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going to uni a virgin

Is anyone else scared about going to uni a virgin? other people will be way more experienced and what about freshers week?

Reply 1

Melana

14

Do what you want to do. You're not being forced into doing anything sexual, even if everyone else is doing it. By still being a virgin you're showing a sense of self-restraint, so go you!

Reply 2

Eru Lawliet

1

i don't think that's a problem. Who cares anyway?

Reply 3

tana

Like Melana said you don't have to do anything you don't want to. Freshers week is all about making new friends and having a good time not just all about sex.

Reply 4

Axiom

1

Come on! University, in combination with alcohol is probably the biggest source of loss of virginity

Reply 5

username54863

11

I agree, restraint is good, having only recently lost mine (im 18) I wasn't really worrying about that before because there are things which are more important to worry about. Everyone will be too drunk to remember freshers week anyway so don't worry about making yourself a bad reputation until the second week, not that I get the impression people single out virgins, I'm sure (almost) everyone at Uni is very nice and just out to be good friends with you!

You'll be fine

Reply 6

CheesyBeans

1

What about freshers week? Is everyone supposed to have sex with eachother? I just got drunk and had a laugh with my new mates. A lot of people always think uni is one big orgy. I don't see why it matters if you're still a virgin when you start uni so why the stress?

Reply 7

demonbuttercup

1

I wasn't aware that Fresher's Week was a compulsary mass orgy :rolleyes:

It's nothing to be ashamed about, there are certain to be many others (remember that people often lie about this particular subject) who have no experience. Compared to other stresses associated with going to uni (will I make friends? Will I fail everything? etc) this really seems pretty trivial in comparision! When the right time comes it will happen, so chill out.

Reply 8

Né Stig

15

Why the hell would anyone want to make an effort to lose their virginity before University.

Have you ever thought that it could be more embarassing the other way round and having no partner?

Such a stupid thread.

Reply 9

Adarah

16

Anonymous

Is anyone else scared about going to uni a virgin? other people will be way more experienced and what about freshers week?

you don't want to **** around in fresher's week anyway- nor make out with anyone you fancy the week after fresher's week (been there, done that - it just causes problems if you live in the same house and are on the same course, lol).

I was and still am a virgin and you have no reason be a scared about going to uni a virgin. seriously, you'll just have to be careful about which guys you fall for in fresher's week and please be more selective than i was, haha, and don't go for idiots who just want to mess around instead of treating you properly.

Reply 10

randdom

20

don't worry, wait until you find someone that you really care about that might be before uni it might not be. As people say freshers week isn't just a big orgy. I had plenty of friends who went to uni virgins, nearly 2 years in none of them are.

Reply 11

Nina166

2

I'd say it's better for you to do it when you're ready and with the right person then rush into it now, or even in freshers. I'm in my first year, still a virgin, and I had the best time of my life in freshers week without needing to have sex. TBH, not many people i know even had sex during freshers week, and some of those who did regretted it. I myself dont want to have sex until I'm in love with the person, and I really believe the wait will be worth it whenever that time comes. My virginity isn't a problem at all in uni, in fact everyone I've told respects me for it. At the end of the day you have to stick by your own principles and its only when you do that all will fall into place.
Good luck with uni! x

Reply 12

Ghetto_Princess12

To be honest nobody cares if ur a virgin or not. Going to university isnt just about forming relationships its also bout discovering urself and eventually u will find someone who cares bout you enough for u 2 lose ur virginity
untill then enjoy ur life and dont put urself down over silly things like sex

Reply 13

bengreen

1

Like Nina166, I came to uni a virgin, and still am. I have also had some people respect me for that too. It's not an issue, and never will be unless you let it become an issue.

To anybody who said "isn't everyone supposed to have sex in freshers week?"...what are you going on about?!?! You make it sound like you'll get kicked out if you don't have sex!

Reply 14

Absinthe

1

Anyone who turns somebody down because they're still a virgin is only after one thing and not worth the effort.

In my social circle, very few of us have lost our virginities so it's not like 'everybody's out there doing it' because to me that doesn't seem the case.

Reply 15

Mr. Forbes

4

Lose it. Now. You won't get into any of the cool clubs and bars otherwise.

Reply 16

Shéamais

11

Mr. Forbes

Lose it. Now. You won't get into any of the cool clubs and bars otherwise.

Do you need a special ID card?

Reply 17

coolworld37

2

ur going to uni a virgin? So what

Reply 18

Zoecb

11

So it's embarassing!

I will be doing that too, it sucks. I have issues about it too. Everyone might think I'm waiting for 'the right person' which is not at all the case. What I am waiting for is 'a half decent person' who I have yet to meet, funnily enough because it seems my only options so far have been well, unsuitable...

Reply 19

username54863

11

Zoecb

So it's embarassing!

I will be doing that too, it sucks. I have issues about it too. Everyone might think I'm waiting for 'the right person' which is not at all the case. What I am waiting for is 'a half decent person' who I have yet to meet, funnily enough because it seems my only options so far have been well, unsuitable...

You shouldn't lower your standards because of peer pressure and desperation, It's a pretty major thing so you should make it special at the right time with the right person, I did and it was totally worth it.

And I still have no idea what I'm doing!

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