(Original post by Anonymous)
I have never had a proper relationship by any means, never pulled a guy that I coun't or anything. I am almost 18 years old and I do feel I should of had a relationship by now.
When I like a guy.. I really like them and get overly obsessed with them. I know this puts them off me but I don't think that is the only reason. I think its becasue I am ugly and some people just wont give me a chance from that.
I do have male friends and I know they would never like me in that way (and I am sure it is because of the way I look).
I know I need to get over this mentality but I just don't know what I do wrong.. at the moment there is a guy I really like- I am claiming I have got over him at the moment because I now know I have no chance and it is just hurting me even more..
I personally like his personality, I don't find him extremely physically attractive. All I want is to know someone likes me in the same way as I like them and to feel "hugged".
People say when you are content with yourself, relationships just come but plently of my friends do not feel content with themselves and they have guys all the time! I do actually feel quite content with myself.. it's just I don't think I am very attractive and don't know how anyone else could look at me in that way..
my dear, there will always be someone out there for you. you just haven't found him yet. why are you worrying about it? you're only 18! there isn't any NEED to be in a relationship if you're 18 years old. I'm barely 18 myself, and I've only ever had ONE boyfriend. you're not ugly, you just think you are. be confident of yourself and your inner beauty will shine through; that counts the most. if a guy dates you just cos you're pretty, then he's a jerk who just wants a trophy girlfriend. my advice to you is just to wait. Don't look for that One Guy. Wait for him. He'll show up. You still have so many years...enjoy it while you still can.
You're attractive in your own way. NEVER compare yourself to prettier girls because that will just cause your self-esteem to plummet. Instead, think about your positive qualities. List them down and stick them to your dressing table mirror. Read it every day to remind yourself. I'm sure that your guy friends are your guy friends because they like something about you
Even if it isn't possible to push them into the boyfriend category, there are lots of other guys out there.
Just don't actively search for a boyfriend because it becomes obvious and makes you look desperate. Make friends and wait for him to show up. You're beautiful in your own special way regardless of what other people tell you. If they tell you you're yucky and stuff, it's because they're jealous that you have what they don't have.
Cheer up girl. You are attractive, and if I were your friend for real, I would keep hitting you. :P And about your friends not being content with themselves and still having boyfriends and you being the opposite, maybe it's because they're being someone they're not to get over their insecurities. Be who you are, because that is who you really are.