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Hi everyone,
I start apologizing fto us for my English which is really bad. I really need your opinion and I hope you can understand me.
My boyfriend is English and we're together since 1 year and a half. During this period I have always invited to my home with my family whom I have introduced him to. He has never invited me, instead. Should I feel offended or not? :confused:
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does his family know he has a girlfriend
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(Original post by ItalianGirl)
Hi everyone,
I start apologizing fto us for my English which is really bad. I really need your opinion and I hope you can understand me.
My boyfriend is English and we're together since 1 year and a half. During this period I have always invited to my home with my family whom I have introduced him to. He has never invited me, instead. Should I feel offended or not? :confused:
How often are you both in the same country as his parents? (England I assume?)
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Yes, his parents know that he has a girlfriend, but he doesn't talk a lot about his personal things to his parents.
We see each others every 2 months more or less, and always in Italy.
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The reason you haven't met his parents then is because they live in England and you are always in Italy. Or have I misunderstood?
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Why don't you book a surprise flight to England?
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ItalianGirl
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Yes, the idea of the flight it's very good. I thought to do it. What do you think he will react to such this surprise?
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Yes, the idea of the flight it's very good. I thought to do it. What do you think he will react to such this surprise?
OK, perhaps not a surprise, but buy the tickets and then tell him so he can't talk you out of it (if he doesn't want you to come over, he will then have to admit it)
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I don't know how to tell him that I feel a bit offended that he hasn't invited me to England yet...and I worry that he won't understand how I feel, because probably for him it's a normal thing not to invite me...
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talya, thanks! It's a very good idea! Untill he will admit that he doesn't want me there I can't tell him that I feel offended.
You're right!
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Maybe he has a girlfriend in England that he doesn't want to you to accidentally meet?
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:eek: Hopefully not! When I tried to tell him about it, he just answered that I was offending him because he loves me and tries to show me his love every day and if I have such this suspicion it means that he can't show me all his love for me...
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When I tried to tell him about it, he just answered that I was offending him because he loves me and tries to show me his love every day and if I have such this suspicion it means that he can't show me all his love for me...
Definitely sounds to me like he is trying to hide something. Men are always defensive like that when they are lying. He probably does have gf
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Definitely sounds to me like he is trying to hide something. Men are always defensive like that when they are lying. He probably does have gf
How the hell did you come to that conclusion so early!? Could it not be that he doesn't get on with his parents? Maybe the reason he went to Italy was to get away from his parents!
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How the hell did you come to that conclusion so early!? Could it not be that he doesn't get on with his parents? Maybe the reason he went to Italy was to get away from his parents!
Surely he'd just explain that to her then? Clearly he is hiding some totty.

Do you have his phone number? Phone when you know he is out and see who picks up. If it's a parent, introduce yourself and see their reaction.
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Surely he'd just explain that to her then? Clearly he is hiding some totty.
Yes, crystal :rolleyes:

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Do you have his phone number?
What a silly question! What on earth would she want the number of her boyfriend of over a year? Not as if she is going to want to contact him is it? :rolleyes:
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Are you hot? If so, yes go now.

You can tell him my email so he can thank me later.
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Maybe he just isnt comfortable getting you involved with his family. There could be something going on between him and his parents that he just doesnt want to involve you in.
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Hmm, have you asked him why he has never introduced you to his family? I can see why you might feel offended but i would try to find out more first- perhaps he has a sick parent/ "unusual" family situation and feels too ashamed/ embarrased to tell you about it?

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My conclusion is that he's not comfortable introducing me to his parents, at least he's a bit shy...
I decided I won't invite him anymore to Rome, so if he misses me and wants to see me he'll probably invite me.
By the way, next year I'll go to England to study...I'll see!
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