talking about yourself too much

I just feel like I talk about myself too much cause wherever I go im always asked things like what im up to at the moment, what I like etc but Im too shy to ask people their buisness, although Ive seen them for like 7 years I still don't know them and dont class them as friends as we only see each other at netball training. Do you think it comes across as selfish?

Reply 1

Lillybut

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i think people who do that are just nervous- i mean if they dont know what to say then the topic that they kno most about is themselves so of course they're going to do it. I wouldnt worry :smile:

Maybe just try listening and picking up on little things that you could comment and compliment on. Agreeing with what they say with a silent nod of the head can also help.
Social skills dont come naturally. We all have to learn and develop them in our own ways. Id say grow in confidence and approach different subjct matters with clarity and directness.
Best of luck and big hugs :p:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Lillybut

i think people who do that are just nervous- i mean if they dont know what to say then the topic that they kno most about is themselves so of course they're going to do it. I wouldnt worry :smile:

Maybe just try listening and picking up on little things that you could comment and compliment on. Agreeing with what they say with a silent nod of the head can also help.
Social skills dont come naturally. We all have to learn and develop them in our own ways. Id say grow in confidence and approach different subjct matters with clarity and directness.
Best of luck and big hugs :p:

Thanks, Ive known these people for 7 years or so though yet am still like this, im ok with different people its just them for some reason they always misunderstand what I say etc and my voice sounds weird lol. I never know what to say so when I speak they just stare and think im strange (I overheard them saying this) but their not nasty or anything its just what they think. :confused:

Reply 3

Lillybut

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people are horrible. people are mean. people are nasty. But at the end of the day we are all people (how poetic is that lol :p:

) and we all get confused about how everyone else percieves us, and how we are supposed to act. Its just the way it is. You just have to learn that to be yourself is the only thing you can be, and if they react like that, they are not your friends. They will be nothing more than 'people'.

Reply 4

saturn

I think every1 likes talking about themselves its a topic they know most about.

Reply 5

so_this_is_sam

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Why are you scared of asking questions? You shouldnt be scared of anybody, let alone yourself...try to build up your confidence a bit by making an effort to ask more questions and reduce the amount of conversations you have talking about yourself

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