Friendships

my best friends big personality is hiding me. I am not a quiet person nor is my best friend outragously loud but in all our groups of friends she is the more popular one. It hasnt and won't affect our friendship but I always end up feeling unpopular when around our other friends.
I dont know what to do about it coz it makes me feel really down at times.
It's just little things like all our guy mates txt her all the time and chat with her about everything. It's not coz they fancy her tho, it is jst mates.
She;s not some all popular barbie type character tho, quite the opposite.
This has proved to me that personality really is more important than looks in friendships, as she is not really considered good-looking. (i'm jst trying to put the point across that this is not some Paris Hilton/Miss Priss situation.
I still have lots of the same friends - i'm just not as close.
Any advice on what i should do?

Reply 1

gyrase

Anonymous

Any advice on what i should do?

Nothing?

or u could kill her and become popular.

Reply 2

technik

Gnarl

Nothing?

i concur

Reply 3

Lillybut

ahh sweetie, this used to happen to me, but my friend used to be mean and put me down. So then i always felt beneath her!! But when i got older and started growing more confidence i got over this and started to come out of my shell. When ever she used to say something to me i used to comment back and in the end she stopped. Just try and find your own little path and be happy. Wishin u all the best hun xxx :p:

Reply 4

Aeris

Maybe you should try doing other activities without her. That way people will get to know you better. I'm not saying you guys should stop being friends, but you should have your special times too.

Reply 5

gideon2000uk

I think the FIRST thing you should do is talk to your friend. I've got a best friend in the same situation because of my dominant personality and I'd do anything for him because I care about him so much.

I don't neccessarily feel that being the loudest is always the best though. There have been loads of occasions in our friendship where I've made the initial friendship with someone, only for him to be utterly charming further down the line - and then everyone likes him best!

I guess if this doesn't work doing seperate things could be an option, but you need to communicate with each other as your first priority!

Reply 6

pol_student

Aeris

Maybe you should try doing other activities without her. That way people will get to know you better. I'm not saying you guys should stop being friends, but you should have your special times too.

Reply 7

screenager

Maybe you just need to try harder to be friends with all these people. A lot of the time I can't be bothered making any effort to be friends with people who I don't like very much which means my other friends are more popular than me. It doesn't really bother me because I never feel the need to be friends with those people but when I do talk to them I am always nice so they don't hate me.