Yep, Another Age Gap Question

Right, this is a pathetic thread but being a girly who 'likes' somebody, you have these worries and I'm wondering what people think:
I've known this guy for a little while, we're good friends and at the weekend it was 'revealed' that we both like each other more than friends so we agreed to go out for a drink tonight. He said he'd been thinking about me a lot, really likes me etc.

But we forgot it was the night loads of people we know go to Whetherspoons, so ended up just generally socialising and not really getting the good chat we wanted (so he said later this week, we'll go to a quiet local pub together.) On a Monday, everyone then goes on to a club that has an indie night and we agreed to go with his mate, even though I did say I was worried about getting in, though the last few times I've got myself in. I'm 17, he's 22...he's known I'm 17 right from day one, I've never lied about it.

So yeah, we get there, I get IDed and they say they remember me and theres no way I'm coming in basically so have to go home.

If you were the 22 year old...would that be enough to make you think 'hmmm, maybe not' about seeing the younger girl? I'm just worried he wouldn't want a girl who he couldn't take to clubs etc for another 4 months.

Sorry, this is probably an unecessarily long post... :rolleyes:

Reply 1

PinkPigeon

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x.narb.x

Err, I wouldn't be deterred for that reason alone, but at 22 I don't see myself trying it on with 17 year olds, to be blunt. Whats wrong with girls his own age?

It's only 5 years...I know plenty of couples (my age etc, not older married ones) with that age gap...that's not really an issue as such, as I'm pretty positive he's not some sleazebag looking to get with a younger girl, we genuinley get on very well etc.

Reply 2

Jayk

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Well, surely you can hang out in places OTHER than bars for the four months? Yes? No?

I mean, the age gap shouldn't be a problem...5 years is small compared to some couples I know (some in my close family), and it doesn't affect them in the slightest. If you really like each other, age shouldn't matter.

Unless of course, it's a 30-year-old loving a 12-year-old or something similar. That's just wrong...

Reply 3

PinkPigeon

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jayk_bakner

Well, surely you can hang out in places OTHER than bars for the four months? Yes? No?

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Well thats exactly my thoughts...I'm just worrying that he's going to have gone off me or something because of it, just wondered if it would have put guys on here off a 17 year old they liked, or maybe given them a wake up call about her age. (yes, I am absolutley pathetic, I am totally honest about it...)

Reply 4

Jayk

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PinkPigeon

Well thats exactly my thoughts...I'm just worrying that he's going to have gone off me or something because of it, just wondered if it would have put guys on here off a 17 year old they liked, or maybe given them a wake up call about her age. (yes, I am absolutley pathetic, I am totally honest about it...)

If he goes off you just because you have to do something other than drink together, he's an arse-monkey, and YOU shouldn't give him time of day.

It certainly wouldn't put me off; in fact, I prefer not to go drinking on a date regardless of age. Cinema and a meal all the way. Or something equally cultured :wink:

Reply 5

PinkPigeon

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Ahh...forget it...just got a text calling me a 'silly sausage' and saying of course it doesn't change how he feels. I can sleep a happy girl now!

Sorry to annoy everyone- I'm sure some of you know how it is when you're at that 'do they,dont they' stage and you've got all these silly ideas/questions.

Reply 6

Helenia

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Meh, I have to agree with narb that I find it strange, but I'm just an old cynic.

Reply 7

bewithoutyou

I started going out with my ex when I was 16 and he was 20... used to drive me crazy as our local pubs are very strict on ID and I was never able to go out with him and his friends. But we stayed together for nearly 4 years, so it obviously didn't bother him too much :smile: