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GF help, need to be more... intimate watch

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    I'm 18 and I only just got my first girlfriend a week ago, however we had gone out on 4 dates before I officially asked her out. The reason why Im posting is cause both of us a very shy, VERY shy, and both of us have had hardly any relationship experience. Whilst we enjoy our dates, we've never really been intimate in any way, I've only hugged her once. I need help - how can I be more intimate with her, I dont want to appear forceful, I just need to gradually make us more comfortable with eachother. Thanks, any help is greatly appreciated. Also, just how do I initiate a first kiss.... :confused:
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    lean in 90%, let her go the last 10% .... hitch stole it from me
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    ahh those first inocent romantic misunderstanding when niether of you have a clue ahhh bless your little cotton socks *shakes head in a fatherly fashion*

    im kidding btw

    ok what alex said is true, shes going out with you so the hard parts over you know she likes and at some point is going to jump your bones however leave that for now if both of you is as shy as each other then you need to take it slow so niether of you get freaked out or feel pressured. REmember chandler and monica in the friends episode "what if" when monica was still fat and chandler was well still chandler, you will have something like that if you go to fast.

    For now superalex has the best notion just lean in there and let her come the rest of the way to you. Just start with kissing get that worked right. From there you can go to touching each other intimately and then to the pleasures of the flesh.
    Also just be happy to just be around her not every relationship has to start with sex or sexual contacts straight away. Hold her hand, stroke her, tickle her just play.
    but soon it will get so good
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    any other suggestions?
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    she's probably feeling just as insecure as you. Bite the bullet and just kiss her, once the first kiss is out the way..the rest will follow!

    Don't think about when/where to kiss her just go for it, any planning will just destroy it!
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    (Original post by Cadre_Of_Storms)
    but soon it will get so good


    Agree with other advice. Try hugging her with your faces cheek to cheek (and a bit of nuzzling) and all you have to do is turn your face round a little bit and you will be kissing before you know it.

    She likes you, she wants to kiss you (and do other things, no doubt), she wouldn't be going out with you otherwise
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    (Original post by spacedonkey)


    Agree with other advice. Try hugging her with your faces cheek to cheek (and a bit of nuzzling) and all you have to do is turn your face round a little bit and you will be kissing before you know it.

    She likes you, she wants to kiss you (and do other things, no doubt), she wouldn't be going out with you otherwise

    ha thats almost the classic lying in bed... heads close then doing an accidental move till you lips are close and you can really feel each other breathing on each others faces... then the ;accidental; lip touch. I Love that stuff when its happened. lol
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    (Original post by El Scotto)

    ha thats almost the classic lying in bed... heads close then doing an accidental move till you lips are close and you can really feel each other breathing on each others faces... then the ;accidental; lip touch. I Love that stuff when its happened. lol
    thats how me and my gf first did it over two years ago now lol,
    it was niether of ours fault of course it just happened
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    just kiss her! seriously, she's probably waiting for you to kiss her!
    hehehe, if you aren't sure, just start off more slowly... watch a scary film with her and hope she wants to be held during the scary parts (wouldn't work with me at all, i laugh myself silly in horror movies, but I know some girls really like the whole holding onto a guy thing, hehehe)
    give her a massage!
    i would do nearly anything for a guy who gives me a massage! hehehe
    and well, as I said, just cuddle and give massages and then kiss her
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    or you could ask to kiss her, like my ex did in a really really really really really cute and sweet way.
 
 
 
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