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Do I or do I not ???

I've not been in many relationships and none of them have been serious. This week the boy I was seeing was caught in a club by my mates getting off wiht another girl and then denied it when I asked him, so naturally he was finished.

My best mate had (finished about a week ago) been going out with a guy that lots of people viewed as a 'goody two shoes'. After about a month she was truly sick of him because he sent her txts all the time, was always wanting to see her and he didn't want to do anything more than kiss.

I'm now pretty sure I really fancy this guy; he wont cheat, will genuinely care about me, is really nice and is very clever (and good looking).

I really dont know what to do because my best mate can't stand him but I have really fell for him in a big way. He seems the perfect match for me, we both love the same things, our personalities are pretty similar and neither of us want to rish things.

The real problem is my mate though, how soon would she see it not as a problem if I started trying to pull him and should I tell her or what :confused:

Im really confused and dont know what to do :confused:

Reply 1

strawberry

try asking her what she doesn't like about him and try working it out. but ultimately, it's your choice and she has to let you face the consequence of your choice. :smile:

you have to remember that if she's your best mate, she obviously has your best interests at heart. either that, or she fancies the same guy. lol

Reply 2

Doodahdoo

Talk to her first, most definatly.

Reply 3

Cirsium

Talk to her first
Depending on how serious she was about him she may be really upset or not bothered at all
Also do you REALLY like him, or is this you looking at how he was with your mate and assuming it would be the same with you and thinking you'd like a guy who was that obsessive?

Reply 4

xoxo_GossipGirl

If I was your friend, and you went out with him, that would be it. I wouldn't tell you I didn't want you to see him even if you asked me. But your friend could be totally different from me. If you genuinely like him, ask her about it, but look at her reaction and not what she actually says.

Reply 5

hitmanuk2k

I think if your friend had not been the one to finish the guy, I think she may have some gripes with you seeing him. But given the fact it was her who was sick of him, I think it's probably fair to say she has no feelings for him so wouldn't mind you 2 being together if it made you happy.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

i mentioned him to my mate (not that i like him, just said something about him in conversation) and she said that when she finished him she used the excuse that exams are getting in the way and they could see what happened after the exams. I know fine well she only did this to seem nicer about the dumping thing, but i suppose this means its a no go area for me...

O well, life goes on, we shall see what happens

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

You need to speak to her first. Your friendship at the end of the day is more important than a relationship that may never work out. A 'friend' recently, despite knowing my negative feelings about it, starting dating my first love and even though it ended on good terms between me and him and it was quite a while ago, her actions have still pretty much destroyed our friendship and our group of friends who share my sentiments. Please, before you decide to do ANYTHING about this guy speak to your friend about it first. Don't become like my associate, its made things very difficult not just between me and her but all of our friends have become affected too.