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Am I in the wrong?

I've got with this guy, I'll call him Sam, a few times over the past few months and his friend, who I'll refer to as Jack, wasn't happy about it because he told me he liked me a lot. I made sure that I was honest with Jack, and didn't go behind his back, even though we're only friends. Last night I went to a club with them and some other friends and Sam and I were dancing and kissing. Jack saw this and then went off and started punching a wall because he said it stopped him from punching Sam. I've talked to Jack countless times..and I'm really sick of having to explain myself so much so that I don't see the point anymore.

Am I being selfish or is Jack just being an idiot?

Reply 1

strawberry

13

you're not being selfish. you decided to go with Sam and that is what you did. It's his problem if Jack can't get over this. He's not exactly being a good friend if he's not happy for Sam.

Reply 2

spunk trumpet

Yes, punching walls is very stupid. Punch a bouncer, that way you can prove you're really upset rather than hurting an inanimate object.

Reply 3

Zoecb

11

Ah, I see. Normally I'd say you have every right to do what you like with Sam, but I've actually been in that Jack-like position and even though he has to accept that he can't have you, seeing you with his mate must still make him very jealous and angry. The sensitive thing to do would be to do what you like with Sam but try not to flaunt your relationship in front of Jack, as this upsets him. For a while anyway. Give him some time.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

I've made sure that I kept away from Sam when Jack was around for the past couple of months. We had this huge talk between the three of us a few days ago and Jack seemed ok about everything. Last night was the first time he's ever seen us together. I guess that hurts though.

Reply 5

strawberry

13

yea it would hurt. :smile:

but you're not wrong.

Reply 6

Zoecb

11

Yeah, unrequitedness sucks. It's hard for him, but it's hardly your fault.

Reply 7

Mad_Monkey59

2

Anonymous

I've got with this guy, I'll call him Sam, a few times over the past few months and his friend, who I'll refer to as Jack, wasn't happy about it because he told me he liked me a lot. I made sure that I was honest with Jack, and didn't go behind his back, even though we're only friends. Last night I went to a club with them and some other friends and Sam and I were dancing and kissing. Jack saw this and then went off and started punching a wall because he said it stopped him from punching Sam. I've talked to Jack countless times..and I'm really sick of having to explain myself so much so that I don't see the point anymore.

Am I being selfish or is Jack just being an idiot?

You know how he feels about you, a bit a empathy wouldn't go amiss.

Be with Sam, just don't do it infront of Jack, he's your friend ffs.

Reply 8

Mad_Monkey59

2

spunk trumpet

Yes, punching walls is very stupid. Punch a bouncer, that way you can prove you're really upset rather than hurting an inanimate object.

I don't think punching someone who gets paid because he's big and strong is a good idea, ever.

ps: you can't hurt inanimate objects.

Reply 9

bluedreamer

1

spunk trumpet

Yes, punching walls is very stupid. Punch a bouncer, that way you can prove you're really upset rather than hurting an inanimate object.

not a good idea though!!

Reply 10

Murphyman

If "Jack" can't get over the fact that you like another guy thats his problem. Sounds to me like hes a little arrogant, thinking that you MUST like him and therefore works himself into a stress about it ever time hes reminded that your not with him.
Well thats just my view anywho.

Am I in the wrong?

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