What Would/Did You Do: Pregnancy

I'm not pregnant (nor have I been) so I'm not really looking for advice as such.... I just wanted to know of peoples opinions & experiences on teenage pregnancy & how it has effected their lives or how you would imagine it would effect you. Hopefully this will turn out into being an interesting discussion. :smile:

Reply 1

angaltrust

i am not a teenager but my brothers(18) girlfriend (17) has just had her baby. they are struggling to cope, since she is still in high school and my brother is in college.

seeing them like that makes me scared should something like this happen, i wouldnt be able to cope. they are basically living on benifits, school bursaries and hand outs.

I am very sorry to say it, but i think if it happened right now, in the place i am at the moment (not ready for changes and not financially stable) i would sadly think of extreme options. i do have a longterm fiance who i know will stand by me whatever i choose but i know he would feel the same. i would prefer to make sure i have a good home, enough money and a nice environment for a baby to be brought up in, little money and rowing regarding this isnt very healthy for the baby.

Reply 2

need_money

9

I have had this to think about before and my decision would probably be to have an abortion. Unless there were other circumstances around it that stopped me (e.g. the father wanted me to keep it making me reconsider) that would definitely be my first option.

Reply 3

Jonatan

13

Dramatic Star

I'm not pregnant (nor have I been) so I'm not really looking for advice as such.... I just wanted to know of peoples opinions & experiences on teenage pregnancy & how it has effected their lives or how you would imagine it would effect you. Hopefully this will turn out into being an interesting discussion. :smile:

As a guy I think I would leave it to the girl in question to decide and make sure she knew that I would support her in any way I could. Basically I don't really have a problem with abortion as long as it is done during early pregnancy before the fetus has had a chance to develop consciousness, and I would definitely not want to pressure the girl into having an abortion if she did not want to, as that could very well give her emotional problems.

Now, if I had been a girl who got pregnant ( OK this is very surreal now, but for the sake of the argument... ) I would probably have tried to get an abortion as soon as possible. Simply put, I don't think it would be responsible to bring a child into the world if I were not absolutely certain that I would be prepared to take care of it. Now before anyone start telling me that it would be even worse to kill it, I don't consider an early embryo to be a baby, I don't consider conception to be some divine starting point in life, I'm not religious, and I really do not think it makes any sense to allow an embryo to develop into a baby if you are not ready to take care of a child. So please, if you disagree with me, feel free to do so, but don't start telling me abortion is murder because I simply do not share your believes on this matter.

Reply 4

rosetinted

2

I don't agree with bringing a child into the world that you can't or won't care for. I am 21, single and about to head to university so if I were to accidentally become pregnant I would decide to have an abortion as soon as possible. I just feel that I couldn't possibly take care of a child right now.

However I'm very careful about using protection and if something goes wrong (like a broken condom) I'll take the morning after pill so I feel that it's a very unlikely situation. An abortion is not something to be taken lightly, it's really a last resort emergency measure.

Reply 5

silverbolt

19

both me and my gf agree that if she got pregnant it would be destroyed niether of us want kids (well she does but not yet) however seeing as we take precautions i doubt it would happen but of course theres always the chance

Reply 6

Barny

17

I honestly don't know what I'd do, and I'll just make 100% sure I don't put myself in that situation for the time being.

Reply 7

Zoecb

11

EFFECT = a noun
AFFECT = a verb

If I got pregnant at this age I'd have an abortion before you could blink twice.
Best to avoid that whole nasty business by being really careful in the first place.

Reply 8

strawberry

13

I don't have experiences but I have opinions. :P
I think that teenage pregnancy is the result of foolish playing around and that having the baby while you're not financially stable and emotionally ready is just a recipe for disaster. in those conditions, it's possible to raise a child wrongly and then have all sorts of future consequences and all that...

Reply 9

mademoiselle84

1

ive almost finished uni and i'm nearly 22....the thing is that if i got pregnant now it wouldn't be abonormal or shocking- like getting pregnant at 15 is. i'm also really quite broody at the moment and although i definitely don't want a child now- i would never be able to give it as good an upbringing as if i was older and richer-i'm sure that i would find the decision to have an abortion far more difficult than i would have done 4 or 5 years ago. in the end though- i think that's what i would have to choose- i want to live my own life before i am responsible for another.

Reply 10

zav

14

Run away and live in a cave.

Has worked for me on many occasions :smile:

Reply 11

icedsilhouette

(Dramatic Star - you have the same avatar as me! it rocks!)

I think if I got pregnant now I don't think I'd have the heart to get rid of it... I'm engaged, so being with the guy I plan to spend the rest of my life with and have a family with makes a big difference to me. If I wasn't with Mark I'd probably get rid. I don't think it's fair to bring a child into the world when you're not ready...

Reply 12

MissSmith

1

i wouldn't get myself into one of those situations in the first place! and i don't now, i would say it would depend on how the child was conceived, ie. if it was a one night stand or a partner but even then i don't do one night stands and to be honest i have no idea what i would do, i don't think any of us really know until they are in that situation.

i live in the area where teenage pregnancy is at its highest in europe, there are about 15 girls and guys in my year who have kids already and my year was small compared to some schools, it was originally about 150 people. (i am 17) i know there have been many more abortions as well so the vibe i get is everyone is TOTALLY different in how they would react.

i suppose it is a very hard decision to make and i don't wish it upon anyone, though people should try to be careful not to be faced with the problem, which i am sure they are. :smile:

Reply 13

SeanC

1

I don't really believe in abortion personally... not even within the 24 week limits etc.. I just feel that everyone is entitled to life, and to despoil and desecrate such an opportunity is to blaspheme against the sanctity of life itself... what greater duty do we owe posterity to than creating the next generation to inherit the world?

Reply 14

high priestess fnord

9

shouldnt there be a poll with this?

i dont want kids. not now, not ever. so i would have an abortion asap. i dont think its right to bring a child into the world if you dont want it. how could you ever support it emotionally knowing that it was basically an 18 year prison sentence??

Reply 15

anjimcflanji

1

I'm glad this thread hasn't decended into the pro life vs pro choice slagging each other off well done! I was watching on the C4 news last night about in the states how theyre trying to ban abortion even if it's due to rape/incestual rape....they should be congratulated because everytime they do something like this it goes wrong. During prohibition the murder rate went up 4 fold...but back to the point. I know that if I was raped I'd get rid of the child. there is no way i could even carry it to term for adoption. there must be many girls who have to face this chioce. Well if they can't get it done legally, then what are they going to do? backstreet drs........you know all know how that will end up.

after meeting someone recently who is older...i was wondering if i was with him and i got pregnant what would i do...and it's like one of the posters said it is harder now than when i was 15. Yes I could get a job and house and everything with him, it just isn't what I want right now...so what to do eh?

Reply 16

strawberry

13

high priestess fnord

shouldnt there be a poll with this?

i dont want kids. not now, not ever. so i would have an abortion asap. i dont think its right to bring a child into the world if you dont want it. how could you ever support it emotionally knowing that it was basically an 18 year prison sentence??

lol I'm not one planning on having kids either.

Reply 17

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

I had a miscarriage a couple of years ago, I didn't know I was pregnant at the time.. but if I hadn't miscarried I would have had a termination as soon as I found out.

Some people on here may think this is callous but my education will always come first.

Reply 18

Kate.

15

I would have it aborted as soon as I could. I wouldn't even think twice about keeping it. I don't want children full stop, and ESPECIALLY not before I'm 25, at least.

Reply 19

zav

14

Even is the girl was considering an abortion run and live in a cave just incase

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