Teacher love

Please don't all groan at once but it's another thread about teachers & pupils.

I am so infatuated with one of my college teachers at the moment it is unbelievable. I think it's stronger now the end of sixth form is drawing close... we're 4 teaching weeks away from the end of term.

This is where my problem is. I feel physically ill thinking about leaving college and this wonderful teacher who cares so much about my work and subject and is really beautiful and everything i want to be when i grow up.

It's really really upsetting me at the moment - these feelings are so strong they can really overwhelm me and distract me from work. I blush like crazy infront of this teacher and I'm sure they know I fancy them..

Anyway the point of this thread - how do i ask to stay in touch with this teacher and do you think it's a good idea? I've got their email already and the teacher has mine... they've already used it to correspond with me before about work.....

Anyone in the same boat at the moment?

Also... could anyone give me some nice words to write in a card to let this teacher know how much they have inspired me?

Thanks a lot :redface:

Reply 1

thegreatstupendo

2

My advice - last lesson of the term, dress provocatively, flirt outrageously, make sure they remember you.....then seduce them on results day when you're no longer a pupil and they won't get in trouble!

eew.

Groan...jokes

roses are red, violets are blue
you're a fit teacher and id like to **** you

works everytime :wink:

Reply 4

hapa_girl

7

thegreatstupendo

My advice - last lesson of the term, dress provocatively, flirt outrageously, make sure they remember you.....then seduce them on results day when you're no longer a pupil and they won't get in trouble!

ditto

Reply 5

blurboy

1

thegreatstupendo

My advice - last lesson of the term, dress provocatively, flirt outrageously, make sure they remember you.....then seduce them on results day when you're no longer a pupil and they won't get in trouble!

this is a ****ing great idea! you're so gonna get rep from me for this! :biggrin:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Please... has anyone got any good advice? I feel really embarassed with everyone taking the mick :frown:

Reply 7

Skuu

10

Anonymous

Please... has anyone got any good advice? I feel really embarassed with everyone taking the mick :frown:

You're not allowed to have teacher-pupil relations for a reason, so don't make things difficult for the person by coming onto them. As said before, wait and see if they change profession, otherwise move on. Sounds like a difficult situation to handle but think about their profession before your infatuation. :redface:

I felt this was a bit harsh so here's something else I had in mind. If it becomes a real problem and you feel like exploding, find some time to have a sensible chat with the person about it. Once it's all out in the open you might both feel better.

Reply 8

StripeyGirl

I used to fancy a teacher too. I don't think it's a good idea to try and stay in touch/tell the teacher about your feelings 'cause it probably won't be returned and might end up being embarrassing. Write a letter telling your teacher how you feel about them, saying all the things you like about them and why they inspire you etc.....then tear it up. You'll feel so much better because you've got it out of your system and by tearing it up it sorta signifies that you're ending these feelings. Good luck :smile:

Reply 9

supernova2

11

Just give him a card on your leavign day if you want, you can make it nice and say how much he inspired you etc or you can go even further if you really want and tell him your true feelings. You should do it the day you get your results though and then bugger off b4 he reads it. And dont make a move on him though at all. If hes really that interested he'll email you :smile:

Reply 10

chamelean75

Well, after you graduate, you wont be a pupil anymore. I would say that if you think that your teacher might like you or you see any attraction of him/her to you, I'd say wait until after you get your grades and then write a letter, email or talk to the professor in person about your feelings. Since you are no longer a pupil and grades have been distributed, you will no longer be considered a teacher and pupil type of relationship. If you don't say anything, then well, you'll always remember and you may regret it for the rest of your life. The professor may never answer or ever contact you but at least you conveyed your feelings so that you can move on.

Reply 11

tanusha-tomsk

18

Well, I 'love' a few of my teachers, but 'love' like family, not your way. I will definitely keep in touch as I have with all of my teachers from the old school. You've got the e-mail, so that shouldn't be problem. And I think you might be mistaken about your feelings because you wasnt to be "like them" and that means you admire then greatly - people often admore their teachers. If you really fancied them you would want to be *with them*. But that's for you to sort out, I can only give you my opinion.

As for the card, only you can write one that's good enough. I gave a Christmas card to a teacher who is like a father to me that said: "Thank you for your kindness and support throughout the year. I hope your Christmas i a very special one, like you are to me." He really loved it. But practice it on a piece of paper first, think about what *you* want to say. By the way, I hope you are not at my school in Woodford Green and my teacher will not get a card from another student with the samt text! =P

Good luck!

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

I have the same kind of problem; but rather than just admiring my teacher I really want to be with them. I've felt this way for a long time but tried to forget about it because I knew it couldn't happen. But the teacher is clearly obsessed with me and we do seem to be perfectly matched - I get the impression he's desperately trying to show/tell me how he feels but is afraid he'll be rejected. He's been talking about quitting his job after this year and getting one somewhere else. What exactly are the rules on teacher-pupil relationships where the pupil is 18+? Should I tell him how I feel? I really don't want to wreck his career though. :frown:

Reply 13

sweetface.

There are 3 of my teachers who fancy me on my course at college, and it's making me feel really sick when i am in thier lessons. I can't wait untill i leave!

Reply 14

shyr_15

Anonymous

I have the same kind of problem; but rather than just admiring my teacher I really want to be with them. I've felt this way for a long time but tried to forget about it because I knew it couldn't happen. But the teacher is clearly obsessed with me and we do seem to be perfectly matched - I get the impression he's desperately trying to show/tell me how he feels but is afraid he'll be rejected. He's been talking about quitting his job after this year and getting one somewhere else. What exactly are the rules on teacher-pupil relationships where the pupil is 18+? Should I tell him how I feel? I really don't want to wreck his career though. :frown:

i think you should wait for him to tell you the real score. don't simply assume that he's obsessed with you. maybe he only likes you and sees you as one of his pupil, nothing more. don't do anything that might jeopardize his career. the time he quits his job would be the right time for you to consider having a relationship with him. you can tell him your feelings by that time.. good luck :smile:

Reply 15

IndigoRockGirl

11

Original post by Anonymous

Please don't all groan at once but it's another thread about teachers & pupils.

I am so infatuated with one of my college teachers at the moment it is unbelievable. I think it's stronger now the end of sixth form is drawing close... we're 4 teaching weeks away from the end of term.

This is where my problem is. I feel physically ill thinking about leaving college and this wonderful teacher who cares so much about my work and subject and is really beautiful and everything i want to be when i grow up.

It's really really upsetting me at the moment - these feelings are so strong they can really overwhelm me and distract me from work. I blush like crazy infront of this teacher and I'm sure they know I fancy them..

Anyway the point of this thread - how do i ask to stay in touch with this teacher and do you think it's a good idea? I've got their email already and the teacher has mine... they've already used it to correspond with me before about work.....

Anyone in the same boat at the moment?

Also... could anyone give me some nice words to write in a card to let this teacher know how much they have inspired me?

Thanks a lot :redface:

So what happened? x

Reply 16

nacho1996

2

I know it's been a few year since you made the post but I'm now interested to find out how did it end? Was it a happily ever after or did you move on?

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