help, on a problem concerning a guy

I really need help on this and I’ll apologise before I start if this ends up really long.
(I'm in college if it helps, and if u were wondering im a girl)
So, theres this guy who I've liked for ages, just never done anything about it, or told anyone as I've always thought never mind let it pass sort of thing. Well right at the start of term this guy always said hi to me and in class he would just ask me about work (as we’re in 2 of the same classes). But I didn’t realise anything and at the time it was the start of the year and I was unsettled and wasn’t really paying attention but now my friend thinks that he may have liked me then.

Well a few months down the road I do like him, a lot, and my friend (who is male if it helps) sort of found out and he was like you gotta do something to show that you like him, cos I have never really spoken to him or had a proper conversation with him. So I tried, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do anything, I just got completely lost for words every time I saw him. Now cos my friend kept going on about it, I told him to just go and tell this guy that I liked him, so he did. Well after he told him this guy said that he had a girlfriend, that he was sorry and that he would talk to me. Now I wasn’t aware that he had a girlfriend, the only possibility I can come up with is that it is someone out of college cos if it is someone in college then he doesn’t spend anytime with them…

So this happened on Friday, so then I waited til Monday.
So Monday I went in and someone asked me if I liked this guy and I was like what! So I'm guessing he must have told his friends… but no-one else has said anything to me so that’s ok.

Well I was expecting him to say something but I didn’t give him chance. Tuesday in a lesson he sort of walked into me, said sorry and laughed. In another lesson my teacher said something really bad which I could kill him for!!

Then today, when I had a lesson with him I was waiting outside, then he came past opened the door and sort of made a thing about putting the stopper under it as if he was waiting for me to go in. then on the bus home he was sat like nearly opposite to me but I avoided looking at him at all.

Now my problem is, could he possible like me at all? Well you cant really judge that very well.
How should I act when he is around? Sort of show that I'm interested in and things or completely avoid him?? The avoiding thing is what I've been doing up til now cos I don’t know what to do!! And I don’t really want everyone finding out if he really has got a girlfriend and is totally not interested in me.

So now that he knows that I like him its sort of just up to him, I've noticed that he ‘might’ be acting different slightly but that might just be me… and from how he’s acting its either that he is interested and just showing more or he’s turned it around and made it into a laugh sort of thing, after all he did go and tell his friends but… what do u think?

So in conclusion:
I do really like this guy, the problem being that i haven’t had a proper conversation with him so I cant go back to just the ‘friendly’ type, theres the problem with the girlfriend in which if its true then I’ll just stay well away, then the problem of what should I do now and how should I act, that’s the main ones. And I really do like him that’s why I've had to resort to help!!!

Thanks for any sensible comments!!!! and lost of help!!

Reply 20

Strauss

Starting??? Hmmm... I thought girls had so many formulas for that like 'Are you Henry's friend William?' or 'Carry this, whats-your-name' or 'Have you see Hannah?' or 'Beastly professor, don't you think?' or they're terribly clever and just get in the way so that he HAS to say sorry and stop and helpand talk. Well?

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Strauss

Starting??? Hmmm... I thought girls had so many formulas for that like 'Are you Henry's friend William?' or 'Carry this, whats-your-name' or 'Have you see Hannah?' or 'Beastly professor, don't you think?' or they're terribly clever and just get in the way so that he HAS to say sorry and stop and helpand talk. Well?

well... thats not the case for me. I'm finding it very hard to start. i no i should just be able to go up and talk to him but... well as i said he's nearly always with a group of friends, well sometimes just one of them but its even harder now cos he knows that i like him so if i start talking to him he's gonna realise. but all as i said, all i would like is to just be able to talk to him like i do with other friends, cos he does seem such a nice guy...

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Strauss

Aha, the friends-all-around-him thing. How did Harry Potter do it? I forget. I think that you should just be bluff about the whole thing, blow-overish, you know, as if its all the most hilarious thing you've ever heard that you could like him. Perhaps he would even think 'Oh, she's not easily persuaded', then he might make an effort which would be rather fun for you.

When I wanted to meet a girl who ended up being my girlfriend, I made friends with all of her friends first, which was uncomplicated, and then we became friends and then it was easier for things to get going.

You sound far too self-conscious, Anonymous, stop worrying about what they all think of you, you're not on television its plain conversation!

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Strauss

Aha, the friends-all-around-him thing. How did Harry Potter do it? I forget. I think that you should just be bluff about the whole thing, blow-overish, you know, as if its all the most hilarious thing you've ever heard that you could like him. Perhaps he would even think 'Oh, she's not easily persuaded', then he might make an effort which would be rather fun for you.

When I wanted to meet a girl who ended up being my girlfriend, I made friends with all of her friends first, which was uncomplicated, and then we became friends and then it was easier for things to get going.

You sound far too self-conscious, Anonymous, stop worrying about what they all think of you, you're not on television its plain conversation!

hmm the harry potter thing lol.
and yes i guess i am too self-concious, and i guess i do worry about it too much. after all he knows that i like him so really it lies with him, but if he has got a gf then he's not likely to do anything.
but i am tempted to sort of drop in a conversation somehow... which will prove to be very hard

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zav

Depends how much you like him.
Do you like him enough to give it a shot and risk he's kidding?
I would just go for it from a guy's point of view even if he does not like you he will respect you for talking to him about it and confidence is always a turn on :smile:

Well now we have 2 weeks off, so that will mean i wont see him for 2 weeks, so i guess that the whole thing might wear off as at the moment i dont think im gonna get anywhere with it, after all im still respecting that what he said is true. but i think that the best plan now is to see how i feel when we return to college and maybe i could just talk to him kind of...

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OP

isnt it hard to forget about something that you dont want to forget about .... *sigh*

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