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been in a same situation? advice?

ok well me and this guy really like each other and we get on really well. we talk all the time and hes so sweet and i like him so much, never liked anyone like this before. we've kissed and it was amazing (sorry for being so corny :redface:

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but the thing is he says he cant have a gf right now, he is behind with his college work and he is trying to catch up, cos if he fails the course he's just gonna be a waste man walking street with nothing else to do which is not a good thing. and hes also got things going on at home hes got alot of resposabilites etc. he said we can get together when he finishes college which is at the end of may.

but i cant wait, i think about him all the time and hes always on my mind, its so annoying but i have such strong feelings for him (that he doesnt know about how much). how can i get over him? and what happens if his feelings change and we dont get together? im so worried something might happen :frown:

Reply 1

Navajo

14

Yes, I've been in that situation, talking as a guy it's hard, if work is important to him then let him get on with it, but also don't let the situation sink, it's there so go for it, just be considerate to the amount of time you take up.

Also are you sure it's not a palm off?

Reply 2

pink_lucie

OP

14

Navajo

Yes, I've been in that situation, talking as a guy it's hard, if work is important to him then let him get on with it, but also don't let the situation sink, it's there so go for it, just be considerate to the amount of time you take up.

Also are you sure it's not a palm off?

no he said he liked me and the other day on the phone he said so are you gonna go out with me after college then? sort of thing

Reply 3

*alice*

hmmm...well if you like him that much im sure you can wait just over a month for him! Just make sure hes serious- you dont want to be waiting around for something that never happens....
....which im sure is very unlikely of course!

Reply 4

Lil' Miss Smiley

1

you can wait and support him, he is trying to stay focussed and if you like him as much as you say you do, it will be worth the wait.

Reply 5

pink_lucie

OP

14

i'll try but it is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hard! :frown:

Reply 6

*alice*

ahh well what can you do!

Reply 7

pumpkin7

13

the longer you wait, the better it will be :smile:

(on a side note, it annoys me when people say 'oh, if i fail this course i'm going to have a rubbish life blah blhab lhablahalb'.. why do people talk such crap? just because you don't have m/any qualifications doesn't mean you are ruining your life. gg guys)

Reply 8

pink_lucie

OP

14

ok an update, and i need more help.

basicly we were talking alot and we ended up going out. for one day, that day something happed to his friend which was very bad and it effected him to cut a long story short it was too dangerous for him to have a gf. so i was upset a bit but didnt tell him know. we stoped talking for a while and that helped cos i was getting over him. but we started talking again and last night he called me and we met up, he was hugging me alot of things like that. while he was waiting for me for the bus we kissed ALOT.

And now he is over what happend to his friend i feel to ask him what is going on with us? cos my feelings have come back for him and i dont wanna be heart broken again. but then if i ask him what is going on i dont want him to think oh it was just a kiss why is she over acting etc?

im really just so lost with what to do :frown:

Reply 9

BlackHawk

17

He's just not that into you.

Reply 10

minimo

15

Cindy

you can wait and support him, he is trying to stay focussed and if you like him as much as you say you do, it will be worth the wait.

If anything having to do that should help strengthen your relationship, coz it means you can deal with the tough times.

Reply 11

1013

1

It sounds like he likes you but isn't interested in having a relationship. If he's your age then you're both pretty young and most guys are not really interested in proper relationships at that age, whereas, unfortunately girls are. That's just the way it goes. I would say you should play it cool. This always works. Make the guy work hard to get your attention. It's the oldest trick in tohe book.

Reply 12

pink_lucie

OP

14

BlackHawk

He's just not that into you.

why do you say that?

Reply 13

Harv616

9

Im in the exact same situation, best thing you can do is get over him and move on.

If he did like you as much as you like him, nothing would stop him being with you.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

Ohh the same is happening to me... i really like a guy who doesnt want a relationship, but because of his ex (trust issues) not because of work. Its hard to know whether to move on (which is so hard) or keep seeing him every now and again just coz we enjoy each others company. Much sympathy coming your way :smile:

xx

Reply 15

pink_lucie

OP

14

Anonymous

Ohh the same is happening to me... i really like a guy who doesnt want a relationship, but because of his ex (trust issues) not because of work. Its hard to know whether to move on (which is so hard) or keep seeing him every now and again just coz we enjoy each others company. Much sympathy coming your way :smile:

xx

exactly!!!!! omg!!!! :hugs:

what are we gonna do! :frown:

Reply 16

1013

1

BhArJ

Im in the exact same situation, best thing you can do is get over him and move on.

If he did like you as much as you like him, nothing would stop him being with you.

This is so right! If a guy really likes you, 'work' and 'trust issues' aren't a problem.

Reply 17

Anonymous #2

I know what you mean.

Me and my gay mate love each other so much. But he's more gay than i am, so i left him. :smile:

Reply 18

username54863

11

janeyc1013

This is so right! If a guy really likes you, 'work' and 'trust issues' aren't a problem.

Agreed, being a guy i got into my latest relationship knowing full well these few months up to A levels are going to be the hardest working of my achedemic life, but it didn't stop me, and it's working fine so far without any reprocussions.

Once exam time starts we will see, I doubt i'll get to see her much/at all for a month.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

Argh its so annoying isnt it!! My plan was to find a new guy... even though im off to uni in a bit and dont particularly want to be attached, anyways that plan isnt going too well! heh!

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