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My big brother...

This sounds really stupid, but it upset me. My older brother is in his fifth year at uni (on a six year course) and because he's doing medicine, he hardly ever gets to come home. He's here at the moment, and during conversation casually referred to going back to uni as "going home."

He sees it as his home now, obviously, and I find it upsetting. Why doesn't he regard here as his home anymore? Has anyone else experienced this?
It's only natural that he should want to move on. He's not going to stay at home for ever! I wouldn't get too upset about it if I were you, just because he's moving away it doesn't mean he'll forget who his family is!
Reply 2
Hey, aww don't worry about it, it's only natrual for him to say that, he's been living out for a while, but it probably just slipped out, and probably didn't say it consciously. I'm sure he still regards your house as 'home'. He probably see's uni as his second home maybe? How often does he come home?

I can kind of relate to you, my older bro moved out for uni in sept. But he comes home every week, and so it doesn't seem as though he's really gone. I think he might of referred to uni as 'home' by accident as well, which I can understand he spends more time there, but he still see's this as his home.
Reply 3
Anonymous
Why doesn't he regard here as his home anymore?

because he lives at uni obviously, hes moved out and yeah it was his home but it isnt any more. however im sure that when hes at uni he refers to your house as home you know 'going home for the holidays' kinda stuff
Reply 4
I say going home when going back to uni... Generally i think people think of the place they spend most their time living to be their home - which for students is uni... but we all know our real home is our house with our family. :smile:
Reply 5
Thanks, you guys.

He comes home literally hardly ever - he used to get like eight weeks off for the holidays but now that he's actually working in hospitals, he gets a week at the most, and that's only every five or six months.

I'm off to uni in October and I can't imagine calling it my "home" !
Reply 6
when my older brother is at home as in living with me, he talks about going home to uni, then when he is at uni he talks about coming back home to us. so i think its a case of having 2 homes really, and both are good but for different things!

i wouldn't worry too much about it, i think its a thing everyone does- all my uni friends do it. it doesn't mean he doesn't class your family home as home anymore, its more he has 2 homes as he spends a substantial amount of time at uni so hes bound to call their 'home' too.
Reply 7
Well, tbh, when I'm on holiday I refer to the hotel as "home" eg asking Mum if we're "going back home" soon if, say, we were out shopping.
My Brothers half way through a PHD, and is the same way.

He now lives in a house, not halls- and has been there for 4/5 years- so it is his home (albeit temporarily)
Reply 9
Anonymous
This sounds really stupid, but it upset me. My older brother is in his fifth year at uni (on a six year course) and because he's doing medicine, he hardly ever gets to come home. He's here at the moment, and during conversation casually referred to going back to uni as "going home."

He sees it as his home now, obviously, and I find it upsetting. Why doesn't he regard here as his home anymore? Has anyone else experienced this?


Ah you little sweetheart, you're so lucky to have a big brother that you care enough about to worry about this!! :smile:

Don't worry, just be proud of his achievements and commitment to such an amazing career :smile:

xx
Reply 10
I refer to uni as "home" to in conversation, although I don't really regard it as my real home. In reality I see myself as having 2 homes; the family home and uni.