I'm so quiet and shy .....

I really can't help it no matter how I try to be more confident and talk more. I don't consider myself as a mute, If you talk to me I will definately talk back. But I always end up putting myself into the same situations time and time again were I'm just awkward round people and quiet.

I'm outgoing but I'm not very social or someone that can hold a conversation well if at all. Think it stemmed from when I was younger and I used to be a complete mute. Mild bullying never had any friends etc etc.

At work, I think I'm known as the quiet one and I hate it. There are people I haven't spoken too or had a conversation with. I don't know if it's normal..... I've been there for 6 months now.

Because I feel everyone knows me as the quiet one now , I feel really awkward to start talking to people I see everyday but haven't mention a word to before....

I also hate that I'm that person that always says "Hi" "Good Morning" "See ya Tommorrow" and nothing else.

I want to feel relaxed at work and able to conversate easily with people but I find this a struggle

I guess I wanna know whether you think this is completely weird, what your advice would be

and if there's anyone out there thats like me PM me because I would like to talk to people who have similar problems too, who may understand that just "doing it" is easier said than done ..........

I really can't help it no matter how I try to be more confident and talk more. I don't consider myself as a mute, If you talk to me I will definately talk back. But I always end up putting myself into the same situations time and time again were I'm just awkward round people and quiet.

I'm outgoing but I'm not very social or someone that can hold a conversation well if at all. Think it stemmed from when I was younger and I used to be a complete mute. Mild bullying never had any friends etc etc.

At work, I think I'm known as the quiet one and I hate it. There are people I haven't spoken too or had a conversation with. I don't know if it's normal..... I've been there for 6 months now.

Because I feel everyone knows me as the quiet one now , I feel really awkward to start talking to people I see everyday but haven't mention a word to before....

I also hate that I'm that person that always says "Hi" "Good Morning" "See ya Tommorrow" and nothing else.

I want to feel relaxed at work and able to conversate easily with people but I find this a struggle

I guess I wanna know whether you think this is completely weird, what your advice would be

and if there's anyone out there thats like me PM me because I would like to talk to people who have similar problems too, who may understand that just "doing it" is easier said than done ..........

What are your apprehensions about opening up and "just doing it"? Is it your shyness that holds you back, or do you physically have nothing to say? Maybe you've just not find people you're comfortable with? There isn't really a "do this and you'll get over it" answer other than to try more. Being known as a quiet one isn't a bad thing, it's certainly better than being known as the loud or annoying one!

i'm a bit the same. i used to be really outgoing and confident but changing school so often made me less confident, and now i find it hard to talk to people. i try to plan things to say to people ahead of situations where i know we'll be together (eg. walking between lectures) but i feel like a bit of a tag-along because i end up not saying anything. the only thing i've done which has helped a bit was to go out to parties with people and then because i was drinking i can find things to say cause i'm not afraid and then people know i can actually have a conversation. but in everyday life i find conversation really awkward and end up finishing the conversation. so i kinda know how you feel. but i don't really have any advice, sorry :/

All I can say is it is definitely possible to solve this. I used to be the one who never spoke/socialised and until the beginning of year 12 where I had little friends and just hated being so quiet I took on the challenge of re creating myself and practically forcing me to be more sociable and talk to people.

I went from googling how to talk to people/girls etc to now it all just being second nature I think I can try help the most!

What i figured about myself was you kinda of need to take on a 'I dont really care what anyone thinks' attitude. As I know where your coming from, you'll agree you think loads of things to say... but dont dare say them, mainly because you dont want people to judge you wrongly and think your an idiot or whatever, well dont! Just start by making yourself say these things and just get the I couldnt care what anyone thought of me attitude and thats the most important thing really!

Secondly, I started going to the pub a lot (bad or good.. dont care ) but drinking is a massive social factor and booster! When I was drunk I talked utter ****e to anyone and then realised this and before I knew it I was talking utter ****e to anyone sober lol, with the benefit of gaining a helll of a lot more friends from it!

I really want to create a thread on the Advice section about how satisfied I am with my current state of being, I know where I'm headed and comfortable with myself, why am I not normal?...

I really can't help it no matter how I try to be more confident and talk more. I don't consider myself as a mute, If you talk to me I will definately talk back. But I always end up putting myself into the same situations time and time again were I'm just awkward round people and quiet.

I'm outgoing but I'm not very social or someone that can hold a conversation well if at all. Think it stemmed from when I was younger and I used to be a complete mute. Mild bullying never had any friends etc etc.

At work, I think I'm known as the quiet one and I hate it. There are people I haven't spoken too or had a conversation with. I don't know if it's normal..... I've been there for 6 months now.

Because I feel everyone knows me as the quiet one now , I feel really awkward to start talking to people I see everyday but haven't mention a word to before....

I also hate that I'm that person that always says "Hi" "Good Morning" "See ya Tommorrow" and nothing else.

I want to feel relaxed at work and able to conversate easily with people but I find this a struggle

I guess I wanna know whether you think this is completely weird, what your advice would be

and if there's anyone out there thats like me PM me because I would like to talk to people who have similar problems too, who may understand that just "doing it" is easier said than done ..........

I really can't help it no matter how I try to be more confident and talk more. I don't consider myself as a mute, If you talk to me I will definately talk back. But I always end up putting myself into the same situations time and time again were I'm just awkward round people and quiet.

I'm outgoing but I'm not very social or someone that can hold a conversation well if at all. Think it stemmed from when I was younger and I used to be a complete mute. Mild bullying never had any friends etc etc.

At work, I think I'm known as the quiet one and I hate it. There are people I haven't spoken too or had a conversation with. I don't know if it's normal..... I've been there for 6 months now.

Because I feel everyone knows me as the quiet one now , I feel really awkward to start talking to people I see everyday but haven't mention a word to before....

I also hate that I'm that person that always says "Hi" "Good Morning" "See ya Tommorrow" and nothing else.

I want to feel relaxed at work and able to conversate easily with people but I find this a struggle

I guess I wanna know whether you think this is completely weird, what your advice would be

and if there's anyone out there thats like me PM me because I would like to talk to people who have similar problems too, who may understand that just "doing it" is easier said than done ..........