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Homosexuality

Eau

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Discuss.

Reply 1

Talya

16

You don't 'try' and become gay!

Reply 2

silverbolt

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Talya

You don't 'try' and become gay!

exactly you either are or you arent

Reply 3

Eau

OP

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Cadre_Of_Storms

exactly you either are or you arent

No, I meant converting from gay to straight.

Reply 4

Talya

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wildfire

No, I meant converting from gay to straight.

Maybe you're bisexual. You don't need to 'convert'. What are you on about?

Reply 5

high priestess fnord

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i think he means that he wants to know how ppl dealt with the realisation that they were gay and did they try and be "normal"

sorry as a straight female i cant really help lol. maybe your lack of replies is due to the fact u posted at 5am?

Reply 6

Eau

OP

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Talya

Maybe you're bisexual. You don't need to 'convert'. What are you on about?

I don't think i am bi, I am almost always attracted to my own sex....

What would my family/friends think? Would they be dissapointed, especially my parents... I mean they are sometimes jokingly talk about when will I raise my own family etc.

Reply 7

high priestess fnord

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aww *hugs* im sure after the initial shock has worn off they will accept it. and if you want kids in the future then you can allways look into adoption etc.

my parents allways joke about being grandparents and i dont want kids. i dont think thats going to change either. i just hope my siblings will take care of that particular duty.

Reply 8

Talya

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wildfire

What would my family/friends think?

I'm sure they'll be fine! Mum's are usually better cause they generally love you no matter what. Maybe you can mention that you might adopt one day? (If you intend to that is)

Think yourself lucky. A poor friend of mine has an older brother who has already come out to his parents, and now dreads having to tell them he is too! :eek:

Reply 9

gideon2000uk

9

I think every homosexual man goes through a lot of anxiety when they come to the realisation that they are gay. I considered living a sham life for a while because I knew it was impossible for me to be sexually attracted to females. However I went to university and I was surrounded by gay people and so I came out to everyone there and then to my parents.

I've found that it is quite rare that people get a negative response. If you need any advice you can feel fre to PM me.

Reply 10

gideon2000uk

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princess amy

well done gideon am so glad it worksed well for u....what did ur parents say?

They were cool with it. Me and my dad talk about it very openly now! I tell him about my dates and stuff!

Reply 11

Mad Vlad

19

LGBT soc?

Reply 12

Eau

OP

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just interested, at approx what age did you guys you realise they you were gay?

Reply 13

gideon2000uk

9

Personally I've been gay for as long as I can remember. I was attracted to boys in some ways going right back to when I was a really little boy of 5. I labelled it as being a sexual thing at puberty and I came outo f the closet at 20.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

wildfire

Anyone here who's gay - how did you find out? Did you try to "convert" back to straight?

Did it affect your life? Cause I know it did - dramatically.

I was gay but now I am straight. I found out because the very first crush I had (when I was in yr7 aged11) was on this girl in my class and from then till the age of 16 (I am now 16 and a half) I didn't like boys at all. I did try to convert to straight because I am religious and I have. Now, I can see the special things about boys and I am attracted to them which NEVER IN AN INFINITE AMOUNT OF YEAR would EVER be POSSIBLE.
When I felt attracted to that girl, I tried to ignore it, but the feeling came back stronger, or grew stronger. Like the idiot I am, I told this girl in my class-my crush's best friend who was also my enemy and a year later my crush found out and has never spoken to me again. I was 12 at the time. When I went into yr 9 my whole school found out and then I went and told some boy (again, not one of my friends. Someone I dont even speak to- I WAS an idiot) that I was bi-sexual, then that spread and rapidly changed into a rumour that I was a lesbian as you would expect. Last year September I discoevered that I am straight (more or less. Even if I am not totally unattracted to girls, as I am not going to let it go further-for anything to actually happen. I would call it straight)

Reply 15

Revd. Mike

17

I've never really been attracted to girls, and I can remember sort of having crushes on boys in primary school. As with Gideon, I realised it as a sexual thing around puberty, and I came out to my friends about 3 years ago, and it was not a happy time for me. Everyone in school found out, and I was subject to a lot of homophobia throughout my GCSE years, but when I told my parents they were very supportive of me, as were my friends. I couldn't have got through it without them! About two and a half years ago, I met a very special person, and we've been together now for nearly 2 years and 4 months, and we both helped eachother through the troubles we had. Now I'm in 6th form I don't have much contact with the rest of the school, so the problems are pretty non existant now.

Generally speaking, family and friends may take a while to get over the revelation, but afterwards will be fine. The main thing you may want to consider is others in your environment who may cause problems. As far as I've heard, uni is the ideal time and place for coming out, whilst you may want to excercise caution if you're still at school.

I hope everything works out for you!

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

wildfire

Anyone here who's gay - how did you find out? Did you try to "convert" back to straight?

Did it affect your life? Cause I know it did - dramatically.

I'd say I found out through a lot of same sex 'encounters' as such. Then it sto[s being all fun and starts being serious.

I'd say I'm gay now, but have been in denial about it for...nearly 2 years. I still have those relapses where I wish I was straight just to make things easier on myself, but thats life, its something i can't change. Ha, yes I've tried to 'convert' back, but it feels so much out of my hands now...I guess I just need to learn to accept it. I don't see it as a bad thing, not at all if thats how this comes across, don't get me wrong, but its just a difficult situtation on a personal scale.

Reply 17

gideon2000uk

9

Anonymous

I'd say I found out through a lot of same sex 'encounters' as such. Then it sto[s being all fun and starts being serious.

I'd say I'm gay now, but have been in denial about it for...nearly 2 years. I still have those relapses where I wish I was straight just to make things easier on myself, but thats life, its something i can't change. Ha, yes I've tried to 'convert' back, but it feels so much out of my hands now...I guess I just need to learn to accept it. I don't see it as a bad thing, not at all if thats how this comes across, don't get me wrong, but its just a difficult situtation on a personal scale.

It certainly is. You will find that it gets a lot easier. I can't think of much else to say really. Try to feel good about it. Think of all of the positive things your sexuality probably gives you. Like, most gay men find it really easy to form relationships with girls, we tend to be pretty witty and nice... and some of this is down to sexuality.

Reply 18

charlotte m

Just to let you know, I understood what you meant in your first post about trying to be straight! When you're ready to come out to your parents, I'm sure it'll be ok. It might shock them, but at the end of the day you're theirs and they'll love you no matter what. A gay friend of mine has come out to his sister and mum but not his dad, and his dad is really homophobic. Uh oh. X X X. Oh and about the whole trying to be straight thing - why would you?! If you're gay, you are and what would be the point in trying to be something you're not? It's who you are. X X X Good luck.