How the hell do I find the motivation?

Right, I have a problem which is making my life just a bit depressing!

Okay; my issues is that I don't get any attention from girls at all. I know why though; put simpy I am overweight. I understand why I get to attention coz it aint pretty, I find my own reflection repulsive at the best of times.

But where do I find the motivation to go to the gym? I've been a member of the university gym for some time but haven't been that much even though I know I should do. Also, I know my diet aint the healthiest being a student, but not being exactly rich means I have have to go for the cheap stuff.

I don't realy know if anyone can give me advice, because I have a very good and quite large number of new and very good friends that I've made in uni, and I have no problems talking to girls that are mates, or my female housemates. Maybe this all goes back to when I was bulled by Year 10/11 girls when I was in sixth form.

The main point is though; I hate being the way I am and I want to change and be slim and athletic. But everytime I look in the mirror or I start to think about all the over various bodily insecurities that I have, I just get really down and struggle to find the motivation to get out there and actually change things....

Reply 1

Barny

Don't use money as an excuse:

Oats cost 30p for 1kg
Eggs cost £1 for 15
Tuna you can get for 30p a can
Wholemeal Pasta is 60p for 1kg
Quark is something like 30p for 300g

Think of it this way, the longer you wait to do something about it, the longer it will take to get where you want to be. You need determination, you have to ask yourself if you really want it, like, really want it, because you'll need every ounce of strength you have when things get hard.

I was once very fat, once I stopped making excuses about why I was and did something about it my life changed so much you wouldn't believe, and it didn't even take that long.

Reply 2

hapa_girl

Aw I'm sorry you're feeling so hungup about your body. I, as well as probably 99.999% (lol) of people out there feel the same way about their bodies, for some reason or other.

I find self motivation hard to conjure as well but it really is down to you only. How much do you want to feel better about yourself?

The only reason we don't do things we want ourselves to do sometimes is because we are toooo damn lazy, OR, we are already pretty happy anyway and the thing that we're so hungup about isn't REALLY that important and we know it!

I don't know which you are, lazy, or happy, but either way just think about trips to the gym as treating yourself. Why shouldn't you treat yourself and your body? Just do it... it only takes that ONE push to really get into it.

Just GO to the gym.

Pick out a day of the week when you go back to uni, and just GO. And you'll probably be soo happy with yourself about going, you won't need to push yourself so much to go anymore :smile:

Reply 3

Cloud_Strife

Dude, dont worry about what people think. Im sure your special in your own way. Go to the Richard simmons website, he has some good words of wisdom there. About the gym, try to find a friend to go with, once you start going you start to enjoy it. Find something you enjoy, maybe the cycling machine or the stepper lol. I know its hard, but once you get into a routine these things tend to get easier. That being said i haven't been down the gym for ages, i need to start going. :p:

Reply 4

iceman_jondoe

It took a slight pain in my chest after eating a whole KFC family bucket on my own, to realise i had to change. ABout 5 years ago i was feeling the same as you had no motivation to do anything. One day i felt a slight pain in my chest and after researching various diseases linked with being overweight i decided from that day on to get into shape....5 years later i feel great and it improves the way you think too. Put it this way if you keep up with your old habbits you WILL die !. Let me give ou an example of a disease..heart failure. Now this can be due to the build up of fat inside your arteries without exercise this is going to eventually restrict blood flow to your heart eventually causing a heart attack. now THINK of that every time you dont want to go to the gym or cant be bothered because if you dont sort things out now...your a dead man..

Reply 5

Barny

Forget about heart-disease, think about having sex. Thats what did it for me.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

I think that's what I'll have to do.

I mean I really do want to do it, because both my parents are overweight and have quite a few health, which I'm sure they wouldn't have otherwise.

And I want to go and not be worried about how I look, I think maybe I hang too much on what other people think.

I've been told by my mates and stuff (and that includes girls) that I'm a cool guy and shouldn't really have that many issues when it comes to women. The said problem(s) seem to be really holding me back though.