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approaching a girl in a club?

this is mailnly aimed at girls. i am just wondering what would be a good first thing for a guy, who may have an interest in you, to say to you in a club without scaring you off. any suggestions?

Reply 1

bedbug

14

It's not all about what you say, it's how you say it. You need to be confident but not arrogant.

I'd start just by giving her a smile, see if she smiles back. If she does approach her and just introduce yourself, ask if she's having a good time, etc. Keep it casual and just get chatting.

Reply 2

strawberry

13

didn't I just see something like this before? :P

Reply 3

sour stone

You could try cutting in with them dancing... and flirt your s*** that way... at least you'd get noticed.

Reply 4

Hana_87

16

A few guys have approached me in a club, they mainly do it in a really seedy way by saying things like 'oi your well fit you got a boyfriend?' or some rubbish like that.
I run a mile.

However i wouldnt be put off if a bloke who didn't seem wasted appraoched me and asked if i was having a good night etc.

Reply 5

mousey

2

creamcrackered

You could try cutting in with them dancing... and flirt your s*** that way... at least you'd get noticed.

Avoid avoid avoid. This method just pisses most girls off. xx

Reply 6

sour stone

mousey

Avoid avoid avoid. This method just pisses most girls off. xx

I dunno... It's worked for me a couple of times... spose it depends how good ya dancing is :rolleyes:

Reply 7

Danny the Geezer

21

I'm not arsed after a few pints, I'll just stroll up to them :biggrin:

Reply 8

silence

16

"hey, you remind me of delia smith, but in a sexy way"
"erm... what?"
"i just think that we could both cook up something special in my kitchen, if you were willing"
"what the hell are you on about?"
"look, grab your apron, you've pulled"

i usually have conversations something along the lines of that; works about 90% of the time i'd say.

Reply 9

anjurdsg

11

silence

"hey, you remind me of delia smith, but in a sexy way"
"erm... what?"
"i just think that we could both cook up something special in my kitchen, if you were willing"
"what the hell are you on about?"
"look, grab your apron, you've pulled"

i usually have conversations something along the lines of that; works about 90% of the time i'd say.

lol you're a funny one...

i like being random too... it gets me quite far, surprisingly... but you're kinda an extreme of me lol...

Reply 10

bleeper

11

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You could try cutting in with them dancing... and flirt your s*** that way... at least you'd get noticed.

That does not work. You just end up loomking dumb. I will never again get in between girls dancing again. I was jammy during freshers and it worked. Try that in a club and you will look like a moron.

Reply 11

grace

15

girls only want boyfriends who have skills. Judo skills, computer programming skills....get yourself some sweet skills.

You could always try drawing her a picture and spend three hours doing the shading on the upper lip.

Reply 12

sour stone

bleeper

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That does not work. You just end up loomking dumb. I will never again get in between girls dancing again. I was jammy during freshers and it worked. Try that in a club and you will look like a moron.

I already tried it before and it worked... so... there :eviltongue:

Reply 13

anjurdsg

11

grace

girls only want boyfriends who have skills. Judo skills, computer programming skills....get yourself some sweet skills.

You could always try drawing her a picture and spend three hours doing the shading on the upper lip.

i love ya! u rule! :wink:

Reply 14

Mata

16

creamcrackered

You could try cutting in with them dancing... and flirt your s*** that way... at least you'd get noticed.

That ^^ is the most annoying thing in the world. Especially if you're in a group with your friends and suddenly this guy comes and wrecks it all. Trust me, you do that and her friends will be mouthing - "oh my god, get rid of the weirdo!" over your shoulder.

Get her on her own (not in a dark alley), possibly at the bar. You have to make a connection before you start flirting, e.g. making prolonged eye contact, or exchanging a smile. Don't just barge in there without considering the fact that she might not appreciate it.

Reply 15

high priestess fnord

9

creamcrackered

I already tried it before and it worked... so... there :eviltongue:

1 question. was she a chavette?

Reply 16

high priestess fnord

9

grace

girls only want boyfriends who have skills. Judo skills, computer programming skills....get yourself some sweet skills.

You could always try drawing her a picture and spend three hours doing the shading on the upper lip.

yeh drawing is sweet but its a guy who can fix your computer whos rele great :wink:

ooh forum spam!! its old but funny check this out

hmmm "i fix computers for sex" might not be the best chat up line in a club tho :redface:

Reply 17

OppressedMass

13

Mad4it_87

this is mailnly aimed at girls. i am just wondering what would be a good first thing for a guy, who may have an interest in you, to say to you in a club without scaring you off. any suggestions?

Just be spontaneous and witty. If you plan what you are going to say it will sound trite and sleazy.

Reply 18

xavier2k3

1

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=210676

regards
--marty

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

My 'tactic' which works quite well for me is to just try catch eye contact with them give them a mischievous smile a little nod and walk casually towards them , say something friendly like how are you? build up the conversation. Even if she says shes got boyfriend or something I don't just walk off rejected, finish of the conversation nicely and say 'might see you around'.

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