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help? duno what to do

Ive gotten together with somebody, and i find one minute im thinking its a mistake and i should back out, and the next im thinking i do like them quite a lot and i should try it out.
If im having doubts this early on its not gona work is it?
And whats the implications of dumping someone after less than a week, or can is imply discuss with them and just go back to being friends cos i liked it better that way?
Any advice appreciated thanks
Reply 1
You should make your mind up for sure whether you like him or not.
Anonymous
Ive gotten together with somebody, and i find one minute im thinking its a mistake and i should back out, and the next im thinking i do like them quite a lot and i should try it out.
If im having doubts this early on its not gona work is it?
And whats the implications of dumping someone after less than a week, or can is imply discuss with them and just go back to being friends cos i liked it better that way?
Any advice appreciated thanks


imo it sounds more like commitment-fear than something to do with the other person. if you find that sometimes you like them a lot, you'll regret dumping them so quickly. give yourself (and them) some time to ease into the relationship.
good luck:p:
You are the only person who knows whether it will truly work out or not.

You really need to sit down and ask yourself seriously if you want to be in the relationship or not.

If not, try just discussing your feelings with your partner or someone you trust.

Incidently, just because you are having doubts early on in the game does not mean the relationship is doomed - prehaps you are not used to serious relationships or have had bad experiences in the past - (this is however not for me to judge) - and you are just having a bit of a rough takeoff.

Ultimately, you should strive for what feels best for you - preferably though without hurting your partner.

If you are a little confused it may be worth turning down the heat and being friends for a while - you may get back together later on.

Good luck and take care.
ProfessorFitBoy
You are the only person who knows whether it will truly work out or not.

You really need to sit down and ask yourself seriously if you want to be in the relationship or not.

If not, try just discussing your feelings with your partner or someone you trust.

Incidently, just because you are having doubts early on in the game does not mean the relationship is doomed - prehaps you are not used to serious relationships or have had bad experiences in the past - (this is however not for me to judge) - and you are just having a bit of a rough takeoff.

Ultimately, you should strive for what feels best for you - preferably though without hurting your partner.

If you are a little confused it may be worth turning down the heat and being friends for a while - you may get back together later on.

Good luck and take care.



Ooh what a lovely, helpful post. Exactly what I was gonna say and more :smile:
Reply 5
ProfessorFitBoy
You are the only person who knows whether it will truly work out or not.

You really need to sit down and ask yourself seriously if you want to be in the relationship or not.

If not, try just discussing your feelings with your partner or someone you trust.

Incidently, just because you are having doubts early on in the game does not mean the relationship is doomed - prehaps you are not used to serious relationships or have had bad experiences in the past - (this is however not for me to judge) - and you are just having a bit of a rough takeoff.

Ultimately, you should strive for what feels best for you - preferably though without hurting your partner.

If you are a little confused it may be worth turning down the heat and being friends for a while - you may get back together later on.

Good luck and take care.

So say i wana just go back to being friends with them.
How exactly do i tell them in a way that'll hurt them as little as possible? I know its impossible not to hurt them but i want to remain close friends, and since weve not been together long me backstepping will be a real blow to their confidence :frown:
Or maybe if i explain they'l understand?