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age gap?!?!?

hey ive got big dilemma!!!We meet on msn and we're going to meet in couple of weeks. t
he main problem is the age gap (i am 18 she 14), what would ppl think about us?? do u think i should still go out with her (i really do like her and i no she does too)???
the scond thing is she is white and am black. She’ve told me this is not a problem. but am going 2meet her in her town were is hardly a black person. So wot would her mates or mom think???
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reply 1

username9303

3

Age is only a number at the end of the day, if she looks older then it's not a major problem. I imagine her mates will think something along the lines of: "well she's going to be getting a great sex life" lol. Unless her mum is racist it shouldn't be a problem; try going out with her a few times before you make the step to meet her parents.

Reply 2

littleking02

OP

i am going over there and her mom want to see me (she already know i am black). and after couple of hours she will leave us alone.

Reply 3

zav

14

Hope her dad is not a member of the NF,C18 or the BNP. If he is punch him.

Apart from that there is 4 years which is alot at ur age so be careful with what u do as sex will be counted as rape

Otherwise enjoy

Reply 4

wazza07

13

Well all I can say is that if you do meet and end up getting giggy with it -make sure you both keep quiet about it as you could get into a lot of trouble if parents or anyone like that finds out.

Personally I wouldn't go ahead with it but ultimately we can only give you advice here.

Reply 5

username9303

3

littleking02

i am going over there and her mom want to see me (she already know i am black). and after couple of hours she will leave us alone.

Well unless you look like a complete thug, there shouldn't be any worries :smile:

Perhaps you should try to avoid doing too much sexually (if that was your intention) on this first date, because you don't really want to cock it all up at the very beginning.

Reply 6

freshestkid

1

I'd be VERY VERY careful, i'm sure you're not some paedo from your post, but usually i would count this as exploitation on the part of the 18 year old of a naive and immature girl (cos that's what a 14 is), and have 'physically warned' people about it in the past. Tread lightly mate and if she has any big brothers make sure you are in their good books as i'm sure they would be very suspicious. If you break her heart (ie **** 'er and chuck 'er) be prepared to go into hiding for a LONG time.

edited: to make my position clearer.

Reply 7

Caribou

1

well the race issue shuldnt have to be an issue.. but the age issue kinda is.. don't go younger than 16. 14 is a child still no matter how she perceives herself

Reply 8

Caribou

1

HagerVor

well the race issue shuldnt have to be an issue.. but the age issue kinda is.. don't go younger than 16. 14 is a child still no matter how she perceives herself

or you perceive her

Reply 9

Lofty

13

You're coming across as pretty responsible to me, meeting in a busy place etc. :smile:

Off topic, just noticed that my text mouse icon thingy looks a bit weird???

Reply 10

hippieglitter

19

He didn't say he was gonna have sex with her. In my opinion its fine, my boyf is 5 years older than me, i know that is kinda different cos i'm 19 but, if he is ok with the no sex thing and she is happy to be with an older guy then let them.
Everytime we get a thread like this everyone is all of a sudden hearing alarm bells about sex, not everyone is sex mad, some people actually care about the girls they are with, and are happy to wait until its legal.
If you did do it you wouldn't be done for rape unless she didn't consent and it was actually rape but you would be done for unlawful sex. You would only be done for rape with or wothout consent if she was under the age of 13.

Reply 11

UtterNutter69

olliemccowan

Your opinions of me are irrelevant.

And you're boring me. :bebored:

OP: If you carry on with her then you must understand that you cant shag her until she's old enough. Its illegal and immoral.

Reply 12

prettyinpunk

you just have to respect that no matter how mature she is she's still a kid - you'll have experienced a lot more than she has and i'm not just talking about sex...i'm sure you'll be respectful towards her and everything but just be aware that whilst she says she might be up for stuff, inside she'll probably be a bit intimidated so try to be a bit more aware of it than you usually would :smile:

Reply 13

username9303

3

Thanks dogtanian.

But yeah, as long as you don't create a negative impression of yourself you shouldn't have a problem at all.

It wasn't me.

dogtanian

It wasn't me.

Ah right, well thanks whoever got rid of him.

Reply 16

littleking02

OP

thanx all boyz and girlz. she made some coments about sex and my penies and all i said was we better wait mybe year or 2. hope i didnt break her heart by saying this.

Reply 17

username9303

3

littleking02

thanx all boyz and girlz. she made some coments about sex and my penies and all i said was we better wait mybe year or 2. hope i didnt break her heart by saying this.

I doubt very much she was interested in you purely for the sex, it's more a conversation that you two need to have in person. But good luck :smile:

Reply 18

xXMessedUpXx

15

littleking02

hey ive got big dilemma!!!We meet on msn and we're going to meet in couple of weeks. t
he main problem is the age gap (i am 18 she 14), what would ppl think about us?? do u think i should still go out with her (i really do like her and i no she does too)???
the scond thing is she is white and am black. She’ve told me this is not a problem. but am going 2meet her in her town were is hardly a black person. So wot would her mates or mom think???
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!