There's a guy I have liked for a while. We are on speaking terms and get on fairly well, but we hang out with different people and don't see each other that often. However, I might be seeing him tomorrow night as we go to the same pub on a Friday.
Problem is, he has never had a girlfriend and I don't think he's ever kissed anyone. I know this because his friends told me and he admitted it himself. (We are both eighteen.)
I am really unsure what to do. He is quite shy and awkward around girls, but I want him to know I really like him without seeming forward or pushy. Does anyone have any tips for attracting shy/inexperienced guys? I really want something to happen tomorrow night.
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- Thread Starter
- 06-04-2006 19:38
- 06-04-2006 19:39
Have you seen the film American Pie?
Do as the gwar does to Jim.
- 06-04-2006 19:47
Most "inexperiened guys" are just lacking in confidence, and a little flattery will probably help overcome any insecurities he has.. Just take it slowly, and don't jump in with heavy flirting unless you get the go ahead
- 06-04-2006 19:57
In a way it's quite sweet as you defo wouldn't be another notch on his bedpost but you may find that he's really shy, insecure and worried about doing the right thing. I think you may have to take the initiative, make the first move and tell him what you want cause I don't think any guy can pyschicly know what to do...although there may be exceptions out there.
- 06-04-2006 20:35
make it REALLY obvious?
- 06-04-2006 20:41
Make it clear to him that you want something to happen first with words then actions. Don't make him feel uncomfortable though, if hes unexperienced hes probably very nervous etc so dont push it. There is no one way to act with this kind of thing, depends on the moment, just go with the natural feel of things and see what happens. If it goes well, he will feel a whole lot better about himself. Goodluck
- 06-04-2006 20:49
My boyfriend was inexperienced before he met me. I am his first girlfriend and he's 19. What I did was I made it clear that I was okay if he wanted to do something and also okay if he didn’t. I let him go at his own speed. I let him make all the big moves although I would give him anvils (sp?) so he knew it was okay. He knew that I wasn’t little miss innocent when he met me so he knew he couldn’t really overstep anything. Just make it clear to them that it’s okay if they feel comfortable with it. Pushing someone won’t get you anywhere so if you wait you have to wait. Hope that helps .