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To prom or not to prom?

To make a long, overly dramatic story short, prom is in a few weeks and it's not going to work out like I had hoped. I am most likely not going to have a date (this is where all the drama occurred) and so I am currently facing a dilemma as I will have to buy a dress, etc. soon if I do decide to go.

My options are: ask someone who I don't know very well, tag along with a friend and her date, go alone, or not go at all. None of them are very appealing, but the guy who was supposed to ask me and all of my guy friends are being unhelpful so they're not options. What do I do? Thanks!

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Reply 1

strawberry

well there's nothing wrong with not having a date. just go and hang out with your friends! as for me, I don't see what the big deal about prom is..:P

Reply 2

mt29

go with your friends! its not about your date, its about the end of an era at school with mates.

Reply 3

dede

All of my friends have dates ... I'm really quite upset about this, and I feel dumb for being upset, but I don't know, I guess I feel left out or something.

But you're right, it is about being with friends I guess.

Reply 4

strawberry

yes it is. I only went to my old school senior prom to see my friends...though I kinda had a date cos I had a boyfriend at the time. :P

Reply 5

stirlingboy

PROM seriously don't miss out! It was one of the very best experiences of my school years. If you miss out you will be seriously disappointed! honestly you have to go!!!!

Reply 6

strawberry

lol that's great for you...but not necessarily for others

Reply 7

Caribou

don't worry too much about prom... I don't think i missed much by not going...went surfing instead :biggrin:

Reply 8

SeanC

Prom can be a good evening, but its not just about going out on a date... Sure the dancing and flirting is always good but I found my prom to be more about talking to friends and basically have a good bye before leaving for differant colleges / full time work... You'll find alot of people go in groups of friends and will definitely ask you to dance when you get there as long as you dont seem unapproachable; just relax and have a good time. The post prom parties are always a laugh too.

Reply 9

stirlingboy

Sorry thats what i meant. Prom is a way, as Baz Lhurmann says, of fishing the past from the disposal wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than its worth and also that the older you get the more you will need the people you knew when you were young.

Reply 10

TheWildChild

hardly anyone went with dates at my school prom. if they did, they didnt GO with them, simply spent SOME time with them while they were there! so muchy better i think that way

Reply 11

tanusha-tomsk

I think you should go. Will there be a dinner as well? Cos we are having a 4 course meal :biggrin:

It's hard because all your friends have dates. The above posts are good - it's not about dates and showing off, it's about saying good bye to school and classmates you've spend years with!

We decided that no-one is to bring a date, because then everyone will come and we'll have 100% of our classmates and not 50-50% of classmates/strangers.

Reply 12

ciara

This isn't a film. Go, and don't worry about not having a date, you'll have a good time anyway as long as you don't get hung up over it!

Reply 13

Revd. Mike

Our prom is basically just another party, only this time at a much classier venue with everyone dressed up and a band. Most people in our 6th form aren't going with dates.

Reply 14

c0co

Ask someone at your school whose really geeky and in no way would have a date. You'd have someone to go with and you'd probably make his year! Just make it clear that your going as friends and if your worried about what your freinds would think...who cares cause your leaving school soon anyways.

Reply 15

Ronaldo VII

You dont have a date so do something about it. Dont wait for someone to ask you, it shouldn't always be the lads that have to do the asking. If you want a date for the prom, go find one

Reply 16

quintsy

I'm so lucky I go to an all girls' school, where at the prom only a few people bring dates due to limited space. :smile:

Anyway, what everyone has said so far is right. I know the prom in all of these films comes across as this romantic event where everyone has a date and the other people are outcasted. But it isn't usually like that at all. More often than not, people will just come with their friends to have a good time, and for an excuse to dress up. :smile:

Talk to your friends who don't have dates and arrange for you to come together if you feel embarrassed about not having a date. But I'm sure you'll soon forget about it anyway once you're there!

Good luck! :smile:

Reply 17

Bis

i wouldn't go, judged on what i saw of american 'proms'.

Reply 18

rockthecasbah

Seriously, just go, it doesn't matter if you have a date or not! I didn't have a date... I was a bit worried, but then on the door a girl in my class had brought along some extra blokes (I go to a girls' school) so he just escorted me in (good thing too I couldn't walk up the stairs in my shoes haha).

I had so much fun, plus I didn't have that fear of thinking my date was bored, or that if I talked to other boys/went off that he would be jealous. Prom isn't about the dates and the boys- it's about having some fun with your friends and having a good time! If you think you won't have fun with your date, then don't bother- not worth the hassle! I tagged along with my friend (for lift purposes lol) and she actually detested her date. She only invited him as a last resort and in the end she kinda wished she didn't invite him. Go with what you feel is right :smile:

Reply 19

Kate.

No one really bothered about having dates for the prom at ours. We just all stuck with our friends...
I wasn't going to go to my prom, but I'm glad I did in the end - even if the best bit was the party after, haha. It was still nice though. I'd go if I were you.