Is this gay?

I know this sounds very silly but, if a boy at school hangs around with girls mostly, would that make him gay?
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What do boys think when a boy don't hang around with the other boys?
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Being labelled as a ladies man a good or a bad thing? Do boys feel insecure on ladies men?
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Reply 1

Tyler Durden

17

Anonymous

I know this sounds very silly but, if a boy at school hangs around with girls mostly, would that make him gay?

If you're 7, yes.

Reply 2

Fleece

15

You need to look up gay.
I guess I'm a lesbian for hanging round guys mostly. Damn.

Reply 3

gideon2000uk

9

I think it is usually a sign of homosexuality actually. But not definative.

Reply 4

Ronaldo VII

2

Fleece

You need to look up gay.
I guess I'm a lesbian for hanging round guys mostly. Damn.

Wouldn't bother me :wink:

*jk*

Hanging round with girls doesn't automatically make you gay. Boys shouldn't care if a boy hangs round with girls and a Ladies man can be a good thing :wink:

Reply 5

The Canadian

11

Nope, doesn't make you gay, just means you're more comfortable with the opposite sex than a lot of guys.

I can talk quite casually to girls and not think "oh boy, I wanna take her right now" as a lot of my mates admit to thinking. In my opinion, being a "ladies man" as you put it is an advantage for relationships.

Reply 6

technik

13

gideon2000uk

I think it is usually a sign of homosexuality actually. But not definative.

i have observed that most of my straight male friends only tend to have male friends themselves or very few female friends. gay people (gay males that is) i know do tend to have more female friends. i guess it might be something to do with the gay male having, or being perceived to be having, a more feminine streak.

Reply 7

Eien

16

technik

i have observed that most of my straight male friends only tend to have male friends themselves or very few female friends. gay people (gay males that is) i know do tend to have more female friends. i guess it might be something to do with the gay male having, or being perceived to be having, a more feminine streak.

This is true to some extent, and I have similarly observed it, although is not exclusive. Even from a very young age I had (and have) more female friends than male, and I am more comfortable talking to a woman/girl and tend to relate to them more, whereas with a man/boy I feel more awkward until I know them, and I am bisexual, although with a bias towards preferring women. (Most bisexuals have a bias)
My impression of a "ladies man" is of a man who knows how to talk to women, but is "masculine" enough to be different and attractive to women, whereas other men are more meterosexual and simply relate to women more because they are more like them.

Reply 8

Alias_Alyssa

1

Watching Sex & The City has taught me that there are:

Gay Straight Men - Men who are GAY but have male atributes (eg. macho, into fitness) and hang with guys and have male friends.

Straight Gay Men - Men who are STRAIGHT who have are more in touch with their feminine side (eg. cook, clean, aware of fashion) who may have a mix of feminine and male friends.

They DO exist!!!

Reply 9

Lush Law

15

well im gay and throughout high school all my friends were boys, because I went to an all-boys school. However at 6th form we mixed with a girls' school and I made tonnes of female friends.

At uni, almost all my friends are girls, which I find kinda annoying and wish I had more male friends because I love hanging out with guys. Much to my disappointment, most of the guys at uni don't want to hang out with a gay lad, which I find truly bizarre because at school everyone knew I was gay and nobody gave a crap. I never once got name-called, I was always really popular.

Reply 10

technik

13

red_roadkill

well im gay and throughout high school all my friends were boys, because I went to an all-boys school. However at 6th form we mixed with a girls' school and I made tonnes of female friends.

At uni, almost all my friends are girls, which I find kinda annoying and wish I had more male friends because I love hanging out with guys. Much to my disappointment, most of the guys at uni don't want to hang out with a gay lad, which I find truly bizarre because at school everyone knew I was gay and nobody gave a crap. I never once got name-called, I was always really popular.

in the real world most males are very much straight.

Reply 11

Lush Law

15

technik

in the real world most males are very much straight.

and your point is?

Nearly everyone at my school was straigt, there were only 3 blates gay people.

Nobody cared - I was friends with some quite laddy types.

Reply 12

lil_nems_05

Of a guy always hangs out with girls all the time...then quite obviously he is gay..he can't hang around with boys because he is afraid he would fall in love...

i got a friend like that...even if it doesn't look it,...but i knew he was gay coz he was always with me and my gf's all d time..

Reply 13

gideon2000uk

9

lil_nems_05

Of a guy always hangs out with girls all the time...then quite obviously he is gay..he can't hang around with boys because he is afraid he would fall in love...

i got a friend like that...even if it doesn't look it,...but i knew he was gay coz he was always with me and my gf's all d time..

What a startling psychological evaluation of what motivates gay men.

Reply 14

Beekeeper

13

technik

i have observed that most of my straight male friends only tend to have male friends themselves or very few female friends. gay people (gay males that is) i know do tend to have more female friends. i guess it might be something to do with the gay male having, or being perceived to be having, a more feminine streak.

I actually think it's the other way round.

Gays tend to stick with women more as they feel more secure with themselves, and by constantly being with groups of women, they tend to pick up tendencies usually associated with women rather than men.

You'll find that the more 'straight acting' gays tend to have more straight male friends and they are often still in the closet given the social context.

Reply 15

henryt

17

I've been counting (Easter - nothing else to do :p:

), and 1/2 of my close friends are girls, and 1/2 of my close friends are boys...

Does that make me bi? :rolleyes:

Reply 16

Schmokie Dragon

17

You are only gay if you want to have sex with men.... ok? So chilling out with girls is not gay. he might be gay, and that might be a symptom, but it does not make him gay. Capiche?

And being a ladies man means you get lots of sexy attention. How would that make you gay?

Reply 17

lil_nems_05

but it all depends tho...between gay men..one of em has 2 be like the woman and the other as the man....the one acting like the man would be difficult to determine his sexuality compared with the man acting as the woman in the relationship(it's easy to know if they are gay or not)

Reply 18

lil_nems_05

hanging with girls don't make you a lady's man...it's when you flirt and act sexy..

Reply 19

technik

13

Beekeeper

I actually think it's the other way round.

Gays tend to stick with women more as they feel more secure with themselves, and by constantly being with groups of women, they tend to pick up tendencies usually associated with women rather than men.

You'll find that the more 'straight acting' gays tend to have more straight male friends and they are often still in the closet given the social context.

hows that the other way round?

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