would i both you if your boyfriend had a private lapdance?
a load of us went out one night, and i somehow managed to lose my friends, so i ended up with my boyfriend and his mates, we weren't allowed into this club cos they were wearing trainers so they decided to go into this lapdancing club, i went to (dunno why?) whilst we are inside i got really pissed off with it all, so i said i wanted to go, but my boyf wouldn't and handed me 20 quid for the taxi ride home, i asked him to promise not to have a lap dance and he said he wouldn't.
I asked him the next day he said he hadn't but later on confessed to having, had a private one...to be honest i'm pretty pi**ed off, i'm not sure if i should be or if its the fact he lied? its just something about lapdancers they make me feel wierd like my boyfriend doesn't find me attractive!
If I was you I'd be pretty annoyed. On the other thread I believe was concluded that it is not cheating in any way, but it still seems pretty bad to me. Especially as you asked him not to, and he stayed there rather than going home with you.
But this is only my view, and I'm sure everyone would have different views on this subject.
Jeez girl! I would be fuming! Not only did he go against a wish, he lied to you... and he (in my opinion) quite rudely gave you money to get rid of you so he could indulge in this! I can understand girls who don't want their boyfriends going to a lapdancing club/ strip joint completely, and i think you have every reason to be miffed! He should make it up to you big time, but i would consider... is it worth having a relationship with someone who lies?