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Does He, Doesn't He
I met a boy when I started uni, started seeing him in things where going really well between us then in jan he decided to call it a day (said he didn't have time for me as a bf) but we decided to stay friends which we have done while at uni I saw him nearly every day and would have to say he is a really good friend.
Saw him yesterday for the first time since we finished for easter, I gave him his easter egg, and he produced some gifts for me the problem is that the gifts came to a large sum of money.
This confused me because we are meant to be friends and it seemed like quite a big gesture for a friend for no special occasion (this isn't the first time he has done it since we split and he seems to be making more of an effort since we split)
What do you think it means?
does he want to get back together? or is he just putting too much effort into being friends? ... or could it be guilt? (the cynic in me)
Saw him yesterday for the first time since we finished for easter, I gave him his easter egg, and he produced some gifts for me the problem is that the gifts came to a large sum of money.
This confused me because we are meant to be friends and it seemed like quite a big gesture for a friend for no special occasion (this isn't the first time he has done it since we split and he seems to be making more of an effort since we split)
What do you think it means?
does he want to get back together? or is he just putting too much effort into being friends? ... or could it be guilt? (the cynic in me)
oh I don't know how to read into that...my best guy friend buys me expensive stuff too...
Thanx, anyway, he was my first bf and is my first real male friend (problem with an all girls school) so am not sure what would be normal ... does anyone else have male friends who buys them gifts but are strictly friends
:dito:
I think he just does not want to loose the closeness you guys have. Buy buying you all this expensive stuff for you if u wear it or whatever he can be like i bought that for her and still feel like he has some claim to you as such.
Next time this happens refuse the gift politely and see what he says.
Sprog
If I were you Id talk to him. Ask him why he brought you those things if you are 'just friends'. Just friends, ummmm, has anything happened between you two since you officially split?
I think he just does not want to loose the closeness you guys have. Buy buying you all this expensive stuff for you if u wear it or whatever he can be like i bought that for her and still feel like he has some claim to you as such.
Next time this happens refuse the gift politely and see what he says.
Anonymous
Thanx, anyway, he was my first bf and is my first real male friend (problem with an all girls school) so am not sure what would be normal ... does anyone else have male friends who buys them gifts but are strictly friends
I do.
but I think you meant other people...:PSprog
If I were you Id talk to him. Ask him why he brought you those things if you are 'just friends'. Just friends, ummmm, has anything happened between you two since you officially split?
No nothing has happened since we split
Also I didn't try to refuse but i tried to offer to pay for the stuff as it was obivous it was got specifically for me ... he said no and that he could buy me stuff if he wanted
Hmmm maybe but I don't think there would be any need, I mean the strange thing is the strange thing virtually nothing has changed between us since we split ... I mean apart from the kissing, hugging the way we are together hasn't changed
Thanks Sprong
I would not worry if i was you its just a coping method so enjoy it atleast he's not ignoring you he's buying you stuff could be worse if you ask me?
So stay friends and maybe buy him something back nothing expensive but im sure you know what i mean something that is personal to signifify that you are friends like a friendship bracelet.
Say u think your getting on so well and your happy ur good friends or something like that. He might then not feel the need to buy you stuff.
I would not worry if i was you its just a coping method so enjoy it atleast he's not ignoring you he's buying you stuff could be worse if you ask me?
So stay friends and maybe buy him something back nothing expensive but im sure you know what i mean something that is personal to signifify that you are friends like a friendship bracelet.
Say u think your getting on so well and your happy ur good friends or something like that. He might then not feel the need to buy you stuff.
Yeah I understand what you mean (anon) . Almost exactly the same thing happened to my sister. The guy ended up breaking her heart. They were such good friends she thought they would get back together. he ended up with a new girlfriend, and when my sis got upest he said 'but you're my friend, you should be happy for me!' Grrrr!!! Im not saying this is what will happen to you, I just don't want you to have false hope as I know how much it hurt my sis. x
Thanx Sprog, Zav for your advice think I will be able to find something for him, and I will be careful not to have false hope ... but think it will be hard to see him with someone else, thought think he will have the same problem if I go out with someone else, oh well I will make the most of the friendship until we come to that hurdle
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