hideously bad skin

its not so much spots, i have usually have a few here and there, but its mainly scars. red patches on my face. uneven skin. i hate it. once i've covered myself in my daily foundation, i actually look ok, if not a little too made up tho i try to keep other things minimum to make it look more natural. people say i'm pretty but it makes me kinda sad that they wont be saying that if they saw me without all the slap...

i avoid cameras coz i know i'll just end up looking greasy when every one else has a prefect glowing complexion. damn all my friends for having flawless skin! i eat my fruits and veg, drink loadsa water and wash my face twice a day removing all makeup.

it annoys me how i cant even answer the door in the morning to get the post without grabbing some concealer and fixing myself up. i never ever leave the house without foundation. i avoid my boyfriend touching and kissing my face. during sex, i worry bout how i look and getting makeup on the pillow! i've never slept over my boyfriend's house or have him come stay over night only because i'm scared of how my face looks in the mornings -greasy and red. it always takes me over an hour to make myself presentable. god i hate it so much. :frown:

Reply 1

mypaperheart

16

I'm fairly sure most people look terrible in the mornings! Try not to let it get you down! :smile:

I know this probably won't help, but have you ever tried any of the Benefit skincare products? There's some fantastic ones that prevent that "greasy and red" feeling. Although they're quite expensive, I've found that they really do work - especially the over night ones, leave you feeling fresh in the mornings! There's 3 pages of the skincare stuff here.

I really think you should pluck up the courage to ask your boyfriend to stay overnight if thats what you want to do, he loves you for who you are - regardless of what you look like in the mornings! Plus, you never know, he might not look too hot either in the mornings, then it'd be proven to you that you're not alone in not looking so great when you wake up - it happens to everyone!!

Also, your skin might improve with age. I've found that my skin has improved in the past year or so, and I'm only 17. :smile:

Hope you feel better soon :hugs:

don't let it get to you!!

Reply 2

crash_landed

1

Are you on the pill? because I had horrible horrible skin untill i went onto dianette and three months later i was looking so great! Lol, my skin had never looked so good. A couple of months ago i came off the pill for a break and my skin stayed okay so hopefully im okay now!!

I know it sucks, it REALLY does but it will get better! at least ypu have a bf who loves you regardless!

Reply 3

brimstone

7

If it's really getting you down, you could see your GP

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Rosalily

Plus, you never know, he might not look too hot either in the mornings, then it'd be proven to you that you're not alone in not looking so great when you wake up - it happens to everyone!!

awww thanks for the sweet reply. i have seen my boyfriend many times early in the morning when i go round his to wake him up. unfortunately, the lucky boy has the best complexion in the world and look all too adorable with his bed head and sulky face when i roll him out of his sheets. i'll have a look at that link u gave me. thank you again.

Reply 5

*Kates*

Anonymous

its not so much spots, i have usually have a few here and there, but its mainly scars. red patches on my face. uneven skin. i hate it. once i've covered myself in my daily foundation, i actually look ok, if not a little too made up tho i try to keep other things minimum to make it look more natural. people say i'm pretty but it makes me kinda sad that they wont be saying that if they saw me without all the slap...

i avoid cameras coz i know i'll just end up looking greasy when every one else has a prefect glowing complexion. damn all my friends for having flawless skin! i eat my fruits and veg, drink loadsa water and wash my face twice a day removing all makeup.

it annoys me how i cant even answer the door in the morning to get the post without grabbing some concealer and fixing myself up. i never ever leave the house without foundation. i avoid my boyfriend touching and kissing my face. during sex, i worry bout how i look and getting makeup on the pillow! i've never slept over my boyfriend's house or have him come stay over night only because i'm scared of how my face looks in the mornings -greasy and red. it always takes me over an hour to make myself presentable. god i hate it so much. :frown:

Try microdermabrasion, honestly, it really does work!! It gets rid of scars and spots and completely refreshes yor skin.

Reply 6

mypaperheart

16

Anonymous

awww thanks for the sweet reply. i have seen my boyfriend many times early in the morning when i go round his to wake him up. unfortunately, the lucky boy has the best complexion in the world and look all too adorable with his bed head and sulky face when i roll him out of his sheets. i'll have a look at that link u gave me. thank you again.

Aww no probs :biggrin:

You said that you think he looks cute in the mornings, well I bet he'd think the same about you! :smile:

Reply 7

thegreatstupendo

2

You say you wash your face twice a day? Why not drop it down to once, you never know, it could slove your problem. If you wash too frequently is does cause dry skin.

Reply 8

anna_e

i tried clinique and it made my face SO much worse, and cost over £50 for a regime - i wouldn't touch it if i were you. have you gone to acne.org? their regimen worked quite well for me. and it's cheap. good luck.

Reply 9

kateykat

I know exactly how you feel! My skin is ridiculously greasy and I have pock marks and red blotches from where I used to have bad acne. I still get the occasional spots (especially around the time of my period) but since I started using a benzoyl peroxide cream I don't get them so much *touch wood* I think what makes it worse with my skin is the fact that I am really pale so all these marks are probably more obvious.

It is really difficult seeing friends who use nothing on their skin and still look flawless, some people are just luckier than others; my mum had dreadful skin so it was always in the genes for me. I can't go out in public anymore without foundation because a) I need to cover up the blotchy bits, and b) it makes my skin look less shiny. I'm sure you have many other beautiful features that other people don't have, so try not to belittle yourself so much. Also, I don't think ANYONE actually looks good in the morning, but you're probably a lot prettier than you give yourself credit for. Without the slap most girls just look plain, it's only a select few who manage to look perfect all the time.

Oh and another thing, I have to disagree with thegreatstupendo: it is better to wash your skin twice a day, especially if it's greasy. I use St. Ives Apricot Scrub and I don't know where I would be without it. It makes my skin feel so revilatlised and when I use it it's like I can almost feel it scrub away all the grease and grime.

Reply 10

mypaperheart

16

anna_e

i tried clinique and it made my face SO much worse

I'd agree with this - the same ting happened to me! :frown:

The clinique make up is ok, but I wouldn't touch the skincare with a barge pole....

Reply 11

nuclear_pavlova

2

Anonymous

its not so much spots, i have usually have a few here and there, but its mainly scars. red patches on my face. uneven skin. i hate it. once i've covered myself in my daily foundation, i actually look ok, if not a little too made up tho i try to keep other things minimum to make it look more natural. people say i'm pretty but it makes me kinda sad that they wont be saying that if they saw me without all the slap...

i avoid cameras coz i know i'll just end up looking greasy when every one else has a prefect glowing complexion. damn all my friends for having flawless skin! i eat my fruits and veg, drink loadsa water and wash my face twice a day removing all makeup.

it annoys me how i cant even answer the door in the morning to get the post without grabbing some concealer and fixing myself up. i never ever leave the house without foundation. i avoid my boyfriend touching and kissing my face. during sex, i worry bout how i look and getting makeup on the pillow! i've never slept over my boyfriend's house or have him come stay over night only because i'm scared of how my face looks in the mornings -greasy and red. it always takes me over an hour to make myself presentable. god i hate it so much. :frown:

Ok...it seems you are doing all the right things... all I can think of are products which you could buy to first and foremost, improve the condition of your skin and remove those scars!
I had a scar on my foot and I used "Decleor- Prolagene gel" Its quite pricey but if you apply it regularly, especially before bed, within a few weeks it should all clear up! Heres a link for that:
www.decleor.co.uk
(I cant get the page of the actual product, but you can have a look anyhow! They have good stuff!) Decleor are all-natural and although its pricey, it works a treat...and smells lovely... if you go to some dept store, go to the counter and they should give you lots of testers and better advice than I am! other brands I'd recommend are liz earle, gatineau perhaps.... aveda maybe.... just natural stuff! Especially l'occitanne honey range..that will really relax your skin and calm it down, enabling it to repair..
It sounds like your skin could be sensitive....so from now on, use sensitive cleansers, toners etc.
With make-up I guess benefit would be a good pick... also for foundations, look into "dermablend" (name varies) but they specialise in concealers for extremely scarred skin.....I saw some photos of before and after and its just shocking how much it can improve certain aspects of your skin.

What is important though, is to not OVERDO the product application on your face...within good time and good skinstuff your scarring should vanish...and if it doesn't perhaps visit a GP..for some specialty creams...however my mum and dad are docs and they always recommend more natural lines of facecare before resorting to pharmaceuticals....good luck!!! :smile:

Reply 12

music<3

Hey , I have the exact same problem, though what got me here was my acne.. now its gone I dont have any active acne on my face, no spots, etc but my complexion is so bad... red patches etc and I hate having to stay at friends' houses because I don't like not being seen without make up on around them.. anytime I have been out with a guy I'v been in fear incase any make up comes off when we would hug or kiss. as stupid as that sounds.... I ,like you, try not to wear too much but I'm so envious of all my friends for their seemingly perfect skin!!!
i understand how frustrated you are, but don't try anything drastic yet.. especially NOT microdebrasion as was suggested.. seriously your doctor probably wouldn't recommend it, as for example I have the odd scar left over from having mild-severe acne and he is even hesitant to advise it to me.. your skin will change gradually for the next few years so try not to let this drag you down.. but yes in the meantime keep experimenting with various products which are obviously kind to the skin, and also in the line of make up , green concealers are very good apparently when it comes to evening out skin tone....if it really doesn't get better see your GP, my dermatologist is so helpful.. so don't worry there's plenty of help there for u :smile:

as for your boyfriend, if you dont feel comfortable around him without make up now then dont beat yourself up over it, u dont have to until you are ready.. but just remember as much as he probably adores how u look he loves for u everything else about u, and im sure he isnt shallow enough to let a lack of make up bother him, he will almost certainly still think u are beautiful!!! :smile:

all the best xx

Reply 13

LawQueen

14

Seriously girl, I can relate to that! I'm naturally pale with uneven skin and it takes foundation to sort me out! Yeah it makes me look healthier and with better skin but its so much easier to just put a tiny bit of concealer over the spots! Just after playing tennis, I was sweaty and my concealer had rubbed of and I still got wolf-whistled at? Why? Because guys are SICK of make-up and fake girls-natural is the way foward. Foundation is probably making your skin worse too so just lose it excepts for nights out or get fake tan/hit the sun bed to warm up your skin so no-one sees blotches.

XxX

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

Keep in mind that most acne scars will fade away very nicely in 6-12 months. The problem is that if you are still getting new acne you will be constantly getting new scars and you won't notice the old ones going away. See your doctor about treatment to prevent acne and use some over the counter products that are meant to help fade scars.

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