Guys - would you date a girl 6 or 7 years older than you? even marry her?

girl is 29/30, guy has just turned 23.

will it work?

the girl is one of my mates. she says age doesnt matter, but i say her bio clock is ticking, and he is way too young. they are both students, but religious so will be dating to marry.

i see this quite alot. Personally if i was that age and a girl, i'd date older. i think older guy/ younger woman works much better than the other way round

what do you think?

Reply 1

dan-dream-boys

8

Well for me personally, it is unlikely I would date a woman 7 years older than me. But if she was really special and I thought she was "the one", I don't see why it would be a problem.

Reply 2

shinytoy

OP

18

Original post by dan-dream-boys

Well for me personally, it is unlikely I would date a woman 7 years older than me. But if she was really special and I thought she was "the one", I don't see why it would be a problem.

how old are you? what if you met her at uni and you were both studying? why would you not? if she was fairly hot, would you date her then freak out at her age? just curious.

if i was a 23 year old guy i'd bag a nice 18 year old girl tbh

Reply 3

MancBoy

12

From all the cases I know where young guys gets with older women (7+ years), the guy always breaks up with the woman. I think its because the women tends to get a bit desperate and needy because of that 'biological clock' thing.

Reply 4

shinytoy

OP

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Original post by MancBoy

From all the cases I know where young guys gets with older women (7+ years), the guy always breaks up with the woman. I think its because the women tends to get a bit desperate and needy because of that 'biological clock' thing.

how long does it usually last roughly, before they realise age is an issue?

Reply 5

Jakeh

12

Age wouldn't be a major factor, if i liked everything about her, why not.

Reply 6

foolscap

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Original post by shinytoy

if i was a 23 year old guy i'd bag a nice 18 year old girl tbh

So crass ! For sex yes but for a proper relationship I wouldn't, the difference in maturity when you're younger is too much. I was a different person a year ago, let alone 5 years. Me being a still fairly young guy, I'd say up to 2 years younger, and up to 1 year older - as you get older though the age gap becomes less significant.

My only worry for your friend is that she's going to want children soon, this guy can't have been in a job too long and he's going to be asked to make a huge commitment at a relatively young age - if they can make it work then they can make it work, but make sure they understand what they're getting in to. See if she really wants the life of a cougar :laugh:

Reply 7

Drunk Punx

19

From what my dad says (from personal experience of his), "older women only want to put a ring on your finger".

Not interested in that kinda mentality tbh, and while I realise that not everybody is the same, I'd still not risk it for a biscuit just on the off chance that he's right. I mean, there's older, and then there's older.

Reply 8

MancBoy

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Original post by shinytoy

how long does it usually last roughly, before they realise age is an issue?

Its usually when the woman gets desperate to settle down i.e marriage, kids etc.

Reply 9

shinytoy

OP

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Original post by MancBoy

Its usually when the woman gets desperate to settle down i.e marriage, kids etc.

assuming she said this wasnt an issue, would you believe her and date her?

my other friend is dating a 32 year old lady and she says she is in no hurry and doesnt mind if she has kids. i think she'd lying so as not to scare off guys??

also what age do you stop calling a female a 'girl' and start calling them a 'lady' / 'woman'

Reply 10

MancBoy

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Original post by shinytoy

assuming she said this wasnt an issue, would you believe her and date her?

my other friend is dating a 32 year old lady and she says she is in no hurry and doesnt mind if she has kids. i think she'd lying so as not to scare off guys??

also what age do you stop calling a female a 'girl' and start calling them a 'lady' / 'woman'

No I wouldn't. There are women out there that dont want marriage or kids but its a very small minority so I wont buy it.

I myself have been in situation when the woman was 10 years older than me. She was often really needy and desperate. She also used to cry when I would go away (I only used to visit her a few times a week due to distance). I eventually broke it up with her because it was getting too much and inevitably we both wanted different things.

A lot of older women do lie about the no commitments thing to keep hold of the younger guy but it usually will come up at some point in the relationship.

I'd call a female a 'lady' or 'woman' when she is around 25+

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 11

Classical Liberal

19

Thought about this. And although I do prefer maturer girls. 6-7 years is too much. 2 or 3 could work.

Reply 12

Aoide

11

I wouldn't see that sort of age gap as a problem however it depends on the girl. It would be a problem if she wanted to settle down but since I don't want to get married or have children this would be an issue with any age.

Reply 13

mattyb17

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I only operate on a 3 year age gap, wouldnt go out with anyone over the ages of 17 or 23; however I dont see much of a problem for other people though :smile:

, if the younger person in the relationship was a teenager then maybe not but 21+ = mature adult so I dont see a big problem with that!

Reply 14

2ndClass

3

Hell no. Women lose their looks with age. Their 20s, mid 30 are their prime years. Just look at any woman in her late 30s/early 40s in the street and that's who you'll end up shacked up with. It's part of the reason why the get so desperate with age. In their 20s, they have so many "requirements" to date someone. But as soon as they hit their late 30s, as long as they guy isn't bald and has a steady job, she'll be following you around like a puppy. Conversely, men age better and it's part of the reason why women date men 10-20 years old than them. It's sort of perverted in a way, but I'm not complaining.

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 15

Signorita23

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Original post by 2ndClass

Hell no. Women lose their looks with age. Their 20s, mid 30 are their prime years. Just look at any woman in her late 30s/early 40s in the street and that's who you'll end up shacked up with. It's part of the reason why the get so desperate with age. In their 20s, they have so many "requirements" to date someone. But as soon as they hit their late 30s, as long as they guy isn't bald and has a steady job, she'll be following you around like a puppy. Conversely, men age better and it's part of the reason why women date men 10-20 years old than them. It's sort of perverted in a way, but I'm not complaining.

I wouldn't personally consider a woman in her 30's to be in her prime at all. At 30/31 a woman's fertility rate drops sharply and ageing starts to kick in. Although I'm not 30+ I found your post quite offensive as you made out that a woman above her 30's will get with any man with hair and cash. How degrading . :mad:

Reply 16

username447608

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Well my boyfriend is 4 years older than me and it works out fine as he is a guy he is pretty immature but also has made me mature,

However if I was a 28 year old women, I would be thinking in terms of marriage and babies no doubt about it I wouldnt waste my time dating a guy at 29 if I didnt think it would result in marriage, the guys 23 the same age as my boyfriend and Im not for one minute saying all guys are the same but my boyfriend and his friends are no way near any sort of marriage age they still class themselevs as young and enjoy going out doing boys things. Generally you would say it wouldnt work however if the guys willing to try and she is let them see

Reply 17

snozzle

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Rarely works long term I reckon. I know a few people from work where they married women like up to ten years older than them. Sounds cool when you are 20 and your wife is 30 but when you are 40 your wife is 50 and past the menopause. 40 is still quite young for a guy and women in there 20s are available to him if he isn't fat and ugly.

Reply 18

snozzle

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Original post by 2ndClass

Hell no. Women lose their looks with age. Their 20s, mid 30 are their prime years. Just look at any woman in her late 30s/early 40s in the street and that's who you'll end up shacked up with. It's part of the reason why the get so desperate with age. In their 20s, they have so many "requirements" to date someone. But as soon as they hit their late 30s, as long as they guy isn't bald and has a steady job, she'll be following you around like a puppy. Conversely, men age better and it's part of the reason why women date men 10-20 years old than them. It's sort of perverted in a way, but I'm not complaining.

That's partly true, women get less picky as they get older to some extent, the really picky, mercenary types, either end up bitter in soul destroying marriages where the only consolation is money, or broke and bitter and twisted. It's amazing how loss of youth and looks reveal the real women I think, and the pride some have just vanishes into thin air.

Reply 19

Isadora

My cousin was nearly 28 and her boyfriend was 22 when they started going out and they've been together for nearly 3 years now. They're not engaged or anything like that, whether they will soon as she's now 30 coming up to 31 I don't know.

I also know someone whose husband is 9 years younger than her and they've been married for at least 15 years. She had their daughter when she was 36 and he was 27. And I know someone else who's 40, her partner is 28 and they've just had a baby. I don't see why a woman having a boyfriend a lot younger then her is such a big deal. When I'm 40 I definitely want to bag myself a toy boy. :biggrin:

Guys - would you date a girl 6 or 7 years older than you? even marry her?

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