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the casual thing is doing my head in...

I've been seeing a guy casually for about a month (that's the only way I can think to describe it) We talk everyday on msn and have met up a couple of times where we've ended up kissing at the end of the night. I like him a lot, but the casual thing is starting to do my head in a little because it feels like I never know exactly where I stand with him. There's a party this week that we're both going to - and I'm pretty certain that it's going to go the same way things usually do..namely, us getting closer and then kissing. The problem is that I'm starting to want more. Should I talk to him about it? Or wait a bit longer to see if things progress further naturally?

Reply 1

Hmm, maybe you should talk to him.
It seems like you only meet up at parties. Maybe ask him if he'd like to meet you at a coffee shop or a bar or something, but don't tell him you want to chat about something specific as he might be evasive or think of an excuse not to go. If he makes excuses not to meet up anyway (as in on more than one occasion, if you suggest alternative dates etc.) then chances are he may well not be interested anyway.
Still, it sounds like he fancies you, which is always a good start :smile:

Reply 2

Is he shy? Cos then he might not know how to move things on. Unfortunately there r some guys out there who will settle for the random kissing etc until they find someone better. Try to get him to meet up on ur own, maybe suggest a 'date'. If he goes for it great! If he's evasive or whatever he probably isn't worth it!