Giving a girl your number instead of asking for theirs..

Giving her your number is a good tactic, it comes across as more confident, and makes her make the next move. It's like saying "I'm not going to chase you, but if you're interested, you've got the option".

Personally I'd like it more if a guy gave me his number, as then it would avoid the risk of waiting around for ages and being let down, and I don't like being contacted by unknown numbers, but that's just me!. But then of course the guy is waiting around not knowing! Swapping numbers would be good, so you're both on equal footing.

But then, they might be like 'ooh, I'll wait for him/her to text first as I don't want to seem overly keen!'

As a girl, I can see how this might seem to guys like a solution to their problems, but it's a bit trickier than that and you could actually end up losing out if you play it this way. The thing is, is that girls have been socially conditioned to not make the first move, and a lot of girls will class texting a guy who has given them their number as making the first move, completely missing the fact that the guy made the first move by giving the girl their number. Yes, it's that bad. If a guy gave me their number and I was interested I would text them, definitely. But not all girls are like that. If you give a girl your number and she's got a thing about not texting a guy first, then she probably won't text and you won't be able to text her because you didn't get her number.

Are girls really like that?? Well thats just pathetic...."oh im not texting him first, cos I have a "thing" he has to text me first"

Attraction is ****ed up.

Giving the girl your number by choice is better, because if you just ask fir hers the least awkward thing for her to do is give you a number sometimes not hers. Why not exchange numbers by sending a text whilst in eachothers company.


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Sadly, there are girls like that out there. But if a girl has that attitude, would you really want to date her? I'm guessing no.

I give them my number, and it always works better. It causes them to invest in you and send the first text, and makes them feel like they're chasing you. Although tbh the content of what you're texting is much more important than who texts first.

As a girl, I can see how this might seem to guys like a solution to their problems, but it's a bit trickier than that and you could actually end up losing out if you play it this way. The thing is, is that girls have been socially conditioned to not make the first move, and a lot of girls will class texting a guy who has given them their number as making the first move, completely missing the fact that the guy made the first move by giving the girl their number. Yes, it's that bad. If a guy gave me their number and I was interested I would text them, definitely. But not all girls are like that. If you give a girl your number and she's got a thing about not texting a guy first, then she probably won't text and you won't be able to text her because you didn't get her number.

Has anyone tried this? Ive always thought that if shes interested she'll give me a text, either way if i get hers and she doesnt text back, then thatd be more awkward no?

Whats your opinion guys?