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Reply 1
I think you'd force to lose interest if you realized that there was absolutely no hope....or maybe some girls find the chase attractive. It varies hugely but usually when I rli like someone I like them for quite a while (a few months) cos I'm not the type of person who jumps from guy to guy. In a relationship, again it depends but if your the type of people who can always keep a relationship fresh than you attraction can last for years.
Reply 2
For me, it is difficult to distinguish whether I'm truly besotted over a person in the initial stages, or if it is just a 'crush'. When I look back, many of the people I fancied were silly momentary phases, that lasted perhaps a few weeks? It never does seem to last that long for me, as I begin to pick at flaws, thus, causing that oh-so-important-spark, to fizzle out...:redface:
Im usually interested until i get the guy to be honest. I like challenges and find the chase exciting, although very frustrating at the same time. Once ive got the guy the excitement seems to die down-haha :biggrin:
Reply 4
it depends on how much i like the guy.. if its just a small crush and if i like the guy even after getting to know him well.. then it last pretty long unless theres like no hope or future for it.. and sometimes i lose interest pretty quick in certain kind of guys.. im pretty choosy.. but when i really like a guy, it can last a long time.. sometimes even when we cannot be together :biggrin: (at that time.. not never)
so_this_is_sam
Im usually interested until i get the guy to be honest. I like challenges and find the chase exciting, although very frustrating at the same time. Once ive got the guy the excitement seems to die down-haha :biggrin:


Thats ok, we like a challenge and find the chase exciting as well. Once we've knobbed a girl, mission is accomplished and the excitement dies down - haha :biggrin:
Reply 6
until proposal
Reply 7
Dame i was hoping the replies would be more "oh i liked this boy once and i still do, its been years now!"

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Reply 8
"oh i liked this boy once and i still do, its been years now!"
Reply 9
Hmm... i liked one guy on and off for about 3 years, now he's with my friend... so had to extinguish that flame...

Two current loves - one that i've liked for about 9 months :eek: and one for just under a week :p:
I liked a guy for about two years and in that time he had two GF's that didn't put me off.
I went off him.
Now i'm starting to like him again lol.
ok well i still really like my now ex boyfriend, n i was with him for 3 and half years, and the flame never died for me with him...but it did for him. Then again he musta been pretty special, infact he was, and still is...cus i lost interest in my other ex pretty quickly. The fact craig actually meant everything to me keeps that spark alive.
Reply 12
do you girls like TO CHASE or BE CHASED? Tell me honestly here... i know everyone likes BEING CHASED... but look inside yourself deeper (no pun intended) and tell me :biggrin:
i like a guy now and its been 6 months, but i know its not giong to end up being anything... as someone above said, you'd have to lose interest when u realise there was no hope. we are both from a conservative family but with different beliefs so we're basically screwed , im 99% sure he likes me too.
:confused:
Reply 14
with some guys it just doesn't last (even ones who'd i'd gone out with happily and thought i would never go off), but there's others who even a couple of years on (and me being in a very happy relationship) still make me go all silly, even though nothing will happen with them

lou xxx
i used to fancy one of my guy mates on/off for about a year,ive go off him when there were no signs of interest and then when he went out with one of my girl mates i started fancing him again. i never want to go through that again!lol
Reply 16
anjurdsg
do you girls like TO CHASE or BE CHASED? Tell me honestly here... i know everyone likes BEING CHASED... but look inside yourself deeper (no pun intended) and tell me :biggrin:


definately being chased

lou xxx
I think I enjoy chasing rather than being chased, I'd feel more in control over what could happen. Being chased is flattering, but sometimes it's really annoying, and sometimes becomes vaguely stalkerish. Having someone constantly talk to you, follow you and flatter you is a bit weird (or perhaps im the weird one...), especially if you've made clear to them that its not gonna happen.
Virtue
For me, it is difficult to distinguish whether I'm truly besotted over a person in the initial stages, or if it is just a 'crush'. When I look back, many of the people I fancied were silly momentary phases, that lasted perhaps a few weeks? It never does seem to last that long for me, as I begin to pick at flaws, thus, causing that oh-so-important-spark, to fizzle out...:redface:


im exactly the same! sometimes when i start to like a guy, i wonder whether its a crush or whether i "love" (dare i say) the guy. and then when time passes and i feel im over the person because (like you), ive realised all his faults etc, i think to myself that it must've been a crush cause i expect "love" to last forever..
i like this guy right now, my heart beats faster whenever i talk to him on msn or talk by phone (hes older, so isnt in my school), and i actually think i more than like him, but dont know :confused: guess ill see how it goes... :rolleyes:
Reply 19
Been with my gf now for 17 months ish can't see that changing and after a while you just know how much you like the person if your not sure then u don't enough at the time and goes under the "crush" section