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Why do you stare?

I don't get it. Staring just seems to be in vogue now. everyone just seems to be staring at everyone else. now i do it too, can't help it.
i glance at people and it is obvious they have been staring. hmmmm, so why do you stare.
I was in the library a while ago with a friend and this guy passed by. He was staring so hard, we thought he was going to say something.

If you've got something to say, why don't u say it. you think i'm ugly, please be my guest. staring, not cool.

Reply 1

Doodahdoo

13

Mmm. Interesting.

I don't "stare" per-ce, but I am fascinated by other people. I am fascinated by how they inderact, what they do, if they have any little "quirks". I don't judge. I just watch.

But sweetie, you don't seem particularly happy. Wanna talk abotu anything? xx

Reply 2

Mark S

17

Umm...all i can think of is that its because there's so much more pressure to look good you look at other people for ages and ages without realising that you're making them feel awkward, there's always something other people have that you want.

Reply 3

totallydeflated

OP

[QUOTE=Simulatio

But sweetie, you don't seem particularly happy. Wanna talk abotu anything? xx

lol! awww, thank you. i am fine man :biggrin:

, i'm just curious as to why people stare. i don't think i'm ugly at all, just wondering y people stare.

Reply 4

bluedreamer

1

I don’t like it when someone stares. I get paranoid and think they’ll jump on me or something :rolleyes:

Reply 5

Redefined

13

Why do I stare? Hmm...

First of all there are different types of stare.

The aggressive stare (I don't do that one)

The 'on another planet' don't realise your staring stare (This is my main one)

The OMG WOW LOOK AT THAT stare

The shocked stare

OK actually I can think of loads more so I'll just say this:

People stare for many different reasons, if it offends you so much then have a word, apart from that what really is the harm?

Reply 6

bedbug

14

I tend to only really stare when I'm spacing out.. I don't realise it til people start to look worried or talk to me.

Reply 7

Sithius

16

Simple. I don't stare.

Reply 8

bluedreamer

1

If someone’s staring at me, but turns away if I notice…it’s kind of ok.
If someone doesn’t turn away if I noticed, I get scared :redface:

and check to make sure they’re not following me home :indiff:

Reply 9

amie

14

totallydeflated

I don't get it. Staring just seems to be in vogue now. everyone just seems to be staring at everyone else. now i do it too, can't help it.
i glance at people and it is obvious they have been staring. hmmmm, so why do you stare.
I was in the library a while ago with a friend and this guy passed by. He was staring so hard, we thought he was going to say something.

If you've got something to say, why don't u say it. you think i'm ugly, please be my guest. staring, not cool.

I've noticed that too, lately. Yesterday I walked into town and people kept staring to the point where I wondered if I had 'look at me' tattooed onto my forehead. It's not the first time it's happened either.

It makes me really paranoid. Bah! :mad:

Reply 10

icklehc

1

i get stared at alot by oher girls for some reason. it realy gets on my nerves. theres a difference between people watching and staring. i jst stare back and they usually look away first. its like when girls look you up and down, its so rude. i just ask what their problem is and usually take it as a compliment. they are probably thinking "oooo i want her shoes" hehe

Reply 11

mc_watson87

18

totallydeflated

I don't get it. Staring just seems to be in vogue now. everyone just seems to be staring at everyone else. now i do it too, can't help it.
i glance at people and it is obvious they have been staring. hmmmm, so why do you stare.
I was in the library a while ago with a friend and this guy passed by. He was staring so hard, we thought he was going to say something.

If you've got something to say, why don't u say it. you think i'm ugly, please be my guest. staring, not cool.

Maybe he didn't have his glasses on.

Reply 12

Doodahdoo

13

The other possibility is that you could be becoming quite paranoid. I'm scared that people are always talking about me, looking at me, judging me.
But my psych told me t'other day that my paranoi levels are through the roof.

Reply 13

galactic_star

neither do i , no not even girls :biggrin:

Reply 14

xavier2k3

1

intense staring between yourself and someone you don't know can be kinda...sexual, actually.

regards
--marty

Reply 15

quintsy

17

Augh, I find it hard to look people in the eye normally, so if I end up staring, I'm usually not looking at the person.

In different situations people stare, and 75%+ of the time I'd say they're not actually staring at you for the reasons you think. I think it's partly to do with how comfortable with yourself. Like I said, I can't look people in the eye, so I get uncomfortable if I even suspect someone's looking at me. On the other hand, some people may take being stared at as a compliment, especially if you've just had a haircut or you feel particularly good about yourself at that moment.

I think the best thing to do is give the person a smile, and if they're being complimentary chances are they'll smile back; if they're being rude, chances are they'll be embarrassed because you were civil towards them, showing them up. :smile:

I have bad eye sight

totallydeflated

I don't get it. Staring just seems to be in vogue now. everyone just seems to be staring at everyone else. now i do it too, can't help it.
i glance at people and it is obvious they have been staring. hmmmm, so why do you stare.
I was in the library a while ago with a friend and this guy passed by. He was staring so hard, we thought he was going to say something.

If you've got something to say, why don't u say it. you think i'm ugly, please be my guest. staring, not cool.

I normally stare at people I like,who I think look attractive... I always seem to stare at this lad...he's soo cute! And i can't help looking at him.

:suith:

Sezkin

Reply 18

jb_sweden

People are generally more interesting to look at than furniture, walls, floor or one's own feet.

Reply 19

Luvbug

9

I'd say (in my case anyway) that people stare because they are thinking about what they are going to have for lunch, or because they forgot to do something and are now thinking 'oh bugger'. But that could just be me, if I stare it's because I am thinking of something else, which is not exactly the best thing to do because people then ask me questions and all I can do is nod and smile blandly. However the other day I was eating in a restaurant in the window area and I got lots of staring practice in with 2 of my friends. And I can say that some people are very very odd, they stare at you and keep on walking and staring, or in the case of some strange people walk on by, then turn around, raise their eyebrows and look straight at you. I can understand the staring at some other part of someone's face (like nose or ear) if you don't want to look them in the eye, which can be kind of intimidating or confrontational, but why do people stare (who you don't know) straight at you without looking like they are thinking about their dinner? (And no its not because I'm pretty, because I'm not)

Why do you stare?

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