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I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks and things have been kind of awkward since his friend told me he liked me too. I talked to his friend and he said that he wanted me to be happy and that he didn't like me anymore, but since then he's starting doing things that make me feel a little uncomfortable.

It's just little things - like the other night, he was meant to be going out with his friends but stayed in to wait for me to come online so he could talk on msn. He enquires how my relationship is going all the time and glares at the guy I'm with if I'm near him.

I wasn't expecting things to be easy for him...but people are starting to call him a stalker. Should I talk to him? Or leave things to ease themselves out. The guy I'm with says it's just his mate's way of dealing with it.
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charlotte m
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Hmm....sounds a little scary! I don't know, but the only problem is that - as harsh as this may feel, if you talk to the guy that's being stalkerish, he will like any attention you give him. Even if you're only being friendly and not at all flirty or anything.
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Anonymous #1
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He asks random questions...today for instance..what do you prefer; money or good grades?

Really starting to unnerve me...
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Augh, I'm sorry for you- that puts you in such a difficult situation.

If it's making you genuinely uncomfortable I say have another word with your boyfriend. He might have just thought you saw it as an inconvenience when you last mentioned it, but if you stress how it's really making you feel then he might respond a bit differently.

If your boyfriend doesn't take you seriously then it's best to have a word with this chap yourself. Tell him how he is making you feel, and that it can't work. You're seeing someone else, and his behaviour isn't going to make you like him.

If it starts to get a bit more iffy with this guy then you might want to tell your parents or the police. It's a bit extreme, but if it goes quite far it might be the best option.

Good luck!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks and things have been kind of awkward since his friend told me he liked me too. I talked to his friend and he said that he wanted me to be happy and that he didn't like me anymore, but since then he's starting doing things that make me feel a little uncomfortable.

It's just little things - like the other night, he was meant to be going out with his friends but stayed in to wait for me to come online so he could talk on msn. He enquires how my relationship is going all the time and glares at the guy I'm with if I'm near him.

I wasn't expecting things to be easy for him...but people are starting to call him a stalker. Should I talk to him? Or leave things to ease themselves out. The guy I'm with says it's just his mate's way of dealing with it.
I dont really see him as waiting for you and giving your bf funny looks as being a stalker.
I think its something that will be ok in time when this friend deals with it, if it continues tell him what hes doing is making you feel uncomfortable. Honesty is best for this sort of thing
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charlotte m
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It's quite weird behaviour though, and you should trust your gut instinct....better safe than sorry anyway. X X X
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