suiting clothes is so hard. I always feel either like I'm flashing all, or I'm wearing a bag.
Just my two cents.
I am curvy. I have a big chest and a small waist, in comparison. I'm not "fat" as such, just curvy.
But trying to find clothes to fit curvy girls - near impossible. Its SO hard. If they fit my chest, they're way too big on my stomach, and vice versa.
I WISH that I could find clothes that fit me.
That is part of the reason I HATE my figure so much, just because trying to find pretty, suiting clothes is so hard. I always feel either like I'm flashing all, or I'm wearing a bag.
Just my two cents.
Reply 5
I think the media has a large part to play. Tiny women are constantly shown in fashion magazines and magazines which are aimed towards women. This then makes, I think, some women and girls think tht you HAVE to be thin to be successful, etc.
I'm guilty to the above. I lost a lot of weight due to the media portraying thin as being the 'way to go'.
I'm guilty to the above. I lost a lot of weight due to the media portraying thin as being the 'way to go'.
Reply 6
yeah I agree.. finding something nice without looking too tarty is soo hard. the majority of the stuff on sale is for size 10 and 8. how fare is that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply 7
I'm posting this as anon, just in case.
At my school, the 'fat' girls are mocked behind their backs. Boys laugh at them, and girls make comments about them when they eat. Even if you're not overweight, you hear things about someone's 'kebab belly' or what she's wearing. Any time someone puts on weight you hear about it. Its not bullying and it isn't even mean, its as if its acceptable to make these comments. I do it, too, because its like I've been trained to.
Nobody makes fun of slim, toned people. I would hate to be mocked behind my back and I like it when people say, 'oh I want your waist' or 'you're so tall and slim'. It feeds the ego, I'm ashamed to say. Because slimness is perceived to be beautiful by the people around me, its what I want to be. Also - you can't buy above a size 14 (sometimes 16) in most of the shops I go to. When a 14/16 is the biggest size it makes that 'large' size unacceptable so you want to be skinnier. The first time I wore a size 8 I was ecstatic and I get a kick from being a 'small'.
To be honest, for me its less about what men think (thought that matters to a degree). Its more about what women think, and how they react because they have the same idea of what is attractive bodywise.
At my school, the 'fat' girls are mocked behind their backs. Boys laugh at them, and girls make comments about them when they eat. Even if you're not overweight, you hear things about someone's 'kebab belly' or what she's wearing. Any time someone puts on weight you hear about it. Its not bullying and it isn't even mean, its as if its acceptable to make these comments. I do it, too, because its like I've been trained to.
Nobody makes fun of slim, toned people. I would hate to be mocked behind my back and I like it when people say, 'oh I want your waist' or 'you're so tall and slim'. It feeds the ego, I'm ashamed to say. Because slimness is perceived to be beautiful by the people around me, its what I want to be. Also - you can't buy above a size 14 (sometimes 16) in most of the shops I go to. When a 14/16 is the biggest size it makes that 'large' size unacceptable so you want to be skinnier. The first time I wore a size 8 I was ecstatic and I get a kick from being a 'small'.
To be honest, for me its less about what men think (thought that matters to a degree). Its more about what women think, and how they react because they have the same idea of what is attractive bodywise.
The media do have a role to play, but it's just a vanity thing.
You tell yourself:
- real friends don't care about how slim you are
- boys who truly like you don't care about how slim you are
- none of your relatives care about it
- your teachers sure aren't gonna judge you - and who even cares if they do?
- so why do I want to be slim?
I don't know if I speak for girls in general, but I've asked myself these questions before, and I've realised that I want to be slim for me. Because it's nice to know that you look nicer than you could look, because you look nicer than the person sitting next to you.
I had this period where I sat down, looked at my belly, and just felt sick. It was like "why am I like this? I hate this". I think it is a lot to do with your own ideals, not anyone else's. (it's always nice to be complimented though.)
And I don't mean "starve-yourself-skinny", I mean toned and exercise. It's nice to be naturally skinny, but I don't admire girls who are just skin and bone and need to be hospitalised.
You tell yourself:
- real friends don't care about how slim you are
- boys who truly like you don't care about how slim you are
- none of your relatives care about it
- your teachers sure aren't gonna judge you - and who even cares if they do?
- so why do I want to be slim?
I don't know if I speak for girls in general, but I've asked myself these questions before, and I've realised that I want to be slim for me. Because it's nice to know that you look nicer than you could look, because you look nicer than the person sitting next to you.
I had this period where I sat down, looked at my belly, and just felt sick. It was like "why am I like this? I hate this". I think it is a lot to do with your own ideals, not anyone else's. (it's always nice to be complimented though.)
And I don't mean "starve-yourself-skinny", I mean toned and exercise. It's nice to be naturally skinny, but I don't admire girls who are just skin and bone and need to be hospitalised.
Well said ^^ it is very true, there is immense pressure from other girls, the media and general installed perception that thin is beautiful. I personally agree and would love to be a size 8 and 5 foot 10, alas grass is always greener on the other side! But when you go and look at clothes in my opinion (whiich is likely distored) clothes look so much better in a small, than a large. Whats more thin people can wear almost anything and look good, if they want a bust wear "chicken fillets" - but you can't just scrape of 10 pounds to wear skinny jeans.
Its defineatly (sorry sp) about more about what women think, they are the ones that bitch about your clothes, double chin and lovehandles, but they are also your best friends
Its defineatly (sorry sp) about more about what women think, they are the ones that bitch about your clothes, double chin and lovehandles, but they are also your best friends
But, the thing is that "Anorexia" - if anything is going to lead to this in this discussion - is often seen as the need to be thin, because of the media, or whatever.
In reality, its abotu control. Completly. And The eating is just a small part of that.
England and America, in particular, have rather unhealthy attitudes towards food. Ok, that is a very generalised comment, but its reflected in the rising rates of Eating Disorders - on both ends of the spectrum.
I don't know if its a need to be thin as much as a fear of being fat.
In reality, its abotu control. Completly. And The eating is just a small part of that.
England and America, in particular, have rather unhealthy attitudes towards food. Ok, that is a very generalised comment, but its reflected in the rising rates of Eating Disorders - on both ends of the spectrum.
I don't know if its a need to be thin as much as a fear of being fat.
I'm a weird shape....I have size 12/14 thighs,,,size 10 waist and then 32A chest..I'm really out of proportion. I'd love to be slim though, even though my bf says he likes me the way I am, I always have the thought in the back of my mind that he'd find me more attractive if I were slimmer.
horrorboy
They are constantly told that a lot of guys like curvy, if they want to be slim to feel better about themselves then how does it make you feel better?
Back in the day 'bigger' set women were seen to be more attractive because they were 'fuller'. Being slim suits some girls and not others, personally i dont have a preference.
clairey87
I'm a weird shape....I have size 12/14 thighs,,,size 10 waist and then 32A chest..I'm really out of proportion. I'd love to be slim though, even though my bf says he likes me the way I am, I always have the thought in the back of my mind that he'd find me more attractive if I were slimmer.
I'm a weird shape too. I'm a size 12 hips/thighs, 8/10 waist, 32F chest. So I am the classic "hourglass" figure.
I do wish I could be a little more "straight", though.
It sounds like you are a pear shape, love. Good, because at least if you got seperate tops and bottoms, things would fit ok-ish!
Simulatio
I'm a weird shape too. I'm a size 12 hips/thighs, 8/10 waist, 32F chest. So I am the classic "hourglass" figure.
I do wish I could be a little more "straight", though.
It sounds like you are a pear shape, love. Good, because at least if you got seperate tops and bottoms, things would fit ok-ish!
I do wish I could be a little more "straight", though.
It sounds like you are a pear shape, love. Good, because at least if you got seperate tops and bottoms, things would fit ok-ish!
Makes it hard to buy things like dresses though
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