Uni friends

hey,
people say that the friends that they meet at uni are the friends they have for life...i'm in second year, and i don't think i've found these people yet, the friends and housemates i have at the moment are nice ppl and we get along, but we're quite different ppl. I know sometimes opposites attract etc, but after a while it gets a bit annoying when they just look at you weirdly when u just told them something you've done or think is really cool. e.g. shopping/going out etc they just don't get excited at the same things i do...
i guess from this post i'm just looking to see if anyone else is in the same boat, or has every1 found really good friends already?
xxxx

Reply 1

Mangaroo

12

well, in all honesty im tired of putting up with my "friends" anti-social behaviour and have told them face to face that they suck, so many times now that they just generally laugh now, and have moved on to make new friends. Also quite lucky that university will start soon, so im in a bit of limbo for a month of two.

Reply 2

Louher

I was in the same situation, my flatmates are all LOVELY just don't enjoy the same things I do - going out, meeting new people etc etc.S o ended up diching them in favour of my friends from my course/halls, and now I feel like i've met my REAL friends. We all have so much in common and just 'click' plus i've met lots of other friends through them so it's brilliant :smile:

Reply 3

dead man's shoes

left university last year, was great mates when there with a lot of people, rarely speak to any anymore. you're thrown together with these people for three years, in an unreal situation where you go out all the time together, then it finishes and people go back to wherever theyre from or move to big cities and you dont have any reason to see each other... Not true of everyone, but certainly for the majority you meet at uni. for those that think it won't happen- it will..

Reply 4

gideon2000uk

9

I've made a friend for life. But I'm pretty lucky. I know for sure we'll be friends for a very long time.

Reply 5

fairycakes

OP

12

i'm kinda disappointed...they're just so different to my friends at home, total different sides of the spectrum. it sounds really lame, but this year i've been so busy with work and sports/music and seeing my bf that i haven't put much effort into making new friends... :frown:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Ive made the best friends at uni and will be so sad when we all leave, its really upsetting just cos i have really made awesome freinds and have none back home. I wish i did cos i'l really feel alone once we all go our seperate ways

Reply 7

Random.Girl

14

Anonymous

Ive made the best friends at uni and will be so sad when we all leave, its really upsetting just cos i have really made awesome freinds and have none back home. I wish i did cos i'l really feel alone once we all go our seperate ways

All make an effort to keep in touch then. I'm sure it'll work out fine :smile:

I've made a few absolutely amazing friends at uni - they're my second family and I'll definitely be making the effort to stay in touch with them when we leave. Some of the things that have happened over the last three years, I don't know what I would have done without them ... plus I wouldn't have had such an amazing time at uni without them!

To the OP - try not to let it get you down too much. You've still got another year left to find some people you have lots in common with. And even if you don't, don't let it get you down too much - you've still got your boyfriend and your friends back home :smile:

Reply 8

The Canadian

11

My mates at uni are as crazy as me, so I'm not gonna lose them if possible, but I wouldn't say they're friends for life. 2 of my best friends I've known for 90% of my life and 1 I'm just extremely close too. My normal mates are either friends of one of my best friends, friends from secondary school, or snowboarding buddies.

My uni mates are just crazy fools who drink too much and don't think enough. Pretty much the same as me half the time, which is why it's great, but it's not something to last a life time (though it may kill me!!).

It all depends on the people, but the general thing is that when you live with people for 2 or 3 years in a house, you become really good friends with them, and that friendship won't just disappear.

Reply 9

HistoryStudent

13

fairycakes

people say that the friends that they meet at uni are the friends they have for life

Well, that's true with me :smile:

Reply 10

dead man's shoes

though you're still at uni so that seems a bit premature..

Reply 11

HistoryStudent

13

dead man's shoes

though you're still at uni so that seems a bit premature..

Yes, but some things you just know!

Reply 12

Barny

17

I met my best mates before Uni.

Reply 13

serious narb

11

x.narb.x

I met my best mates before Uni.

you had no friends before uni, you jest

Reply 14

Zurich

9

fairycakes

hey,
people say that the friends that they meet at uni are the friends they have for life...i'm in second year, and i don't think i've found these people yet, the friends and housemates i have at the moment are nice ppl and we get along, but we're quite different ppl. I know sometimes opposites attract etc, but after a while it gets a bit annoying when they just look at you weirdly when u just told them something you've done or think is really cool. e.g. shopping/going out etc they just don't get excited at the same things i do...
i guess from this post i'm just looking to see if anyone else is in the same boat, or has every1 found really good friends already?
xxxx

I left uni just under a year ago and the people I was friends with at uni are not the people I'm friends with now. I'm sure that some of the friends I made there will be friends for life, but I hardly ever see them now because I live 300 miles away from where I went to uni and 250 miles from where I grew up.

Chances are, after uni you'll end up moving away somewhere new to start a life of your own and your mates will quickly become the people around you wherever it is you settle. If you have a load of people from the past that yo'll always stay in touch with and see from time to time throughout your life, that's great. But if you just make new friends everywhere you go, I don't see that as a huge problem.

Reply 15

fairycakes

OP

12

thanx for ure replies.
how many ppl are still in touch with their old school friends? how many ppl dya know who are older who have kept in touch with their friends?
to be honest, i've been really bad at keeping in touch, so realistically, if i continue like this will only have a few left who i can actually call friends...
i will try and change tho!
xx

Reply 16

Higgy

2

I cant stand most of my uni people, ok about 5 are pretty cool but i could never say they are my best mates in the world most annoy me too much

Reply 17

serious narb

11

fairycakes

thanx for ure replies.
how many ppl are still in touch with their old school friends? how many ppl dya know who are older who have kept in touch with their friends?
to be honest, i've been really bad at keeping in touch, so realistically, if i continue like this will only have a few left who i can actually call friends...
i will try and change tho!
xx

all my best mates are schoolfriends, and that'l never change, ever o.k?

Reply 18

sophieliz

12

yeah,I like my uni friends, but I realised from spending tije with my home mates that they just will never live up to them. I just feelso relaxed about my home mates, I suppose this is cos we grew up together and went through the same embarrassing phases which bond you.

Reply 19

fairycakes

OP

12

spose, but my home friends always go on about how they have so much fun at uni, blah blah blah...i realised how much more boring my uni life is!

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