AHHHH need help!!!!

ok basically i went out for a meal last night and found out that my best friends boyfriend has been cheating on her only pulling as far as i know (from a reliable source her boyfiend told him and saw)!!!

obviously then i'm going to tell her today over a nice big pot of fondo with ben and jerry's for after (just incase it gets really ugly)

heres the tricky twist for you to help me solve:

2 mates of hers already told her this but my friend thought
"they don't have any prove"

(i thought this too as they have been known to twist the truth) consquently she hasn't spoken to them since last week and vows never to do so again (extreme i know its complicated with them i won't bore you anymore than i already have!)

so obviously i don't want that to happen but still plan on telling her as if i don't it'll kick me in the arse later when she finds out i knew all along!

anyway of softening the punches and keeping my best friend?? either way she's going to get hurt

thankyou!!!

Reply 1

xx_ambellina_xx

14

Very tricky situation. I think perhaps the difference here is that the other two were 'mates' whereas you're her best friend. I'm not sure I'd tell her, I've been in that situation where the ex themselves told me that they'd cheated on my friend, and I didn't say anything because I know it'd be my word against theirs. Why don't you encourage your best friend to confront her boyfriend about it, say you've heard the rumours from a reliable source and just don't want her to get hurt?

Reply 2

Ceri327

OP

9

hey thanks 4 replying this is doing my head in :frown:

thats just it though. he's not her ex she's still with him and i know she'll be sooo annoyed when she finds out i knew the whole time.

Why don't you encourage your best friend to confront her boyfriend about it,

what makes it worse is that her boyfriends in Jamaica, and she keeps ringing me worried that he's going to get with loads of girls out there, and i can't say

"no of course he isn't, trust him he hasn't done it yet." like i have dont until i found out because thats terrible!

the other two were 'mates' whereas you're her best friend

yeah thats what i'm hopig but you never know, frankly i'm scared might go in there with a suit of armour on :s-smilie:

Reply 3

lou p lou

2

just tell her that you know it's hard to believe, and that there's no way you'd make it up because you wouldn't want to hurt her... she might not believe you at first but it will make her question her relationship with him. and i'm sure when she realises everyone just wanted to protect her by telling her she will start speaking to your friends again.

good luck!

lou xxx

Reply 4

Ceri327

OP

9

yeah i think i'm just going to have to take a deep breath blurt it out and run away very fast, then come back later with lots of hugs.

thing is theres no point in me telling her now! he's not back for 8 days its just going to make it worse for her knowing her cheating boyfriend is away on holiday.

should i wait until he gets back?

Reply 5

matt@internet

12

I think you should tell her now because that way her anger will get bigger and when he gets back the cheating bas**rd will really get what he deserves.

Reply 6

lou p lou

2

Ceri327

yeah i think i'm just going to have to take a deep breath blurt it out and run away very fast, then come back later with lots of hugs.

thing is theres no point in me telling her now! he's not back for 8 days its just going to make it worse for her knowing her cheating boyfriend is away on holiday.

should i wait until he gets back?

i think you should tell her straight away... people can get funny if you tell them things when their other half has just got back, they can see it as you being jealous because they're spending less time with you.

unless you fancy confronting him and getting him to confess?

lou xxx

Reply 7

Ceri327

OP

9

unless you fancy confronting him and getting him to confess?

nah am not sure that would go down very well at all! yup i think i'll tell her straight away tonite

thanks for all your help!!

great a i love breaking hearts

Reply 8

xx_ambellina_xx

14

Ceri327

nah am not sure that would go down very well at all! yup i think i'll tell her straight away tonite

thanks for all your help!!

great a i love breaking hearts

sorry, i wasn't very clear! the girlfriend was his girlfriend at the time, now his ex (she broke it off in the end) and it was a hard decision, but i did decide not to tell him for the reason that he was blinded by love/lust and wouldn't believe me anyway. good luck with telling her tonight, hope it goes well and she will definitely thank you in the end!

AHHHH need help!!!!

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