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Helping a mate who has never had a boyfriend
This post is actually for a mate of mine who has never had a boyfriend. She is depressed because all of her friends including me have had at least 1 guy. She is nearly 20 and keeps on asking me for advice but I have run out of stuff to make her feel better. This one's for you blokes out there, what would you say if you met a perfectly sweet and pretty girl who has, well, never had a boyfriend.
I've told her, it will come don't worry but she doesn't believe me... She then says that if she does have a boyfriend one day it won't last because he'll soon find out that she is inexperienced.. Does this matter? Do guys mind that a girl that age has still never been kissed or is a virgin. Can they tell? I told her it doesn't matter but she is just so unconvinced.
I've told her, it will come don't worry but she doesn't believe me... She then says that if she does have a boyfriend one day it won't last because he'll soon find out that she is inexperienced.. Does this matter? Do guys mind that a girl that age has still never been kissed or is a virgin. Can they tell? I told her it doesn't matter but she is just so unconvinced.
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depends on how pretty she is, really... guys go mostly for looks, ya know 
but if she's pretty enough, tell her to GO OUT AND FLIRT WITH GUYS...
no, seriously...
that's the only way she will get anywhere...
dont gimme crap like she's too shy or whatever...
us guys dont like girls that are TOO reserved or TOO shy...
good luck with ure friend
PS: oh, why dont you post this on the "Health and Relationships" section of the Student Room? you might get some VERY helpful responses there...
but if she's pretty enough, tell her to GO OUT AND FLIRT WITH GUYS...
no, seriously...
that's the only way she will get anywhere...
dont gimme crap like she's too shy or whatever...
us guys dont like girls that are TOO reserved or TOO shy...
good luck with ure friend
PS: oh, why dont you post this on the "Health and Relationships" section of the Student Room? you might get some VERY helpful responses there...
Is she looking good? by that I mean is she dressing right, hair styled etc.. so boys will look at her..
Well is there anyone in her life she likes the look of anywhere, is the problem she's not meeting anyone. If so get her out more where she could flirt more with people, does she go out much?
I have to say personally I don't mind quiet or shy girls as long as they are nice to talk to and approchable, tell her not to worry, it will happen eventually
Well is there anyone in her life she likes the look of anywhere, is the problem she's not meeting anyone. If so get her out more where she could flirt more with people, does she go out much?
I have to say personally I don't mind quiet or shy girls as long as they are nice to talk to and approchable, tell her not to worry, it will happen eventually
Reply 5
same
Reply 6
I knew it wouldn't take long for the 'good guys' of tsr to come along with the "oh know I much prefer these girls, they are so much nicer"
such nice guys
such nice guys
Navajo
Is she looking good? by that I mean is she dressing right, hair styled etc.. so boys will look at her..
Well is there anyone in her life she likes the look of anywhere, is the problem she's not meeting anyone. If so get her out more where she could flirt more with people, does she go out much?
I have to say personally I don't mind quiet or shy girls as long as they are nice to talk to and approchable, tell her not to worry, it will happen eventually
Well is there anyone in her life she likes the look of anywhere, is the problem she's not meeting anyone. If so get her out more where she could flirt more with people, does she go out much?
I have to say personally I don't mind quiet or shy girls as long as they are nice to talk to and approchable, tell her not to worry, it will happen eventually
well she is actually as I said pretty and fashionalble. She has lots of guy friends but doesn't know how to get past the 1st step. What bothers her the most is the fact that she is SINGLE and has been FOR EVER to a point that she feels so pathetic and is scared it will affect her in the future. She is nearly 20. She just needs convincing that guys won't TAKE THE PISS that she has NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND before.
Reply 9
Get her over here, talking is crucial so if she can't talk about things online then she won't get far. Flirting is always key but the foundation of that is attitude, be true to who you are when you put out your first impression, that way if guys get a bad impression of you it won't be far from what you are actually like so you can quickly correct them. Shyness isn't bad, it makes guys less scared of talking to you, personally I talk WAAAY too much (maybe you can tell...heh) but I'm reassured pretty quickly if I get a response which is whitty or in agreement.
As for the inexperienced thing, guys might like it because they will know that they have the upper hand, sometimes its daunting when you know you are the less experienced one (such as I am in my current relationship) and I know how easy it is to become insecure and thing no one will want anything to do with you if you don't know what you are doing, but inexperience is all about life so you have to get out there and make an impression to get things moving.
I find internet chatrooms are good for practicing flirting and things like that because everythings very casual and removed so maybe you should suggest that to her.
Hope my essay helped, otherwise I wasted a looong time lol
As for the inexperienced thing, guys might like it because they will know that they have the upper hand, sometimes its daunting when you know you are the less experienced one (such as I am in my current relationship) and I know how easy it is to become insecure and thing no one will want anything to do with you if you don't know what you are doing, but inexperience is all about life so you have to get out there and make an impression to get things moving.
I find internet chatrooms are good for practicing flirting and things like that because everythings very casual and removed so maybe you should suggest that to her.
Hope my essay helped, otherwise I wasted a looong time lol
Reply 11
DPM
Who said I'm a good guy? Perhaps I like quieter girls so that I can be the louder one?
it's a common theme on this forum, all the guys swarm in about loving the nice girls and how they always treat people right. All the guys saying they hate overly flirty girls and stuff.
Just a bit annoying really
serious narb
it's a common theme on this forum, all the guys swarm in about loving the nice girls and how they always treat people right. All the guys saying they hate overly flirty girls and stuff.
Just a bit annoying really
Just a bit annoying really
I don't hate louder girls, they just tend to be the more arrogant harder to talk to ones.
Reply 13
what would you say if you met a perfectly sweet and pretty girl who has, well, never had a boyfriend
Nothing because id be glad id found the ugly duckling sydrome girl.
However i dont think this is the case.
Very hard to judge what i would think unless i can see her. First impressions go a long way, and i can tell alot about someone from body language and attitude.
Reply 15
DPM
I don't hate louder girls, they just tend to be the more arrogant harder to talk to ones.
you seem to be replying as if i was just referring to you personally, I was on about the males on TSR in general trying to come across as the nice guys all the time.
dan1982
Nothing because id be glad id found the ugly duckling sydrome girl.
However i dont think this is the case.
Very hard to judge what i would think unless i can see her. First impressions go a long way, and i can tell alot about someone from body language and attitude.
However i dont think this is the case.
Very hard to judge what i would think unless i can see her. First impressions go a long way, and i can tell alot about someone from body language and attitude.
so are you trying to say that if she is pretty enough the fact that she is still single and 20 wouldn't bother you?
Reply 18
Clemy
so are you trying to say that if she is pretty enough the fact that she is still single and 20 wouldn't bother you?
yes that exactly what im saying, if im attracted to a girl, and i like her personality. She has everything i want, and i wouldnt care about her past, unless somehow it majorly effects me. Like disease or mental ex's
I would take it fairly slowly in said case. Although im not expecting her to be forward i dont really like girls that intentially dont go on how they feel, because they thing 4months is the right time to wait. If you get me. Sounds a bit bad.
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