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Need a good comeback

I need some advice.

I’m quite slim (size 6, but I have very tiny bones so it looks totally normal on me, also have a bodyfat % of 21 so I’m not underweight). I am sick to death of having to defend myself for it. For example, the other day at work we were having a discussion about food and one guy said he didn’t like cream, and I said, oooh , I love it. He then turned to look me up and down and said, yeah, as if YOU’D eat that. I just couldn’t think what to say back to him – I could have made some snide retort about his rather ‘rotund’ frame but I’m not like that. I ended up trying to justify it instead and ended up blabbering.

His comment really hurt me – he didn’t say it in a jokey way either. I get this quite a bit from people, it’s as if I have something wrong with me because I don’t worry about my weight. I know a few of the people who aren’t happy with theirs may take offence to what I’m saying and I’m sorry for that.

I eat as healthily as I can, but am of course partial to the odd pizza and packet of crisps. However I do a lot of exercise (I have to for my job) and the weight stays off. If I stop exercising I put on weight like crazy, so it’s not like I’m one of those ‘fast metabolism’ people and I understand what it’s like to put on weight and not be able to help it – I did after I finished school.

So the bottom line is, what can I say to jerks like this to shut them up, without sinking to their level and offending them.

Thanks :smile:

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Reply 1

Robob

I think the general consensus is that you should reply 'your mum'

Reply 2

Barny

Nothing.

Why do you feel the need to say something? Are you happy with your body? If so just let it do the talking, which you clearly do.

Reply 3

Clarence

Tell em to stfu!!!!

They are probabaly jealous anyway.

Reply 4

sophieliz

grrr, I am soo with you on this. If a more rotund person is critisised a huge deal is made of it, yet people seem to find it ok to insult and be rude about smaller girls. Difficult one. Perhaps you could have said "yes, why wouldn't I?" in a totally naive way. Being really nice is actually a good way to respond as then the other person feels awkward.

Reply 5

warranty-ideal

" So's your face! " Never fails :P

Reply 6

sparkly_tiara

Its a tough one! I know what you mean though! I don't have direct experience of the whole being very slim/ food situation but people have made comments about my height or something before and i would love to come back with something smart and witty but like you, i wouldn't be able to come back with something rude! Just not in my nature.

I think it could be to do with self esteem. These comments from insensitive people can end up lowering your confidence and make you feel like you can't stand up for yourself and such.... apart from eating a load of cream cakes in front of this guy, i can't think of a specific comeback but i don't think you should have to justify it! This guy is obviously jealous/ naieve and i am sure if you just stay strong you can prove yourself to be the "stronger, better person" in the end!

Lou
xxx

Reply 7

Mark S

Make some kind of grunt/laugh. They often find it hard to process what's just happened and get stuck for what to say next

Reply 8

Zoecb

Whisk out something really fattening and eat it casually without saying a thing?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

sophieliz

grrr, I am soo with you on this. If a more rotund person is critisised a huge deal is made of it, yet people seem to find it ok to insult and be rude about smaller girls.

So glad I'm not the only person who thinks this. It can be really hurtful. I'm happy with my body but pratts like him just make me feel so helpless - like I can't fight back.

People have made some really good suggestions, thanks.

I would love to know when the hell the whole weight thing started in history though, like there's something wrong with you if you are bigger/smaller than sizes 8 to 14 (or thereabouts, I don't know where the 'socially accepted' standards lie). I bet it came with the advent of the corset! I'll bet if you presented a group of cavemen with a nice voluptuous size 18 woman they wouldn't complain. The same with e size 6 one - easier for them to swing her over their shoulder and take her back to their cave, lol.

Reply 10

Jimjamjamio

All you need to say is

whatever trevor, your mother, works at mac donalds, on minimum wage

whilst rotating making a W and M with your hands and throwing in the odd T where needed.

there is no come back for that

Reply 11

Lush Law

Zoecb

Whisk out something really fattening and eat it casually without saying a thing?

I'm totally with this.

Or next time when you go to work, bring a luscious cream cake to have on your break and make sure he sees you eating it and say "my lips just can't get enough of this bad boy" :eek:

Reply 12

Sithius

Give him a slap.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

I like the sound of the slap one, but not really. It's actually my last day at work in a couple of weeks so I could do it then.....

But I'm going into a new job soon, meeting lots and lots of new people and I'd really like to just be able to cope with it when it happens. I think I've picked up some ideas.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

"I can eat as much cream as I want, it's lovely", with a big smile.

Excellent :biggrin:

Reply 15

nic_knock

Things like this really annoy me.

What do people think is the perfect weight? People are to skinny or to fat.

People should be whatever size they want to be without being judged.

You should just ignore them, and just eat what you want to eat. Sod the lot of them!!

Reply 16

Dilute

Anonymous

The same with e size 6 one - easier for them to swing her over their shoulder and take her back to their cave, lol.

Ah, if you weren't anon, I'd rep you for that :biggrin:

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

Thanks

rep thought appreciated.

I wouldn't post anon, but people on here know me in person and I'd get grief for this. If I asked my friends I wouldn't get an unbiased answer. It would be along the lines of, 'stop complaining, you're so lucky'.

Reply 18

Kernel

insultmonger.com?

Oh, and seeking witty retorts via the internet, is really poor form.

Reply 19

ESBay

Markus Angelsdaughter

Make some kind of grunt/laugh. They often find it hard to process what's just happened and get stuck for what to say next

Exactly. THe laugh is perfect. Just laugh and look down and giggle. It may aggrevate them because they think that they are being mocked and the tables turn.