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What qualities do you find attractive in a man?

Good with children?
Big earner?
Academically gifted?

Interesting topic, but equally, what qualities do you find unnattractive in a man?

Cheers.

Reply 1

aSian_cUtY

All those are good on the list...if you are looking to get married..but personally..where im at right now..i want a guy who is funny and interesting!

Reply 2

q1w2e3r4t5y

*sigh* This has been done to DEATH!

Reply 3

Sejanus

7

Anonymous

Good with children?
Big earner?
Academically gifted?

Interesting topic, but equally, what qualities do you find unnattractive in a man?

Cheers.

What I find attractive: Intelligence, kindness and willingness to compromise.
What I find unattractive: Arrogance, clinginess and prejudice.

Reply 4

minimo

15

Good with children, loving, honest and academically gifted. Not too bothered about looks so long as they are attractive to me - wouldn't mind if every other woman alive thought he looked like a warthog.

Reply 5

q1w2e3r4t5y

Attractive:
At least my level of intelligence or above but not too clever that I don't know what the hell they're talking about :p:

, not conceited, has twisted humour like me, doesn't overdo it with the compliments, sweet and romantic occassionally, understanding my opinions, likes my kind of music, likes sports, likes staying in and watching a movie with lots of food, isn't really popular, likes food, is open-minded yet has strong beliefs about who they are as a person, likes reading occassionally, is immature from time to time (or most of the time) :p:

, doesn't mind being alone, spontaneous, is NOT materialistic in any shape or form, gifted in something creative such as a musical instrument, or art, or writings.

Unnattractiveness includes:
Clinginess!
Too cocky, thinks they're always right every time, thinks they are superior or makes generalisations such as "you won't understand this cos you're not a guy", is obsessed with their looks. I know a few good looking guys who obsess about their hair and clothes, and it's really off putting and a turn off, easily angered, too stubborn, violent (trying to prove their manliness), doesn't accept new things or doesn't like change, won't try new foods.

(not a definite list) :biggrin:

Reply 6

Ludivine

Confidence.

Reply 7

Jason_K

1

When you say won't try new foods what if say they are veggie and wont try meat?

Reply 8

leona

12

Attractive: Intelligence (incl. ability to hold a conversation!), down to earth, good with kids, nice, funny, don't take themselves too seriously. I'm not overly bothered about looks.

Unattractive: This is WAY easier to think of! Guys who obsess over football, tits, booze, fit birds, tits, fit birds and their tits, football, lager. Guys who cant have a normal conversation with you because they're too busy figuring out whether they'd like to have sex with you. Arrogance. Meanness!

Reply 9

Caster Troy2

leona

Guys who cant have a normal conversation with you because they're too busy figuring out whether they'd like to have sex with you.

Just about every guy then

Reply 10

sophisti_kate

Attractive: Intelligence, dry wit, caring, insightful, strong opinions, independent, mucks in with everything, good cook, understanding, likes a night in with the TV...

Unattractive: Ignorant and doesn't care about it, showing off, being PC, arrogance, stuck in their ways...

Reply 11

graveyarddreams

13

Good aspects: Creative, spiritual, high intelligence, poetic, likes the same kind of music/ literature, open- minded, thoughtful, generous, calm, passionate towards their believes/ hobbies, strong- minded, understanding
bad aspects: arrogant, chauvinistic, racist, narrow- mindedness, like to generalise, popular, chavvy, vain, money- obssessed...

Reply 12

Enchanté

14

I like a guy if:
He has a nice personality
Doesn't think about his self
Doen't cheat on you
Gets on well with your friends and vice versa
Gets on well with your family and vice versa

Reply 13

El Stevo

11

god if i found a woman who actually liked those traits as opposed to romanticised about them i'd be impressed.

Reply 14

q1w2e3r4t5y

Starsurfer

When you say won't try new foods what if say they are veggie and wont try meat?

Well if they have strong beliefs about something ethical or health reasons then that doesn't apply. I suppose it mainly applies to exotic fruits, has anyone ever tried du'rian (can't spell it)? It smells disgusting but tastes really good (I eventually found) and the kind of attitude where someone refuses to try something even once is a bit of something I find a bit unattractive.

Reply 15

Lush Law

15

Confidence (howev not arrogance), intelligence, wit, good looks, style, sense of humour, caring.

graveyarddreams - there's nothing wrong with a guy being popular, surely? As long as he's not arrogant with it. Popularity can be a good thing!

Reply 16

AYE

10

leona

Attractive: Intelligence (incl. ability to hold a conversation!), down to earth, good with kids, nice, funny, don't take themselves too seriously. I'm not overly bothered about looks.

Unattractive: This is WAY easier to think of! Guys who obsess over football, tits, booze, fit birds, tits, fit birds and their tits, football, lager. Guys who cant have a normal conversation with you because they're too busy figuring out whether they'd like to have sex with you. Arrogance. Meanness!