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Virginity and pregnancy?

Am a virgin and my bf and I had the talk early on in our relationship that we both want to wait and so everything was fine, he respected the fact that I want to hold off till I get married before making love. We were making out/fooling around a bit the other day, but pants remained on (by pants I mean underwear) and even though he keeps insisting there's zero chance of me getting pregnant, I am worried cos I am late (I don't have a regular menstrual cycle though so doesn't help matters :frown:

). The past 2 or 3 days, I've just had really light bleeding on/off and it's stopped since. I have never experienced that before and has me even more concerned since I read about how some women can experience implantation bleeding. I was under a lot of stress near the end of last month with uni and went through a lot emotionally so not sure if this is all stress related and that's what has thrown off my cycle. I am a vegetarian as well, so I experience some months where I skip my period, but going to try and get that back to normal now by getting on iron supplements. I just have been extra sensitive as well, just crying easily, feeling bloated and been craving sweets and citrus this past couple of days so thought for sure it was signs I would be getting on my period since that's the normal pre menstrual symptoms for me, but still nothing apart from the light bleeding those few days. Am just feeling scared right now, even though we didn't have intercourse, what is the likelihood that I could be? It's just sad cos I used to be able to talk to my mum about anything and everything and go to her for advise but can't talk to her about this :frown:

. He keeps insisting that there's zero chance, but am a worrywart by nature and the whole irregular bleeding thing has me concerned. Sorry for the long post.

Reply 1

Dramatic Star

2

I believe that there is a minimal chance that you can get pregnant without having sex- it is however very minimal indeed. I would try not to worry. Like you said, it probably is stress that is causing your period to be so light & irregular.

Reply 2

Ronaldo VII

2

I just checked outside and there is no bright shining star, wise men or farm animals so im sure you're not pregnant :biggrin:

Reply 3

Bis

1

almost impossible from what you've said, although you are being a little vague.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Bis

almost impossible from what you've said, although you are being a little vague.

Will try to be a bit less vague, but don't want to be too graphic on here either. There was some petting going on and rubbing up against each other (when he had his trousers on, guess that's termed dry sex?). Then both in our undies and just petting/touching and he was getting "excited" and I pulled my hand away when felt bit of wetness from his boxers and put an end to things. No penetration and didn't want him rubbing up against me in his undies and for things to get out of control. Still worried :frown:

Reply 5

Imster

8

Ronaldo XII

I just checked outside and there is no bright shining star, wise men or farm animals so im sure you're not pregnant :biggrin:

LOL

it doesn't sound like you went far enough to be pregnant, you would only have cause for concern if sperm comes into contact with the vagina in any way, for example if it was on your/his hands (hey don't look at me you did it).

Like I say, I doubt it.

Reply 6

Bis

1

Anonymous

Will try to be a bit less vague, but don't want to be too graphic on here either. There was some petting going on and rubbing up against each other (when he had his trousers on, guess that's termed dry sex?). Then both in our undies and just petting/touching and he was getting "excited" and I pulled my hand away when felt bit of wetness from his boxers and put an end to things. No penetration and didn't want him rubbing up against me in his undies and for things to get out of control. Still worried :frown:

so he didn't 'rub' against you whilst in his boxers? it's still a little vague. did he 'pet' you after you felt the 'wetness'?

Reply 7

Lulu34

its highly unlikely as sperm needs to come in contact with the vagina but if your at all worried do a test to put your mind at rest.

Reply 8

MRLX69

2

Lulu34

its highly unlikely as sperm needs to come in contact with the vagina but if your at all worried do a test to put your mind at rest.

Unless he has super sperm which flies through the air and navigates into the vagina... Stop worrying, from what you described, if you're not pregnant. But if you are then you should be pleased as that child would be VERY special, and be on the look out for three people, they may not be 'wise men' be something will come :biggrin:

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Reply 9

strawberry

13

as long as sperm didn't go anywhere near your vagina you should be all right but do a test just to make yourself feel better about it.

Reply 10

silverbolt

19

have you had sexual education in school or in life?

you are not pregnant so stop being silly, semen actually has to be quite far up your vagina for it to impregnate you. you cant get pregnant through a little wetness on his underwear which chances are was pre-cum. Though it contains sperm you still wouldnt worry about it.

Reply 11

Barny

17

When I first read this I thought you were basically saying:

"Me and my boyfriend were kissing each other in our pants, am I pregnant?"

Its pretty damn hard to get pregnant unless a man ejaculates inside you, and even then, its not a certainty, just think of the amount of people who actively try to have a child together but get nowhere/take forever.

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

how about alternating between kissing and oral sex - any chance that you could get pregnant that way - sperm going in girls mouth, then to boys then to vagina?

Reply 13

leannemarie

11

Anonymous

how about alternating between kissing and oral sex - any chance that you could get pregnant that way - sperm going in girls mouth, then to boys then to vagina?

I really really doubt it.

Reply 14

zav

14

imasillynarb

When I first read this I thought you were basically saying:

"Me and my boyfriend were kissing each other in our pants, am I pregnant?"

Its pretty damn hard to get pregnant unless a man ejaculates inside you, and even then, its not a certainty, just think of the amount of people who actively try to have a child together but get nowhere/take forever.

Classic

As for your question anon2 i don't know of any cases in which you can get pregnent through the mouth u can get STI's though :top:

Reply 15

notsoperfect

1

i'm surprised you actually got to university!

Reply 16

hallucination

1

I very very much doubt you are pregnant.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

strawberry

as long as sperm didn't go anywhere near your vagina you should be all right but do a test just to make yourself feel better about it.

Am worried about when he "pre ejaculated" cos he had his hands down my pants but I don't think he touched himself right after touching me and vice versa, we just slept in the same bed that night afterwards so if he did wipe his hand on the sheets then touched me we should be ok? :frown:

. Am just getting all sorts of weird cravings and been moody/emotional lately, so it's just stressing me out even more and the light very minimal bleeding the other day is what worries me the most because that has never happened before in my menstrual cycle. He kept his pants on the whole time that night so am hoping that it's not possible that he could soak through that layer when he was with me? I know I probably sound silly to the rest of you lot, but am just really paranoid that's something wrong :frown:

. I would rather not take the pregnancy test right now cos it might be too early and would rather just go through the ordeal once by opting for a blood test just to get more accuracy the first time around and a peace of mind! :frown:

Reply 18

randdom

20

It is very unlikely that you are pregnant, I have had a few scares where my cycle has gone crazy for a few months (ie 6 weeks between periods) and it is normally related to stress. My guess is that you are really stress and because you are worried about being pregnant you are starting to see symptoms everywhere. If you are really not going to relax until you know for cirtain that you aren't pregnant then take a pregnancy test you can get them from the chemist or free from a family planning clinic. It is almost impossible so take one to put your mind at rest

Reply 19

shinytoy

18

hey girl!

good on you for waiting until marriage! im doing the same, so dont feel alone. its the best way!

as for your prob it seems unlikely from what you've said although if you touched yourself after you had his pre-cum on your hand, or he touched it then touched you, then maybe it could happen.

as for your pregnancy symptoms, i think its more likely you overreacteing and reading too much into stuff. if you've missed a pd, might be from your worry. do a pregnancy test if you are really afraid - bout £10 from any chemist or Boots.

another thing - even though you are just touching each other and not planning to have sex, if you ant to be extra safe in case things get out of hand, you can get the Pill from the doc's for free. and remember STDs can come from oral sex not just normal intercourse.

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