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    Ok basically, I like my really good friend, we click so well togeather, and I *think* he feels the same way, but I'm never going to find out if I don't tell him how I feel, so I'm going to do it tonight (If I have the guts lol)

    But I don't know how to slip it in the convo! I can't just come out with it randomly. So need some help from you guys! How do I tell him!?!?

    If he doesn't feel the same I'm gona be so hurt, and what do I say if he doesn't feel the same way!?

    Thanks in advance
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    I had exactly the same thing.. thing is the guy didn't like me the same way.. He never told me how he felt ecactly though so I hardly got over him. Only very recently I have got over him and we are not so close anymore. I pushed things way too much and made myself into a joke.
    The first time I told him I liked him, I gave him scenarios and hyperthetical qs.. he knew what I was talking about though. I probable should of left it there..
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    Aww sorry to hear that.

    This guy is like my best friend! Known him for 6 years!! He told me he liked me 3 years ago, but the other day he kind of dropped a hint! I said I don't want to go out with someone whos been out with a lot of girls, and he sed well you should tell someone if you like them, if you got the chance because they might get someone else if you leave it to late.

    So I'm thinking that was a hint for me to tell him! I don't know
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    (Original post by p00p)
    "I like you"
    yeh I'm planning to say that, but how do I drop it in the convo!! lol It's easier said than done you know.
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    Yeh well, this guy had only been with one girl and we got really close in the summer. When I first told him i liked him more than a friend he carried on with the hints but then I think I pushed him away and then he stopped texting me and stuff. We went on to speaking on the phone and things but it all went wrong! To be honest I don't knwo what to do now, I've decided I am finally over him but I still want to be friends with him.. it is really hard.
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    I was close to telling a really good mate how I think I felt about him the other night, but just as I was getting close to saying something, something else came up which meant I'd lost the opportunity for then.

    The big trouble is that we are both guys and I've never felt like this about a guy before and as far as I know he is completely straight too. I don't even know really if what I'm feeling is real or not or just based on me feeling he is a really great person and friend. But never mind for now.

    Good luck if you manage to say something to the one you like and lets hope it all works out for the best for you.
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    ^ aww thanx, if you are getting these feelings, they are real, you can't help the way you feel. but good luck if you decide to tell him, its much complicated for you though, but still it will make you feel better if you told him.
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    ^ aww thanx, if you are getting these feelings, they are real, you can't help the way you feel. but good luck if you decide to tell him, its much complicated for you though, but still it will make you feel better if you told him.
    Yeah, maybe it would be better if I told him. But I seriously don't want to ruin the friendships in the group we have. We all get on so well. I have told one other friend how I feel and she said I can talk to her about it any time I want. Maybe I will sometime soon, but I've not really had the chance to see her since I've told her the other week.

    But really I'm confused about what these feelings mean. I know they started off just as me seeing him and thinking what a great person he is and how I wished I was more like him. He also seems to have very little self confidence (just like me) in himself actually being a great person, which I cannot understand why he thinks that as I don't really know many people who don't really like him. But maybe it could just have all developed out of this. I don't know really. But this is your thread, so I won't take it over with my problems.

    Good luck to you again
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    Well I told a mate I liked him and he said he liked me back, that's when things got REALLY MESSY, I told him that it was short term beforehand and he said it was fine, but now he's changed his mind and wants me. Things have happened and I've lost a friend. God this is depressing
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    Hmmm, you could try, i don't know if you've guessed already, but i really like you- then pause and to avoid nasty silence then start giving complements and he should warm to you- well, i think it'd work for me.
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    My best friend had a crush on me for a while and wrote me a letter. No one can resist letters. Laying your soul, your heart, your thoughts bare for the reader to trample upon - no one can fail to find the vulnerability totally endearing.

    However, remember that it might be a bit weird to start with if you go out with him because you might have known him a while as friends. And you risk the friendship, obviously. But if you're Y13, you'll be leaving in a few months and probably won't have to see him again if you don't want to. So nothing to lose!
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    A poem is also good. After doing what i've already said, say, and i've written a special poem for you then hand it to him. whilst he's reading it watch his expressions and then prepare what you say according to those and it'll give you time to re-charge briefly.
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    I'm saying this over the phone btw, and I am in YR13, but the thing is its complicated he doesn't live near me, I live in leeds, he lives in London, so I hardly see him, but I'm going down to uni in London in sept. Also I don't want to lose our friendship, as I got so much love for him even as a friend.
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    (Original post by sssh)
    My best friend had a crush on me for a while and wrote me a letter. No one can resist letters. Laying your soul, your heart, your thoughts bare for the reader to trample upon - no one can fail to find the vulnerability totally endearing.
    awwwwwwww nice one. I was touched when i got a valentine's card from a so-called "secret admirer":rolleyes: .
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm saying this over the phone btw, and I am in YR13, but the thing is its complicated he doesn't live near me, I live in leeds, he lives in London, so I hardly see him, but I'm going down to uni in London in sept. Also I don't want to lose our friendship, as I got so much love for him even as a friend.
    Aw.... i know this feeling is very fustrating!:hugs:
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    (Original post by speedstacker)
    Aw.... i know this feeling is very fustrating!:hugs:
    aw thx :hugs:
    I know it is!



    I just rang him omg!! and he was eating! He said to call in 15mins!

    Shall I call in 30? lol
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    aw thx :hugs:
    I know it is!



    I just rang him omg!! and he was eating! He said to call in 15mins!

    Shall I call in 30? lol
    Nah, don't wait that long, he might get bored of waiting for the call. But don't phone bang on the 15 mins. Maybe after 20 mins
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I had exactly the same thing.. thing is the guy didn't like me the same way.. He never told me how he felt ecactly though so I hardly got over him. Only very recently I have got over him and we are not so close anymore. I pushed things way too much and made myself into a joke.
    The first time I told him I liked him, I gave him scenarios and hyperthetical qs.. he knew what I was talking about though. I probable should of left it there..
    Sounds exactly like with my friend- he went through the whole: "There's a girl I really like but I don't know how to tell her" charade. I knew exactly what he was talking about, but it was nice all the same!

    To the OP- the best thing to do is be honest with him, and don't beat around the bush. While sometimes it can be slightly romantic, if he doesn't feel the same way, then you might end up feeling quite embarrassed after the whole: "There's this guy I really like.." spiel.

    Good luck! Just try saying something like: "We've been friends for a long time, and I really feel like we have something special.." and see where it goes from there.
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    OK so I rang him last night! and guess what..he said he was going to sleep! because his mum was he's bloody 19 not 9! but that's what his mum's like. So I was a bit annoyed at this point!! As I finally got the courage to tell him, and then it just all goes down hill, and my confidence is gone, because I think if he really wanted to talk he could of said ring back when his mum is gone. Anyway, so then he goes call me on thursday, and so I said no, you call me. And he said ok. He then text and said sorry, it's cos his mum was getting angry. At this point I don't know what to think, except he don't like me, in that way. And I'm not going to tell him now, as my confidence is now 0!
 
 
 
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