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    ok so how meny years older/yonger would you date some one and do u think it make a diffrence

    do u think it should be some one the same age as you or dose it matter
    if one of you are older which one should it be the males or the females that are older

    to me i think that it dosent matter but i would not like the femail to be older then be the same age or a year younger then me
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    (Original post by the sand man)
    ok so how meny years older/yonger would you date some one and do u think it make a diffrence

    do u think it should be some one the same age as you or dose it matter
    if one of you are older which one should it be the males or the females that are older

    to me i think that it dosent matter but i would not like the femail to be older then be the same age or a year younger then me
    I feel the only time age is a problem is when it involves a girl or boy whos under 18, but if both people are adults then i feel age isn't a issue the majority of the time
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    Well, I'm 19 and my gf is 16. Both our parents know about the relationship, and totally approve of it. From the discussions I've had with her regarding this topic, she says that some girls actually prefer guys who are a few years older than them. There are a few reasons for this: Firstly, they tend to be a bit maturer than guys who are younger (I'm talking about guys under 18 here). There's also the whole protection thing; older guys tend to portray a more protective and manly image, which some girls seek in guys. However, this also means that this age gap may cause problems with the girl, if she's younger, as the sense of humour may differ. But I have, so far, not experienced any problems regarding this with my gf, and we've been going out for 18 months now.
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    x/2+7

    Use that for a guide to the ideal age

    X is your own age.

    20/2 = (10 + 7) = 17
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    I had a huge crush/fell in love with a 50-year-old and I was absolutely besotted by him for about 18 months-2 years. If he'd ever come on to me I would have been with him in a second, so that's probably the oldest I'd go.
    When I was 18 I very briefly dated a 20-year-old, and he was too young for me. I wouldn't date anyone who was under 5 years older than me, I don't think.
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    max for me would be 8 years difference to date someone,but that's like an extreme. maybe 5 or 4 years is comfortable.my bf is 4 years older than me and i'm 18 this year.we've been together for a year and a bit now
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    (Original post by Shylock)
    max for me would be 8 years difference to date someone,but that's like an extreme. maybe 5 or 4 years is comfortable.my bf is 4 years older than me and i'm 18 this year.we've been together for a year and a bit now
    By boyf is a year older than I am. The biggest age gap I've had in a relationship was 8 years (he was 8 years older than me).

    My dad is 7 years older than my mum.

    I guess if you can stop yourself thinking "OMG When you were 13, I was 5", then it doesn't seem as seedy !
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    My boyf was 19 when I met him (I'm 21) and that's probably my limit for a younger guy. The oldest I've been out with is 32 - I was 20 at the time. IMO, the person matters a lot more than the age difference.
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    I wouldn't date anyone who was under 5 years older than me, I don't think.
    Chronological age is a naff gauge, and you could miss out on an amazing bloke by setting youself 'unoffical' limits.

    I had a friend at school who categorically wouldn't date anyone under 5 years older than she was. Pathetic really. People are people, not numbers.
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    And Anon, if you weren't anon I would have repped you:p:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Chronological age is a naff gauge, and you could miss out on an amazing bloke by setting youself 'unoffical' limits.

    I had a friend at school who categorically wouldn't date anyone under 5 years older than she was. Pathetic really. People are people, not numbers.
    Exactly.

    I've dated 9 years older than myself when I was 18, but my current partner is younger than me. Yay toyboy! :p:
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    I shall admit to an initial bemusement upon being apprised that my girlfriend did in fact precede me by somewhere to the tune of one week in the birth stakes. However it has since come to light that, provided a secure and reliable life-insurance policy, such discrepancies can be prodigiously compensated in the long-term; and, as such, my disposition on the matter is now decidedly more amenable.
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    My current boyfriend is 46, but I would go up to 60

    And Anon, if you weren't anon I would have repped you:p:
    Arse!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Chronological age is a naff gauge, and you could miss out on an amazing bloke by setting youself 'unoffical' limits.

    I had a friend at school who categorically wouldn't date anyone under 5 years older than she was. Pathetic really. People are people, not numbers.
    I only based this limit on the fact that the 20-year-old that I went out with when I was 18 was way too immature for me. I really cannot see myself dating anyone younger than me or with that close an age difference if he was older. It doesn't mean I categorically never would - it's just that knowing myself as I do, I think it's extremely unlikely.
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    I only based this limit on the fact that the 20-year-old that I went out with when I was 18 was way too immature for me. I really cannot see myself dating anyone younger than me or with that close an age difference if he was older. It doesn't mean I categorically never would - it's just that knowing myself as I do, I think it's extremely unlikely.
    Your cut off isn't about 'knowing yourself as you do', you seem to be judging everyone else as being identical, which is more than a little bit crazy.

    Not that I actually give a ****! It's you who will miss out.
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    age is a number it really doesnt matter if your both happy
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    What the hell can a 46 year old and a 18ish year old have in common?

    I've never really thought about having age limits - I always used to say I only wanted to go out with older guys, but it seems they are more interested in my little sister :rolleyes: - and I'm with someone nearly 2 years younger than me. Things don't work out how you expect sometimes
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    my current bf is 7 years older than me (actually atm hes 26 and im 18 but its my bday friday) i think thats about the oldest i would go though just because of the generation gap type stuff. even with a 7 year gap it can be noticable at times.

    *edit* i wouldnt go for a guy more than 2 years younger than me i dont think. it just wouldnt feel right at all.
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    What the hell can a 46 year old and a 18ish year old have in common?

    I've never really thought about having age limits - I always used to say I only wanted to go out with older guys, but it seems they are more interested in my little sister :rolleyes: - and I'm with someone nearly 2 years younger than me. Things don't work out how you expect sometimes
    I have more in common with him than I do with the friends that are my age.
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    (Original post by hallucination)
    My boyf was 19 when I met him (I'm 21) and that's probably my limit for a younger guy. The oldest I've been out with is 32 - I was 20 at the time. IMO, the person matters a lot more than the age difference.
    definitely. I'm going out with a guy who is 5 years older than me, (im 18, he's 23) my parents are fine with it, its my friends who were weird about it... i have no idea why. :confused:
 
 
 
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