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What to wear at gaybar

i'm going to a gaybar tonight, and i want to "fit in". i am a girl so i thought i'd go for a slightly butch look, what would you recommend? (btw i don't have a rugby shirt)

Reply 1

dogtanian

Why do you want/need to look 'butch'? It suggests to me that it isn't what you'd normally go for.

Just wear what you'd normally wear to a club or bar. In that respect, gay venues really aren't that different. Some people dress OTT, but not very many. Most people just dress up a bit, make an effort. Same as, y'know, in a 'normal' bar...

Reply 2

Sejanus

Sometimes the bouncers at gaybars can be quite narky about letting you in if you are too dressed up (ie bum skimming miniskirt etc). Its worth trying to keep your outfit kinda casual, maybe wear jeans and a black vest top or something.

To dogtanian: I'm not saying that the clientele act any differently to those in a "normal" bar, but the management in some gay bars I have been to were very keen to get the "right" kind of people in there, i.e. actual lesbians, and thus turned away girls who looked like they were dressed up to please men, reckoning they were probably straight.

Reply 3

so_this_is_sam

why dont you just go as yourself rather than trying to "fit in?"

Reply 4

Sags_3

Nooo dont do that! There are lots of straight girls in gaybars with their friends. By dressing butch the last thing you want is a girl all over you so be yourself and make that clear!

Reply 5

dogtanian

Hmm. The bars that I've been in haven't seemed very different in terms of what people wear.

I wouldn't say dress butch though. there doesn't seem to be any justification for that...

Reply 6

fiesty_fox

you just wear what you normally wear! My sister went to gay bar last week and everyone dress normally, gay guys AND straight people. You dont have to dress to blend in, just be yourself!

Reply 7

Sags_3

Lol the gay guys can dress like women but thats only a few of them. Ud be surprised how strait the place is.

Reply 8

Sejanus

dogtanian

Hmm. The bars that I've been in haven't seemed very different in terms of what people wear.

I wouldn't say dress butch though. there doesn't seem to be any justification for that...

Maybe its the fact it was in Manchester, on a weekend that made the bouncers more strict. Most of the places weren't too different in terms of what people were wearing, but some of the bars were turning away anyone who was dressed up.

Reply 9

Emmalina

Naaah get into it!

When we go we go like proper kylie. Sparkly stuff and like the teeniest outfits.

Its fun like dressing up for yourself and your mates and not for blokes or anything.

Reply 10

Everdawn

A lot of my male friends are gay and we go to a gay club in Brisbane called The Beat which is filled 90% with gay men and their fag hags, 10% lesbien but they dress so you know who the gay girls are, for straight girls its just dress very chic.

Reply 11

alibertine

Well, I only know from Edinburgh/London, my best mates gay so we're in gay clubs quite alot, but it's never crossed my mind that I should wear anything than what I normally would. Just be yourself, it's more noticible to see if you've been trying to hard. It's not about fitting in.

Reply 12

tiamaria

well you wouldnt want any one thinking your anything your not .. so dont dress like anything your not if that makes sense ... just wear something fashionable and something you like and go for it .. have fun xx

Reply 13

lawrence4

Wear whatever you want. A lot of places seem to let anyone in, unless you're in big groups and obvously straight. In Manchester it seems the more you get towards one end the more 'gay' people are, if that makes sense...