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Post-drinking guilt

Whenever I wake up, having been drinking the night before, I feel tremendously guilty. Moreso if I got drunk, but even if I just had a couple of beers, I feel like I've done something terrible. I just recall the night before and imagine myself saying stupid things and offending people, even if I didn't do anything remotely like that. Take today as an example - last night I got home rather late and rather drunk and couldn't open the door with my key (it is a tricky lock at the best of times) so I rang the doorbell and my housemate let me in. She didn't mind - she just laughed at me a little - but when I think about that I just feel like such a jerk. If anyone else did it I wouldn't think any less of them, but for some reason I think the rules are different for me. It is like I want to be completely in control all the time, and I am scared of what things I might do when I am not so in control. I'm not sure what to do - I don't intend to give up drinking, so basically I would like to figure out why I feel so horrible the next day and get over it. Any ideas?

Reply 1

c0co

12

It can be embarassing lookin back on things the morning after- I sometimes get that too but I think the guilty feeling comes from the realization that you really wouldn't have done this or that when sober.

Reply 2

saoirse

10

i get this- i know exactly what you mean. even if nothing remotely bad happens i still feel ive lost control and people will think less of me...really stupid! like the OP i dont want to quit drinking, cos its not like i get really hammered when i go out...

i dont know. one way of rationalising it is to remind yourself of what your friends/ housemates/ acquaintances have done when tipsy or drunk- ranging from cheerful harmless stuff which is just a bit more exuberant cos of the drink, to downright embarrassing stuff :biggrin:

i think its a sign of a bit of a control freak :p:

Reply 3

Pandy

10

I wish I felt guilt for things like that :P

Reply 4

so_this_is_sam

3

I always get hammered when i go out, the only regret i feel however if for my liver. just remember everyone (with the odd exception) gets drunk, so why shld u have to feel any different about it

Reply 5

Mark S

17

Anonymous

Whenever I wake up, having been drinking the night before, I feel tremendously guilty. Moreso if I got drunk, but even if I just had a couple of beers, I feel like I've done something terrible. I just recall the night before and imagine myself saying stupid things and offending people, even if I didn't do anything remotely like that.

Same with me on a school trip, everyone was quiet and no one spoke much the mornings after, but that was because everyone was hungover, not because i had done something wrong.

Reply 6

Danny the Geezer

21

Anonymous

Whenever I wake up, having been drinking the night before, I feel tremendously guilty. Moreso if I got drunk, but even if I just had a couple of beers, I feel like I've done something terrible. I just recall the night before and imagine myself saying stupid things and offending people, even if I didn't do anything remotely like that. Take today as an example - last night I got home rather late and rather drunk and couldn't open the door with my key (it is a tricky lock at the best of times) so I rang the doorbell and my housemate let me in. She didn't mind - she just laughed at me a little - but when I think about that I just feel like such a jerk. If anyone else did it I wouldn't think any less of them, but for some reason I think the rules are different for me. It is like I want to be completely in control all the time, and I am scared of what things I might do when I am not so in control. I'm not sure what to do - I don't intend to give up drinking, so basically I would like to figure out why I feel so horrible the next day and get over it. Any ideas?

It's a familiar thing....I get it, and I'm sure most people do.

Reply 7

Docalex007

1

This subject is a pathetic one. Why do you people drink something that can be used as a fuel to power automobiles (ethanol = alcohol = what the Brazilians pump into their cars at gas stations). :confused:

Just stop drinking altogether. You DON'T need it - trust me.

Reply 8

Clarence

14

Im feeling hungover and regretable.

Oh the joy's of an 18th birthday!

Reply 9

Lillybut

1

wish i was 18 again *sigh*

Reply 10

Ferrus

19

Yes, I'm never guilty for the drinking in itself, but I usually feel compunctions over what I did.

Reply 11

wendizzle22

1

I *always* end up feeling like an idiot after a drunken night out! It usually involved having danced like an absolute fool and not being able to put sentences together right. It's ok if I just get drunk with my boyfriend at his place, but if any members of the public were involved then *blush!*

Reply 12

fairycakes

12

ah, u could try not drinking or drinking less for a while, try living with no guilt, at least you'll know what it feels like...and may help u stop acting like such an idiot.

Reply 13

puppy

Anonymous

Whenever I wake up, having been drinking the night before, I feel tremendously guilty. Moreso if I got drunk, but even if I just had a couple of beers, I feel like I've done something terrible. I just recall the night before and imagine myself saying stupid things and offending people, even if I didn't do anything remotely like that. Take today as an example - last night I got home rather late and rather drunk and couldn't open the door with my key (it is a tricky lock at the best of times) so I rang the doorbell and my housemate let me in. She didn't mind - she just laughed at me a little - but when I think about that I just feel like such a jerk. If anyone else did it I wouldn't think any less of them, but for some reason I think the rules are different for me. It is like I want to be completely in control all the time, and I am scared of what things I might do when I am not so in control. I'm not sure what to do - I don't intend to give up drinking, so basically I would like to figure out why I feel so horrible the next day and get over it. Any ideas?

Maybe you should give up drinking if it makes you feel that way. There's no reason why it shouldn't make you feel bad: drinking makes people annoying and stupid and it's bad for your health. I think it's good that you register the fact that you've been endangering your health and being out of control. People who don't like being out of control are really not suited to things like drinking and taking drugs.

Can I ask why you don't want to give it up if it makes you feel bad? Do the pros outweigh the cons and if so, what are they?

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

Docalex007

This subject is a pathetic one. Why do you people drink something that can be used as a fuel to power automobiles (ethanol = alcohol = what the Brazilians pump into their cars at gas stations). :confused:

Just stop drinking altogether. You DON'T need it - trust me.

I know that I don't need, but I do enjoy it, even if it is just a glass of wine with dinner, or cold beer at a picnic in the summer, or some cocktails in a bar. It isn't like I don't have a good time if I'm not drunk - as it is, I don't always drink when I go out, sometimes because I'm driving, sometimes because I just don't feel like it. Also, your point about it being used to fuel cars is neither here nor there - that's not what the issue at hand is, and in any case, I'm pretty sure they don't use martinis.

fairycakes

ah, u could try not drinking or drinking less for a while, try living with no guilt, at least you'll know what it feels like...and may help u stop acting like such an idiot.

You are missing my point, fairycakes! I don't drink much (although I admit I get hammered once in a while) and I don't act like "such an idiot" (not any more than usual, anyway). My point is that even if I just have a couple of drinks, I feel really anxious about the whole thing for no reason.

Clarence

Im feeling hungover and regretable.

Oh the joy's of an 18th birthday!

Happy birthday! :biggrin:

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

puppy

Maybe you should give up drinking if it makes you feel that way. There's no reason why it shouldn't make you feel bad: drinking makes people annoying and stupid and it's bad for your health. I think it's good that you register the fact that you've been endangering your health and being out of control. People who don't like being out of control are really not suited to things like drinking and taking drugs.

Can I ask why you don't want to give it up if it makes you feel bad? Do the pros outweigh the cons and if so, what are they?

The thing is that I'm not usually out of control. I don't have a very good memory at the best of times, but if I have been drinking and I can't remember every detail of what I did, I kind of assume that something dreadful must have happened that I've blanked out. And I don't want to give up drinking because I know I'm being irrational. There isn't really any reason for me to feel this way, and I try and reason with myself in this way, but inevitably I still spend the day feeling really embarrassed. If I see people I know being drunk, I can recognise that yeah, they're being annoying and stupid, but I don't think any less of them, because that's what drunk people do. But if I imagine myself in that state, I'm being far less charming and endearing and just, well, annoying and stupid. And even if I imagine myself being a nice drunk, I still want to curl up and hide for a while. It doesn't make sense, but hey, what should I do?