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Attracted to Older Men
Twist on the other thread. But Im always asking myself why. Im attracted to a certain age range usually 28-35. I dont know why. 18 yr olds just dont do it for me...many look like little boys to me and its gross...but a 30 yr old man is like divine 
i mean ive even gone further than that---the only reason i started watchign C-SPAN was to get a glimpse of tony blair haha, but seriously. and in real life too i gravitate toward these guys...but of course they back away cause im jail bait. I like how they are independent and dont need to 'ask mom for a loan' or pick me up in their bicycle but I also like their attitude like 'aww u havent experienced life...let me show you 
' and they seem more open and knowledgable about certain things and more dependable. Would you say this older guy fetish is healthy or just trouble in the making?
i mean ive even gone further than that---the only reason i started watchign C-SPAN was to get a glimpse of tony blair haha, but seriously. and in real life too i gravitate toward these guys...but of course they back away cause im jail bait. I like how they are independent and dont need to 'ask mom for a loan' or pick me up in their bicycle but I also like their attitude like 'aww u havent experienced life...let me show you ' and they seem more open and knowledgable about certain things and more dependable. Would you say this older guy fetish is healthy or just trouble in the making?Scroll to see replies
Reply 1
If you were to look at it from a purely biological point of view then it makes perfect sense. Why go with a weedy 18 year old? They're unproven, weaker, inexperienced in all areas, and are probably poor providers.
Older men quite the opposite.
Although your age range is a bit higher than I would have expected.
I wouldn't worry about it too much, but try to aim for someone who couldn't be your Father
I go for older women, but only 2 years or so. Girls my age are still a bit bitchy, think they'll all end up actors and pop stars, dating Justin Timberlake.
But once they realise life isn't like that and drop their standards, I'll be in there in a heartbeat
, and are probably poor providers.Older men quite the opposite.
Although your age range is a bit higher than I would have expected.
I wouldn't worry about it too much, but try to aim for someone who couldn't be your Father
I go for older women, but only 2 years or so. Girls my age are still a bit bitchy, think they'll all end up actors and pop stars, dating Justin Timberlake.
But once they realise life isn't like that and drop their standards, I'll be in there in a heartbeat
Reply 2
Are you implying im like that? smug lol Justin Timberlake is far too young. lol I'm not--I dont have these high standards, just usually where age is concerned.
Reply 3
well once a guy is 25 onwards, he won't be dependent on mommy so maybe you should lower your age range
Reply 4
How old are you to be jail bait?
Reply 5
I have the same thing. The past two guys i've liked have all had their own cars/houses/jobs. To me it's just more secure than having to deal with someone who's currently got the same stuff as i do to worry about exams/uni/finding a job when (if!) i graduate....but these guys don't have to think about that..they've done it all so can just be there. I don't think there's anything wrong with it..until the settling down thing pops up. i personally dont want kids for another decade!!
Reply 6
Well I'm 26 and I don't have a car, house or job! I'm in the same position as most uni students, I'm just a bit older and have experienced some different things.
I think it is quite common for girls to prefer older men especially if they are a bit more mature themselves. Once you get a bit more older and self assured you stop playing games. I see my younger male friends acting oddly around girls they like, eg they will become moody and get into arguments with them as a way of getting attention from them, or send them mixed signals to keep them keen etc etc. I don't think you get this crap from older males they know how to be straight to the point.
My last ex was 18 and I was 25 at the time, and I'm sure the age was part of her attraction to me. She had newly arrived at university in a strange city and was unsure of herself and probably felt some security in going out with me rather than a 19-20 year old second year, because I knew what I was doing and wasn't there to mess her around. It also looked impressive to her friends who all had their 6 form boyfriends from back home, that she had "pulled" a guy 7 years her senior.
However from the older guys perspective it can be difficult sometimes. I realised after a while that, nice enough girl that she was, we didn't have that much in common because there was such a gap in life experience. I felt like I was looking after her more than me being able to get a lot out of the relationship.
Ultimately I think the attraction to an older guy comes from female desire for security, some older men already have tangible evidence of being able to be a provider (if they are in a secure job), but apart from that there's a level of emotional stability that older guys can provide better than younger headcases.
I think it is quite common for girls to prefer older men especially if they are a bit more mature themselves. Once you get a bit more older and self assured you stop playing games. I see my younger male friends acting oddly around girls they like, eg they will become moody and get into arguments with them as a way of getting attention from them, or send them mixed signals to keep them keen etc etc. I don't think you get this crap from older males they know how to be straight to the point.
My last ex was 18 and I was 25 at the time, and I'm sure the age was part of her attraction to me. She had newly arrived at university in a strange city and was unsure of herself and probably felt some security in going out with me rather than a 19-20 year old second year, because I knew what I was doing and wasn't there to mess her around. It also looked impressive to her friends who all had their 6 form boyfriends from back home, that she had "pulled" a guy 7 years her senior.
However from the older guys perspective it can be difficult sometimes. I realised after a while that, nice enough girl that she was, we didn't have that much in common because there was such a gap in life experience. I felt like I was looking after her more than me being able to get a lot out of the relationship.
Ultimately I think the attraction to an older guy comes from female desire for security, some older men already have tangible evidence of being able to be a provider (if they are in a secure job), but apart from that there's a level of emotional stability that older guys can provide better than younger headcases.
Reply 7
Couldnt have said it better....but why dont you have a job 
Reply 8
MagicNMedicine
However from the older guys perspective it can be difficult sometimes. I realised after a while that, nice enough girl that she was, we didn't have that much in common because there was such a gap in life experience. I felt like I was looking after her more than me being able to get a lot out of the relationship.
However from the older guys perspective it can be difficult sometimes. I realised after a while that, nice enough girl that she was, we didn't have that much in common because there was such a gap in life experience. I felt like I was looking after her more than me being able to get a lot out of the relationship.
I've noticed this in two of my old relationships (both 10 year age gaps) - poor blokes, as mature as I thought I was, we just weren't on the same level in terms of life experiences. After a while the whole thing feels very artificial.
If you happen to fall for an older bloke by chance, it'll probably work out. But if you're a serial older-man kinda girl, you'll tire of it eventually when you realise that the age gap provides nothing substantial nor adds anything extra to the relationship.
Reply 9
Pretty Boy
hmm, thats a shame about he miscommunication thing cos I've always pictured myself with a trophy wife when I'm older.
If you want a trophy I don't think the communication really matters, presuming you mean trophy as in young and hot.
Reply 10
I want to think I can rely on an older guy but i dont want him to think that I NEED him, and thus, its more of a baby sitting job than a relationship. I can do what older girls can and more ...I think
...I thinkReply 11
keenya2006
the only reason i started watchign C-SPAN was to get a glimpse of tony blair haha
Why the laughter? He's hot
Reply 12
I wasnt laughing at him...i was laughing at my motives...he is hot...and umm...i hope ur not tryin to go after him...its gonna be a girlfiiight 
Reply 13
Pretty Boy
It was a joke.
That didn't really make sense
older men do it for me. well, i'd say 45 would be my limit, but the oldest guy i've been out with was 28.
i want someone who knows more than i do, someone who has that post-jaded optimism that makes it ok to take me out somewhere like the theatre or an art gallery. and they're generally better at holding doors open and holding your chair out for you.
hugh laurie is really pushing my buttons in house at the moment...
i want someone who knows more than i do, someone who has that post-jaded optimism that makes it ok to take me out somewhere like the theatre or an art gallery. and they're generally better at holding doors open and holding your chair out for you.
hugh laurie is really pushing my buttons in house at the moment...
Reply 15
keenya2006
I want to think I can rely on an older guy but i dont want him to think that I NEED him, and thus, its more of a baby sitting job than a relationship. I can do what older girls can and more ...I think
...I thinkYou never replied to my earlier question Why can't you have the older guys? You said you were jailbait- how old are you?
Reply 16
keenya2006
Couldnt have said it better....but why dont you have a job
I quit my old job to come to uni at 24, I'm studying for my degree. I work for a publications company freelance, so I do technically have a job, but it's not full time.
keenya2006
Twist on the other thread. But Im always asking myself why. Im attracted to a certain age range usually 28-35. I dont know why. 18 yr olds just dont do it for me...many look like little boys to me and its gross...but a 30 yr old man is like divine i mean ive even gone further than that---the only reason i started watchign C-SPAN was to get a glimpse of tony blair haha, but seriously. and in real life too i gravitate toward these guys...but of course they back away cause im jail bait. I like how they are independent and dont need to 'ask mom for a loan' or pick me up in their bicycle but I also like their attitude like 'aww u havent experienced life...let me show you ' and they seem more open and knowledgable about certain things and more dependable. Would you say this older guy fetish is healthy or just trouble in the making?
i mean ive even gone further than that---the only reason i started watchign C-SPAN was to get a glimpse of tony blair haha, but seriously. and in real life too i gravitate toward these guys...but of course they back away cause im jail bait. I like how they are independent and dont need to 'ask mom for a loan' or pick me up in their bicycle but I also like their attitude like 'aww u havent experienced life...let me show you ' and they seem more open and knowledgable about certain things and more dependable. Would you say this older guy fetish is healthy or just trouble in the making?I think it's pretty healthy...most girls go thru a stage of liking older guys. My ex was 23 which is a few years older (I'm 18) than me and his maturity was really attractive. However if a guy in his 30s would consider dating a teenager that would probably make him pretty weird.
Reply 18
keenya2006
I wasnt laughing at him...i was laughing at my motives...he is hot...and umm...i hope ur not tryin to go after him...its gonna be a girlfiiight
Oh it is on! lol
Reply 19
Im 17 but ill be 18 in june..yeah i know its legal there..but not here...thats another thing that bothers me...why cant a 30 yr old genuinely be attracted to an 18 yr old if they do have things in common and she is that mature w/o being some weirdo that preys on young girls.
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