I have a problem- fighting

You sound like a squaddie.

Reply 2

neal.

probably start going to a boxing gym or something and take it out on the punch bags, its a great stress reliever.

also, you could do safe sparring if you wanted to.

Reply 3

OP

DPM

You sound like a squaddie.

a what?

Reply 4

username54863

U know some SAS guy who is so hard he's frozen his own balls off without breaking a sweat...

Anyway I'd say loud angry music works for me, or feel good stuff like ska

Reply 5

Any respectable martial art.

Not only will you learn effective self-defence, but it'll teach you a great deal about control and respect for others, and maybe you'll find a few answers for yourself on the way :smile:

It's helped me though I can't say I've been in a situation quite like yours, I was racially bullied for a long time which was interesting to say the least.

Reply 6

horrorboy

Anonymous

When I was thirteen,I was using a phone box (early evening, but dark) when 3 lads came and pulled me out onto the floor, kicked me and spat on me, just because they wouldnt wait for the phone. I wasnt small, but I had never been in that situation before, and after it I told myself I would never let that happen to me again. I started working out at school gym, doing more competetive sport, anything that would help me if that ever happend again.
To this present day, I dont take **** off anyone, unless its freinds messing about, and as a result have ended up in a few scraps. I was told the other day that I am so aggressive at times (and it is down to this), but Im not telling anyone about what hapened to me. Does anyone know any good methods of anger control, or calming yourself down, because this needs to stop before I end up getting locked up or something.

thanks

Have you thought of taking karate, kick boxing or something? It will increase your confidence and give you self control, then you can just laugh at people who challenge you which is much cooler than fighting

Reply 7

Shéamais

JitsuCol

It's helped me though I can't say I've been in a situation quite like yours, I was racially bullied for a long time which was interesting to say the least.

I got bullied for 7 years at school because of the country I came from, they just wouldn't beleive I didn't do anything with sheep. Racism is bad.

Reply 8

DPM

I got bullied for 7 years at school because of the country I came from, they just wouldn't beleive I didn't do anything with sheep. Racism is bad.

Racism of any type is bad. But kids don't get it, and, worryingly, adults can be just as bad, if not worse.

Without a doubt Uni has been the best thing that's ever happened to me, I've never felt like myself before :smile:

. School can be terrible.

Reply 9

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

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Anonymous

When I was thirteen,I was using a phone box (early evening, but dark) when 3 lads came and pulled me out onto the floor, kicked me and spat on me, just because they wouldnt wait for the phone. I wasnt small, but I had never been in that situation before, and after it I told myself I would never let that happen to me again. I started working out at school gym, doing more competetive sport, anything that would help me if that ever happend again.
To this present day, I dont take **** off anyone, unless its freinds messing about, and as a result have ended up in a few scraps. I was told the other day that I am so aggressive at times (and it is down to this), but Im not telling anyone about what hapened to me. Does anyone know any good methods of anger control, or calming yourself down, because this needs to stop before I end up getting locked up or something.

thanks

I don't take anything from anyone and am in a lot of fight because of it. Doesn't help that im as stubborn as a donkey neither. The thing that kinda keeps me from going totally ballistic is to just restrain myself or wind myself so I know I wouldn't be fit to do anything about it. You won't be locked up for it, think positively over it and if you feel like you are going to lose your temper just sit down somewhere and sit on your hands - I know it works for me - it sounds silly but it does help - if you wanna PM me with anything else thats fine I'd be glad to help :smile:

Reply 10

OP

Pretty Boy

how old are you now?

18 in a couple of weeks

Reply 11

Shéamais

Anonymous

When I was thirteen,I was using a phone box (early evening, but dark) when 3 lads came and pulled me out onto the floor, kicked me and spat on me, just because they wouldnt wait for the phone. I wasnt small, but I had never been in that situation before, and after it I told myself I would never let that happen to me again. I started working out at school gym, doing more competetive sport, anything that would help me if that ever happend again.
To this present day, I dont take **** off anyone, unless its freinds messing about, and as a result have ended up in a few scraps. I was told the other day that I am so aggressive at times (and it is down to this), but Im not telling anyone about what hapened to me. Does anyone know any good methods of anger control, or calming yourself down, because this needs to stop before I end up getting locked up or something.

thanks

When you fight are you "in control" or do you go mad? When I've been attacked in the past I switch off but I don't lose control.

Reply 12

chazzinio

hmmm.....

Reply 13

Anonymous

I dont take **** off anyone ... I was told the other day that I am so aggressive at times (and it is down to this), but Im not telling anyone about what hapened to me

Is this the problem? That you may be finding it hard to come to terms with, and talk about, what happened to you. Sorry to sound like a psychiatrist (I'd be a bad one), but bottling it up like that can be bad.

Reply 14

OP

I think im in control, as in I'll try not to kill anyone! Normally, all i want to do is just put the other guy down, but if they start on my I try and hurt them as much as possible. I have my limits. Id never stamp on someones head or anything like that, because thats just ****ing wrong. Im not completely sure what you mean by self control in this instance?

Reply 15

I think self-control would be that you use a proportionate amount of force against what you are receiving.

Basically, if someone pushes you, there's no need to hospitalise them!

Doing a martial art, you would learn many potentially lethal/extremely harmful techniques that would mean you have to think twice. But just having it there can make you feel safer - but hopefully not arrogant or egotistical. It's a dangerous area.

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