Friends' problem which I don't know how to sort out

My friends are involved in a big problem and I don't know what to do to help them. I'll try to sum up what's happened recently...

One of my classmates is gay and he told some of us some time ago. Everyone appeared to accept that or, at least, respect him. Two of my friends came home last Sunday and we signed on Messenger. We were talking to that gay boy till one of my friends started to yell at him and call him names. From my point of view, what he said was absolutely disrespectful and I know he has hurt the gay boy very much. I told him to stop several times but he wouldn't pay heed to me. He even insulted one of the gay's friends, who had a girlfriend we all know well. I told my friend I didn't like what he has done.

The following day, both of them had a fight at school. The gay boy was given a black eye! Of course they don't talk to each other now. I also told the gay boy that wasn't the best way of solving problems.

My friend is now saying that the gay boy is having a relationship with my other friend's girlfriend (We all think he is not gay or bisexual, that's why I find rude what he's saying) so I'm persuading him to tell that girl about it since she HAS the right to know what he thinks about her last boyfriend. He doesn't want to tell her and I don't want to say anything because he would get angry with me and I don't want to get more problems because of that. I just find him very coward, as I told him. She's now willing to know what it is about and she's angry with that boy as well...

I don't know what to do since I'm like in the middle of them, I don't know what's the best thing to do in these cases since I have never had a problem like this one. I would appreciate any help you could give, thank you.

Reply 1

KellsEnder

Don't try to solve other peoples' problems, in my experience that just makes things worse. Just try to space yourself from their conflicts.

Reply 2

viciouscircle

Repeatedly referring to him as "the gay" unnerves me slightly :redface:

Out of interest, how good friends are you with this guy?

Reply 3

x kat x

personally being in the middle of my mates problems all the time, i'd say leave them at it the one who is being nasty the guy who is gay should realise that what they are doing is hurting the other person and therefore there is no need to do it.
it also sounds to me like the nasty one is being a bit immature, this is the 21st century, homosexuals are entitled to almost all the same rights as heterosexuals now. nasty needs to grow up and accept the other guys sexuality.

Reply 4

anjurdsg

viciouscircle

Repeatedly referring to him as "the gay" unnerves me slightly :redface:

Out of interest, how good friends are you with this guy?

lol... you're a cheeky one...

to the OP: i'd say leave it...or at least wait until something else happens (or about to happen: no point doing anything in case of murder) ... then talk it out with both of them at the same time...