Do you think hes shallow?

Me n my boyfriend have been dealing for about a year now and we was always sayin that well probably be together long term. ive always been naturally thin size 8 and wanted to be bigger but jus lately like in the last couple months ive been stressed bout college, family probs...etc n lost weight so im bout size 6 now which hasnt done much to help ma situation. it doesnt realy bother me as much as i think ive jus learnt to live with the fact that im thin but im currently trying to put on weight to be abotu size 10.....NEWAYS my man says that he usually goes for curvy girls and says he likes me in any other way but its the fact that im thin that bugs him...hes been really trying to put pressure on me to put on weight n me being realy stubborn i hate people telling me what to do so i just ignore him plus its something i need to do for myself not anyone else now hes started threatening to leave me if i dont do it because hes started body building and doesnt wana be with a thin girl because it will look weird. hes quite big headed about hes looks and says that he could get alot of girls if he wanted basically implying that i should count myself lucky. This may seem like a silly question but i jus wana know other people opinions to see if other people think hes shallow or not or am i being silly because if i realy liked him i would put on weight for him wouldnt i???.....im confused lol :confused:

Reply 1

La Trampa

18

well on one note,he's a bit worried you're too thin and need to put a bit of weight to be healthy

on the other hand,he's a bit shallow as well.

it's a bit of both i think.goodluck

Reply 2

ruthiepoothie

11

charna

Me n my boyfriend have been dealing for about a year now and we was always sayin that well probably be together long term. ive always been naturally thin size 8 and wanted to be bigger but jus lately like in the last couple months ive been stressed bout college, family probs...etc n lost weight so im bout size 6 now which hasnt done much to help ma situation. it doesnt realy bother me as much as i think ive jus learnt to live with the fact that im thin but im currently trying to put on weight to be abotu size 10.....NEWAYS my man says that he usually goes for curvy girls and says he likes me in any other way but its the fact that im thin that bugs him...hes been really trying to put pressure on me to put on weight n me being realy stubborn i hate people telling me what to do so i just ignore him plus its something i need to do for myself not anyone else now hes started threatening to leave me if i dont do it because hes started body building and doesnt wana be with a thin girl because it will look weird. hes quite big headed about hes looks and says that he could get alot of girls if he wanted basically implying that i should count myself lucky. This may seem like a silly question but i jus wana know other people opinions to see if other people think hes shallow or not or am i being silly because if i realy liked him i would put on weight for him wouldnt i???.....im confused lol :confused:

Your boyfriend should ultimately love you the way you are. If you are very underweight and he is concerned about your health then that's one thing, but if he is comparing you to other girls and talking about what he could have, then it seems he doesn't respect you enough. And that doesn't bode well for the relationship. If he makes you feel special, and makes you feel attractive, then that's fine, but in my opinion he shouldn't be saying things like that to you when you're supposed to be his girlfriend. You are under no obligation to do things just to please him. And don't let him tell you "if you love me you'll do...." because it just doesn't work like that. If you want to put on weight, like you say you do, then do it for yourself, don't do it for him. Because it sounds like he doesn't deserve it. Make sure you tell him how you feel, and how it makes you feel when he says the things he does.

Ruthie xx

Reply 3

foxo

17

charna

Me n my boyfriend have been dealing for about a year now

How much for an 1/8th?

Reply 4

zav

14

foxo

How much for an 1/8th?

Ha i think she means dating ?

Reply 5

bluedreamer

1

foxo

How much for an 1/8th?

that's not nice

To the OP, yeah he does seem shallow. He seems to be more concerned about your looks rather than health. The whole “I can have whoever” is not nice. You're not being silly, he is :smile:

Reply 6

charna

OP

foxo

How much for an 1/8th?

lol....not that type of dealing......sorry thats the slang coming out i mean we was in a relationship for about a year.....although i could give you the number for a dealer if you want...lol joking :biggrin:

Reply 7

PapeeChumo

You shouldn't have tp put on weight because he thinks it won't look good because he is body building and thus he is shallow and you shouldn't have do anything you are not comfortable with. If he says to you, you would put on weight if you loved him, you could turn it around and say if he loved you he would accept you the way you are.

Reply 8

bedbug

14

He's probably looking out for you and worrying about you being underweight because it's dangerous. However, he does seem quite shallow in that he doesn't want you to be thin because it will look weird next to him. He should be wanting you to put on weight in order to become more healthy, not to look better on his arm.

Reply 9

ChemistBoy

16

ruthiepoothie

Your boyfriend should ultimately love you the way you are.

mmm... and over in the real world...

Reply 10

WokSz

17

He might geniuinely worried about your weight. You do need to put on weight, because being too thin is not healty.

Reply 11

Sithius

16

What a complete tosser, dump him.

I may get negative rep for this post but it is my opinion.

Reply 12

charna

OP

Sithius

What a complete tosser, dump him.

I may get negative rep for this post but it is my opinion.

yea i hope you dont because that was the whole point of the post and i just wanted to see whether people thought i was wrong/ right in thinking that......thanks for all the replies everyone

Reply 13

mrteacher

1

if you break up, you are stuck with the wheight! he does sound shallow

Reply 14

phantom

2

if your stressed out and thats the reason why you have lost weight then he certainly shouldnt be adding to the stress and threatening to leave you! he should be supporting, understanding and kind. if he liked you that much then he wouldnt care what you looked like and to be honest i wouldnt be able to stand a guy that was so obsessed with how he looks. also dont you think that he is using you for the way you look together, if he cares about what you look like together then you deserve better. leave him.

Do you think hes shallow?

Related discussions

Articles for you