Friend trouble

Last night I was out with some friends when one of them privately mentioned a secret I'd told them a couple of weeks ago....she then immediately told em one of her secrets...that she fancies another of our friends.

No problem, I hear you saying. But she is in a long term relationship for several years and is planning on moving half way a cross the country in a couple of months to move back in with him.

Apparently my mates kissed last week, but thought it was just the drink making them. But last night they were kissing again for most of the night. I left them to it there, but I didn't let them go home together as I knew they wanted to take it further. I told them that the girl needs to decide what she wants to do before things go further.

I'm just not sure now what to do. I feel like I'm in a really tricky situation. I've texted the girl to try and talk to her. But I haven't heard back yet. And the guy said he's get in touch soon to talk about it all when he left the taxi last night.

Oh why couldn't our other mate have been out there too. He was asked to come out with us, but didn't. I really wish I had someone else in the know to talk to about it :frown:

I hope nobody can identify anything about this post. I really don't want my mates to know I've been talking about this. But I just needed to get this off my chest :frown:

Reply 1

zav

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tbh its sweet your trying to help them out but if i was you i would stay out of it.

They can make a choice themselves and all you can do is advise them and then let them make there own choice.

If you get involved then when it goes nasty some of the blame might go your way or one of the people involved who misses out will blame you for the faliure of there relationship.

Stay clear and just enjoy yourself :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

zav

tbh its sweet your trying to help them out but if i was you i would stay out of it.

They can make a choice themselves and all you can do is advise them and then let them make there own choice.

If you get involved then when it goes nasty some of the blame might go your way or one of the people involved who misses out will blame you for the faliure of there relationship.

Stay clear and just enjoy yourself :smile:

It's just tough to know what to do because first the girl told me about it as though she wanted to tell me all about it and now the guy said he'll get in touch over it.

It all feels as though they want someone to intervene...and I don't want to stand by and see the lot of them (including the boyfriend) get hurt as they are all great people. I just want them to try and decide what they all want before any of it is taken any further.

We've only all known each other 7 months, but we've all got on really well and I don't want this to cause any problems between the lot of us by them going on and taking things further without actually thinking beforehand. I can just see that ending in tears for them all :frown:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Should I text the guy friend to see what he says?

I'm thinking of just texting him to ask how he is. We had a big night last night...very late in the end when we left, so we sometimes often text each other the next day if we aren't to see each other.

I could just ask him how he feels and see what he has to say. Or should I just leave it? I feel really awkward doing nothing, but also awkward to text him...

I know I probably shouldn't be worrying as it's not my problem. But since I found out, I now feel involved. I really don't think the boyfriend should be left in the dark about it. I have no way of contacting him myself, but still....

Reply 4

izzles

if ur good mates with the girl, talk to her face to face. tell her to think about what she is doing (in a very gently way tho!!) and convince her to stop because it is going to ruin her relationship with her bf.. bt dont tell her that u're going to tell him bcoz she will not like that at all. she wants to keep this away from her bf obviously, but as her friend ur gonna have to convince her she is doing the wrong thing.

mayb if u kno someone else who's good friends with her, ask them to talk to her, mayb mention that they heard 'sth is going on' with her n her mate. i dont kno how comfortable you would be with that tho. n i'm not sure thats the best thing to do.

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